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Fury said: do you have a hard time giving away/discarding items that belonged to a dceased loved one? i'm not referring to your usual stuff, but things you have absolutely no practical use for other than they belonged to your loved one. i'm cleaning the basement out at the family house and there's so much stuff of my mom's that i have no use for (her walker, her wheelchair, clothes she used to wear). i know the practical thing would be to donate it to charity or something like that, but it hasn't quite been a year yet, and i'm just not there yet.
Perhaps you should take a look at the sum of the items that belonged to your mom and pick the most important one(s) to keep, that way you can be practical and not hang onto stuff that has no use for you and you are also memorializing your mother in your life in a physical way. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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AlienX2050 said: Anxiety said: when my mom died last september, i had to clear out her apartment and it was difficult. fortunately, her friends helped me and i was able to divvy out lots of her belongings to people who would value them. also, a former co-worker of my mom's did me a huge favor by hauling out all her furniture and donating it to a needy family he knew.
i took a lot of my mom's stuff, though probably not as much as most people would keep. i set aside the things that meant something to me - the things that i felt defined our relationship. i kept all her vinyl records, a bunch of her books, a lot of her movies, and as much of her jewelry as i could find. my best friend even sorted out all her jewelry and paired up all her earrings and arranged everything nicely. i don't know what to do with some of the stuff but i know my mom's jewelry meant the world to her, so i couldn't just discard it. same with her records - some of them i'll keep, and some of them i'm thinking of selling or donating - but it's hard, because all the scratches and dog-eared covers came from years of my mom enjoying that music, and it's hard to just get rid of. i don't think there's any law saying you have to get rid of these things by a certain time. when it's okay to let go of it, you will. things like walkers, wheelchairs, etc. - i didn't want that stuff anywhere near me because it reminded me of my mom's suffering. that kind of stuff was easy to get rid of. but the things that brought her joy, those are the things that will be hanging around a long time.  I'm curious. Did your mom suffer from Cancer? I won't be offended if you didn't answer. I'm just wondering if there are orgers who lost someone to Cancer. . PRINCE IS WATCHING U  " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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