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I end up writing a letter cause it all comes out wrong in the heat of the moment | |
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ZombieKitten said: I end up writing a letter cause it all comes out wrong in the heat of the moment
Really? U write a letter to ur husband? Does that work ....or does he not really pay attention to it? | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: I end up writing a letter cause it all comes out wrong in the heat of the moment
Really? U write a letter to ur husband? Does that work ....or does he not really pay attention to it? he reads it in front of me, then makes notes in the margins and goes through it point by point with his point of view. The last time I did this was in August, when I really needed things to change or I could not take it any longer. Things have improved, but not straight away. It wasn't really a fight, but could have turned into one if I had simply confronted him and then heaped it all on him, one thing after the next. | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: Really? U write a letter to ur husband? Does that work ....or does he not really pay attention to it? he reads it in front of me, then makes notes in the margins and goes through it point by point with his point of view. The last time I did this was in August, when I really needed things to change or I could not take it any longer. Things have improved, but not straight away. It wasn't really a fight, but could have turned into one if I had simply confronted him and then heaped it all on him, one thing after the next. sorry but that cracked me up .....but I can see how it would be alot calmer way of prehaps resolving things ...without to many emotions and butting in getting involved | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: he reads it in front of me, then makes notes in the margins and goes through it point by point with his point of view. The last time I did this was in August, when I really needed things to change or I could not take it any longer. Things have improved, but not straight away. It wasn't really a fight, but could have turned into one if I had simply confronted him and then heaped it all on him, one thing after the next. sorry but that cracked me up .....but I can see how it would be alot calmer way of prehaps resolving things ...without to many emotions and butting in getting involved I live in fear of saying something that I won't be able to take back later. I know he is very used to fiery tempers and people blurting out things they don't mean when they are upset, but I think I WOULD say the things that I really mean, and that is the scary part. | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: sorry but that cracked me up .....but I can see how it would be alot calmer way of prehaps resolving things ...without to many emotions and butting in getting involved I live in fear of saying something that I won't be able to take back later. I know he is very used to fiery tempers and people blurting out things they don't mean when they are upset, but I think I WOULD say the things that I really mean, and that is the scary part. That sounds like u have a few things that u know if u said .... it could end the relationship but on the other hand not saying them doesn't get u anywhere eithier and keeps adding to the problem [Edited 7/11/08 22:33pm] | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: I live in fear of saying something that I won't be able to take back later. I know he is very used to fiery tempers and people blurting out things they don't mean when they are upset, but I think I WOULD say the things that I really mean, and that is the scary part. That sounds like u have a few things that u know if u said .... it could end the relationship but on the other hand not saying them doesn't get u anywhere eithier and keeps adding to the problem [Edited 7/11/08 22:33pm] yup like what if one day I don't feel like I love him and actually SAY it - DISASTER! Other days I DO love him | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: That sounds like u have a few things that u know if u said .... it could end the relationship but on the other hand not saying them doesn't get u anywhere eithier and keeps adding to the problem [Edited 7/11/08 22:33pm] yup like what if one day I don't feel like I love him and actually SAY it - DISASTER! Other days I DO love him | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: yup like what if one day I don't feel like I love him and actually SAY it - DISASTER! Other days I DO love him when he isn't here, I really resent him | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: As long as the other days that u do love him are still there then I say ur ok.....its when they disapear too that ur in trouble
when he isn't here, I really resent him So u don't love him when hes not there..thats a good sign ..at least its not while hes there | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: when he isn't here, I really resent him So u don't love him when hes not there..thats a good sign ..at least its not while hes there well it's just not very often | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: So u don't love him when hes not there..thats a good sign ..at least its not while hes there well it's just not very often Now was the for me or ur husband ..frankly I think I deserve it more | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: well it's just not very often Now was the for me or ur husband ..frankly I think I deserve it more it was for you the master is too tired for all that stuff | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: Now was the for me or ur husband ..frankly I think I deserve it more it was for you the master is too tired for all that stuff Lets keep it that way! | |
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Ocean said: pardonme4livin said: I am passionate about everything I do....from love making to arguing...sometimes in the same conversation....
I can yell...definately swear....debate...sulk.....damn I am a complicated fuckin guy.... U argue while making love ..is she telling u ur not doing it right Shut it you.... | |
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Ocean said: pardonme4livin said: I am passionate about everything I do....from love making to arguing...sometimes in the same conversation....
I can yell...definately swear....debate...sulk.....damn I am a complicated fuckin guy.... U argue while making love ..is she telling u ur not doing it right Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: he reads it in front of me, then makes notes in the margins and goes through it point by point with his point of view. The last time I did this was in August, when I really needed things to change or I could not take it any longer. Things have improved, but not straight away. It wasn't really a fight, but could have turned into one if I had simply confronted him and then heaped it all on him, one thing after the next. sorry but that cracked me up ..... I'm sorry, but that cracked me up, too lol ... | |
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I'll debate and talk and listen and over and over again - it takes me a while to get to the point of raising my voice, but when that happens - watch out!
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I don't, complete waste of time. I'm like the catholic church, I excommunicate. | |
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Ocean said: JustErin said: The worst I do these days is raise my voice a bit. Anything else is just not worth my energy. I'd rather talk shit through and if that's not going to happen then forget it.
Is that how u are when u madly in love with someone though ...or is it just like that because they and it is simply not worth the energy It's just the way I am now. Madly in love or not, I'm a talker, not a screamer and yeller. When two people are yelling, all heated, no one is listening...they are more concerned with saying what they feel they need to say. No one listens and thing gets resolved. I'm not interested in wasting time like that. | |
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JustErin said: Ocean said: Is that how u are when u madly in love with someone though ...or is it just like that because they and it is simply not worth the energy It's just the way I am now. Madly in love or not, I'm a talker, not a screamer and yeller. When two people are yelling, all heated, no one is listening...they are more concerned with saying what they feel they need to say. No one listens and thing gets resolved. I'm not interested in wasting time like that. | |
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Telepathy | |
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