ahh...I think I'm catching on...let me see if I got this straight...
MrsMdiver is Shanti? and shanti and mdiver were recently married? right?
well....if that's the case then Congratulations to you both!
I didn't plan my pregnancies down to the letter or anything but we did say ok...we are going to have a baby...let's stop preventing it from happening....which was a big step! I'd been on the pill for a LOOOOONG time so I figured it would take me a while to get pregnant (I actually thought I might not be able to have kids only because I'd only ever used the pill and never once had any pregnancy scares) well.... two months off the pill and I was pregnant. Only thing I really did to prepare was eating and drinking habits. I drank decaf coffee, lots of OJ (for the folic acid) took my prenatals (blah) moderately exercised. no alcohol or other fun substances. and Read books about being pregnant, I think one is called "everything you need to know about your pregnancy" (or something like that) and there's another one "everything you need to know about your baby's first year" These books are good for info but be careful to not get too hooked on what they say is expected.
We also had only a stand up shower in our house at the time so we renovated the bathroom and put in a tub. Prepared the babies room...painted it, and got a crib. Good thing about a first baby is friends and loved ones should throw you a shower where you'll get nearly 2 of everything you'll need for a long time.
As others have said, for a first child it's almost impossible to mentally prepare cause you don't know what to prepare for. It's life changing...it's awesome! for me...the first month was very hard, I was like...oh no, this was a big mistake! but then you see the light at the end of the tunnel, meaning you get 3 hours of consecutive sleep instead of 1 or 2 and you start to think ok...I can do this. Oh and I didn't want to be 8 months preggo in august so we kinda tried to avoid that and it worked my boys are january and february.
gee...long enough post? ok..all done.

i mis-carried an unplanned pregnancy & that led me to plan to have two.

there are 21 months between my two & thats the way we wanted it.

as far as advice, eat well, exercise & start taking folic acid.

good luck.

My pregnancies were of the unplanned sort.

The one thing I would do if I were to plan ahead would be to go to the best OB doc I could find and get pre-prenatal testing done to make sure everything is in order and that would include blood levels of nutrients so I would have optimum levels of everything for the baby.

Other than that, just enjoy the whole experience, it's wonderful!

MrsMdiver said:

You hit the nail on the head hun! I know people who plan their babies but honestly...you can never really be ready. You just have to go with the flow. Babies are a blessing, a gift, don't over think things. Just sit back and enjoy the ride.

Boriqua1130 said:

Ahhhhh the mention of twins freaks me out!!!!

Thanks Shorty, you got it right. We did just get married in April. So we were thinking of maybe trying next year. I was thinking like you that I would not get pregnant right away because of the pill. I am slightly concerned because I will be 38 next June. So if it takes too long to get pregnant than I will be that much older when I have one.

I do not want to be pregnant and 40!!!

Thanks Moni, Shelly and angel


I am also concerned because I currently do not have health insurance so to speak so I have not been to a dr regarding my female health yet since I have been here and I am overdue for a check up.

MrsMdiver said:

A "friend". SURE!

mdiver said:

I love you too. It's only logical.

HamsterHuey said:

Will you carry my child

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Hey, it is not me, I could give a shit about other ppl's weddings. When I decide to try to get pregnant I am not going to worry about everyone else for a change.

shanti0608 said:

Oh sweety! Take it easy on yourself. Stress is not good, for any body.
How about seeing it this way: If you guys only want two children, with twins you can stop planning for more.
Besides you are not alone in the path to parenthood.

mdiver said:

People already tell me I'm pregnant, so sure.

shanti0608 said:

well COOL! dang I was (pretty much) gone from the org for a year and 2 org marriges occured!
I say if you're worried about your age then why wait?!?! go for it! and if you have twins...hey...it's 2 kids one pregnancy and one labor...not a bad idea really. good luck

Shorty said:

BOING

shanti0608 said:

I've been counting down the days since seeing that picture of you holding that baby

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That was like 2 weeks after she got here


























Me too

Boriqua1130 said:

Well I am sort of alone, as far as family goes anyways. I always thought if I had a kid that my mom would be around. She will be in another country and I will have to get advice and encouragement through emails from her.

shanti0608 said:

that will suck! but...think of it this way....at least it's not regular mail you'll be waiting on.

Shorty said:

I am not so sure about that, she is not much for using the computer. I do try to call her every couple of weeks to say hi.

shanti0608 said:

oh...
well...she'll want to see pics of that lil grand baby so send em in e-mail and she'll have to log on.

Shorty said:

Yep. I am an only child that has never wanted kids before. So when she asked me about it and I said we were thinking about having one, she said it figures I decide now that I am 5000 miles away.
That will be the hardest part I think, well emotionally speaking.

shanti0608 said:

What I meant was, you have your husband to help you.

shanti0608 said:

If she can't visit, what's to stop you from taking the baby to her & the family?

I wish you & Mdiver the very best on the road to parenthood.

Boriqua1130 said:

Oh we will, in fact long term we will be back in the US.
Thankyou for your best wishes

Boriqua1130 said:

Thanks, if it is meant to be then it will happen for us someday.

mdiver said:

You're welcome. @)-}---- @)-}----

shanti0608 said:

You're welcome. @)-}---- @)-}----

Trust me you are never prepared for enough.

angelcat said:

oh yes don't forget!!!!