"love is a war, in that both sides fight to retain as much of their indiviuality as possibile- all the while aware of their own tendacy to give into the other gender-SIMPLY BECAUSE-both genders LIVE for the other....to understand this is to solve the puzzle. maintain balance and you win the war"

I don't agree. AT. ALL. I live for the same gender

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i just remembered what site this was

Too convoluted. Plus you're talking about relationships, not love.

Byron said:

you know what, i knew that too, but ignored my better sense cuz love made it sound prettier ()...thanks

how so, "convoluted"...gramatically you mean?
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Never been "in love" so I can't tell you. But if your description is accurate that sounds like a whole lotta gotdamn work and I think I'll pass.

Real love ( to me ) is unconditional ...

the word war ?

I dunno I understand your point but I do not agree

SirPsycho said:

More in terms of logic...Is the "war" between two people, or is it a war that resides within each individual? Is love a "war" or is it a "puzzle"? War seems to indicate different factions fighting against each other. Puzzle seems to indicate making all the pieces fit into a coherent whole. And what is it that you win? The love of another? Peace within yourself? Both?

Mach said:

maybe i shoulda put romantic relationship....i agree that real love is unconditional....in fact, only unconditional love could provide the balance needed to weather the "storm" or "war" of relationships




(this all came from a convo with a female friend when we were talking about the needs of our respective genders and how they often clash)

Disagree.. its not a competition and I love that we are both so different

Don't like these kinds of threads from you.

Can you just post more pics of you instead?

I think Pat Benatar beat you to it by about 20 years.

SirPsycho said:

It does seem worded towards relationship

now this - "unconditional love could provide the balance needed to weather the "storm" or "war" of relationships" I will agree with 100%

Byron said:

good questions (methinks i posted too quickly)....

ok...i meant to point at a war between two genders...not necessarily a gruesome bloody violent war, but moreso a constant battle...

by puzzle, i meant the puzzle or challange of reaching equilibrium when both parties have needs which by design may be at odds with one another....and again...

my use of a "win" was just me sloppily reffering back to the war/puzzle analogy...but was intended to refer to peace with one another as well as withone ones' self by achiving equilibrium and finding that "sought after love"...










now that i layed it all out..you were damn right. thank you very much for that.
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JustErin said:

brain hurtin again?

REDFEATHERS said:

never find yourself in a power struggle? intended or not?

Mars23 said:

your good.

My marriage was a constant battle. A war I guess you could say. Each of us trying to retain what we thought was "right and fair". I think that happens when you either don't have or you lose the unconditional aspect of love. Or, one person is a control freak.

That was the case in my marriage.

No matter what it's a terrible way to live and love. Unconditional is just that--unconditional. If both people love this way then it's all good.

I prefer not to think too much about love and relationships these days. I just sort of go with the flow. I always, always, always try and treat my partner the way I'd want to be treated. That makes it easy.

If you have respect for your partner than why would you be at war with them?

SirPsycho said:

...I get you now, though ...

it's not an intended war or a battle waged against one another guys...

i meant more like a pre-existing struggle in nature.


but i know i didnt make that clear



keep em coming!

Sometimes it is like a war...especially in a marriage. No two people are the same so there naturally will be conflict. It's how you handle the differences that really makes it hard or easy in a relationship

Respect each other.

Byron said:

this must be how prince felt when he released

shanti0608 said:

Because men are dicks Oh wait, what would be the reason for warring with women? Let me cull through my past threads to see how many answers I can find

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yes SOME men are dicks and SOME women are bitches.

I have known several women that have liked to start wars with their spouses or boyfriends.
Respect goes both ways...it is not just a gender thing.

It is good to see that things don't change around here

mdiver said:

Welcome back meanie...

nice to have so many friends, isn't it????

shanti0608 said:

Sure is

REDFEATHERS said:

Agree.

SirPsycho said:

THAT'S what your post needed: occasional cheesy talking segments by Kirstie Alley.