Mine weren't exactly planned. ..but I would suggest seeing ur doctor..making sure all ur immunisations are up to date and ask him/her if there is anything u should be taking (iron etc). And zombies right the 9 months is enough time to deal with it emotionally (well eithier that or u never will )

Thanks! I think we have decided that we will wait until next year. Not quite ready for all that goes with a baby just yet.

If it happens, it happens.
I will keep taking my vitamins though for now, it can't hurt.

Thanks to all of the mom's. Your great and it seems like you have done a wonderful job with your children. Gives me hope.....

shanti0608 said:

at what you said last night though.....i kinda think it would have been a boy

mdiver said:

Yes well I kind of think we have that part down alright. Lots of other things that go along with it though.
For now, let's enjoy the puppy.....like I said if we do well with him, maybe we might have a shot at being somewhat good parents.

shanti0608 said:

I have no doubt you will.....it's me i worry about

mdiver said:

No you have way more practice with the little ones than me...oh and you have more patience, remember???

shanti0608 said:

We discussed similar things last night...see how we are?

Both of u would make brilliant parents and I know that without a doubt
And if u ever needed baby advice....u've got a WHOLE ORG to harass and probably a ton of babysitters

I wouldnt stress too much about the age...my mother had my youngest sister at 41, and my aunt had her first child at 42...two years ago...she's pregnant again
Crazy woman

chillichocaholic said:

Thanks!!!!

Quite honestly though....I feel like I might be those ages by the time we are ready and finally make it happen. To me that is too old to have my first so I am torn a bit.

shanti0608 said:

ALot of women are having babies at that age these days, some of it because people are not getting married until their 30's and also because they have been busy with careers and things first. Apparently older women who have babies are often more financially stable...or something to that effect

chillichocaholic said:

Hmmm I guess that is true. I just am just thinking about the child having old parents as they grow up.

It is strange though, there was a time that I was more financially equipped to have a baby but I did not want one with the person I was with.
I never seem to get all of the pieces together at the same time.
I guess we shall see what the future holds.

Val stop worrying! Well not about the father of your baby...that's gonna be a problem but we will all be here for you


You will be a great mum!

AndGodCreatedMe said:

it will forever be a mystery!

That settles it..... I am sticking with having a dog.

Much easier and less stress!

shanti0608 said:

I reckon kids are easier in so many ways now I have a wonderful and adorable doggy of my own

ZombieKitten said:

I do not see how kids could be easier???? I can put my pup in a crate and leave to go to the store. I can't do that with a kid.
When I take Dylan out, I do not have to take a stroller and diaper bag....

I could go on I think.

shanti0608 said:

I don't know, but I put Maxie in the seat of the trolley in Safeway, and he says "Mummy I like you!!!!" REALLY LOUD and all the old ladies smile at us. Dogs can't give me that, sorry!!!

ZombieKitten said:

I have also heard stories of children saying "Mommy, who is that lady so fat?" really loudly in a store as well.

I am fine with the unconditional love of a pup for now. That and I do not have to buy him clothes that he constantly grows out of.

Kids sound expensive...

shanti0608 said:

my kids saw a midget lady and Oscar said "MUMMY!!! THAT LADY IS REALLY SMALL!!" priceless.

ZombieKitten said:

They say exactly what they think, don't they? I wish we could do that as adults.
That and having a screaming fit in the middle of a store, wouldn't that be fun if we could still do that?

shanti0608 said:

OK here is the secret to that one, TELL NOBODY

never EVER give in to their supermarket wishes, that way, NO does not = tantrum

Simple!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

That sounds good to me. Just like with a dog or a man really, never say yes or allow them to do anything that you do not want them to continue to do.

Nip it in the bud before it even starts.
Good to see that the same applies for men, dogs and children.

shanti0608 said:

mdiver said:

Oh trust me, I have not had a full blown temper tantrum in the store yet, keep it up and I will.

You knew before you married me that I HATE to shop.

shanti0608 said:

mdiver said:

Oh for goodness sake just get to the baby making will u please?

chillichocaholic said:

Ok.... you talked us into it.
As long as I do not have to go shopping to get pregnant, I am fine.

ZombieKitten said:

i once had to carry my daughter around the supermarket under my arm as i would not let her have the yoghurts she picked up (full of sugar). i had her wriggling under one arm & basket in the other.
she could not escape my vice like grip. i reckon that shame goes away for a while in situations like this. i was not giving in.

also as soon as you start having those doctors appointments, internals and the like, dignity takes a hike too.

angelcat said:

I know.... that scares me too!