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ZombieKitten said: Nothinbutjoy said: 1st  @ your new sig
2nd: Was your spell check comment in response to something you were looking at that she intended to use in her business? If not, your spell check comment may have come across as a bit of a low blow, especially if she's sensitive about her spelling. Have you told her your opinion about how bad spelling comes across to you in business? Not knowing the full situation, I don't know, but again, you'll work it out.  no it wasn't at all 
it was in response to a weird email she wrote to me about her being so business minded these days and not being able to attend my son's birthday 
she had worded it in a way that made me think she was deliberately impersonating our dad, who writes in a really strange pompous way 
we joked about the dad thing - she laughed and agreed, she said he writes like that to seem more business like, and since she was feeling very business-like at the time maybe that is also why she wrote it in such a wordy way. Which kind of got me thinking about business writing, and probably totally tactlessly asked about the spell checker Ouch. So apologize already  It only hurts for a second.
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ZombieKitten said: hokie said: Charlotte...
I just find that there are so misunderstandings in e-mails. You could mean something one way and the person receiving it could take it very differently. Maybe you could call her on the phone and try and talk to her about it. Maybe that would help her to hear that you were coming from a place of concern and not nastiness. I know   | |
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ZombieKitten said: Mach said: Sucks
I don't have any sisters Will you be my sister - you can tell me anytime that my spelling sucks Do you have a spell-checker Missy?  No
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Mach said: ZombieKitten said: Do you have a spell-checker Missy? No
but you are a good speller anyway | |
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Nothinbutjoy said: ZombieKitten said: no it wasn't at all
it was in response to a weird email she wrote to me about her being so business minded these days and not being able to attend my son's birthday
she had worded it in a way that made me think she was deliberately impersonating our dad, who writes in a really strange pompous way
we joked about the dad thing - she laughed and agreed, she said he writes like that to seem more business like, and since she was feeling very business-like at the time maybe that is also why she wrote it in such a wordy way. Which kind of got me thinking about business writing, and probably totally tactlessly asked about the spell checker Ouch. So apologize already It only hurts for a second.
I just tried calling her house but no answer, so I wrote her this: "I am really sorry, I totally did not mean this to be mean at all. I am not criticising you at all. You feeling business like just got me thinking on the topic of business writing. It occurred to me that you will be wanting to seem totally professional, right? You'll be dealing with potential and existing customers (what do I know, you might never actually communicate with them in emails) but their perception might be that carelessness in spelling or grammar means possible carelessness in other areas - which in your case is NOT true at all, but why give someone a bad impression when you don't need to? I wasn't giving you a passive aggressive low-blow by any means. I want you to succeed. I love you I am your sister, and I know how important this is to you and how excited you are by it all 
xxxx" | |
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ZombieKitten said: Mars23 said: As long as she's silent, she can't misspell anything.
I don't really care about her spelling myself, but she is starting a business, and will need to think of ways to give customers the impression she is a professional. To me, carelessness in spelling means potential carelessness in other areas too. That may not be true of course, but why give someone a bad impression if you don't need to? Why don't you just say that, but start off by saying..."I'm sorry if what I said came across the wrong way. I didn't mean to hurt your feelings but"....? In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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ZombieKitten said: Nothinbutjoy said: Ouch. So apologize already It only hurts for a second.
I just tried calling her house but no answer, so I wrote her this: "I am really sorry, I totally did not mean this to be mean at all. I am not criticising you at all. You feeling business like just got me thinking on the topic of business writing. It occurred to me that you will be wanting to seem totally professional, right? You'll be dealing with potential and existing customers (what do I know, you might never actually communicate with them in emails) but their perception might be that carelessness in spelling or grammar means possible carelessness in other areas - which in your case is NOT true at all, but why give someone a bad impression when you don't need to? I wasn't giving you a passive aggressive low-blow by any means. I want you to succeed. I love you I am your sister, and I know how important this is to you and how excited you are by it all
xxxx"   In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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ZombieKitten said: Mach said: No
but you are a good speller anyway Thanx U | |
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Sweeny79 said: ZombieKitten said: I just tried calling her house but no answer, so I wrote her this: "I am really sorry, I totally did not mean this to be mean at all. I am not criticising you at all. You feeling business like just got me thinking on the topic of business writing. It occurred to me that you will be wanting to seem totally professional, right? You'll be dealing with potential and existing customers (what do I know, you might never actually communicate with them in emails) but their perception might be that carelessness in spelling or grammar means possible carelessness in other areas - which in your case is NOT true at all, but why give someone a bad impression when you don't need to? I wasn't giving you a passive aggressive low-blow by any means. I want you to succeed. I love you I am your sister, and I know how important this is to you and how excited you are by it all
xxxx" it says what I mean I think - I hope she will understand I'm not so good getting out straight what I mean when I say it not write it I'm quite prone to saying things all wrong and making it even worse  | |
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Mach said: ZombieKitten said: but you are a good speller anyway Thanx U your wellcom | |
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ZombieKitten said: Sweeny79 said: it says what I mean I think - I hope she will understand I'm not so good getting out straight what I mean when I say it not write it I'm quite prone to saying things all wrong and making it even worse Sounds good to me. I don't see how she could get angry at that. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Anxiety said: Efan said: Quiet nasty is really a great way to be, when you think about it.
the quiet nasty is preferable when you have company staying the night. Indeed | |
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when people go silent on you it's because they know you are right. it's vile powerplay. yes SIR! | |
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Sweeny79 said: ZombieKitten said: I just tried calling her house but no answer, so I wrote her this: "I am really sorry, I totally did not mean this to be mean at all. I am not criticising you at all. You feeling business like just got me thinking on the topic of business writing. It occurred to me that you will be wanting to seem totally professional, right? You'll be dealing with potential and existing customers (what do I know, you might never actually communicate with them in emails) but their perception might be that carelessness in spelling or grammar means possible carelessness in other areas - which in your case is NOT true at all, but why give someone a bad impression when you don't need to? I wasn't giving you a passive aggressive low-blow by any means. I want you to succeed. I love you I am your sister, and I know how important this is to you and how excited you are by it all
xxxx" Agreed. | |
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dawntreader said: when people go silent on you it's because they know you are right. it's vile powerplay.
I really hit her sore point though! it's something she is embarrassed about, I should have been more tactful | |
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ZombieKitten said: dawntreader said: when people go silent on you it's because they know you are right. it's vile powerplay.
I really hit her sore point though! it's something she is embarrassed about, I should have been more tactful hope all turned out ok again... yes SIR! | |
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ZombieKitten said: dawntreader said: when people go silent on you it's because they know you are right. it's vile powerplay.
I really hit her sore point though! it's something she is embarrassed about, I should have been more tactful uh-oh sounds like you're starting to beat yourself up about it. Was it your intention to hurt her feelings? I'm guessing no, so don't sweat it. I always try to go back to my intentions...if my intention was good then it's on them. Not to say I don't sometimes try to explain myself or appologize but really if you meant no harm then you meant no harm. I'm sometimes glad I don't have a sister. "not a fan"  yeah...ok | |
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chillichocaholic said: ZombieKitten said: I will be getting the silent treatment from my sister.
I asked her if she had a spell-checker in her email software. "dident ask for any criticism thanks, you sure can come across quiet nasty some times" got this in reply  Geez I get people saying things like that all the time to me...because we all know chilli is dyslexic when it comes to a keyboard
Maybe she's just having a sensitive moment  I wouldnt call what u said nasty
I told one of my bothers he types like our baby sister ( she does the teenage thing of typing "Wot" and so on 
So he told me I was looking more like our aunt Rosalie every day
Just tell her u love her despite her Dyslexia Chilli, First thing is first, you understand typos! You understand mine in chat and I suck at it YOU KNOW THIS FOR A FACT! I wont deny it either I suck!lol
Second, she needs to lighten up dear if you can understand her typos and she can understand yours as well WHY get all up in a fluffernutter about it ( my new word I love it hehe). Third that is ONLY MY opinion :nana; Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song 
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One of my best friends is a really blunt type of person who says what he thinks and screw the consequences. After hanging around him for so many years (we went to grade school together), it's certainly rubbed off on me. So, if it was me, I would have said what you did, and if they got pissy about it then I'd just let them deal with it until they've calmed down about the whole situation and it's blown over. Life is too stressful worrying about what other people may think of the truth and their inability to handle it when it's given to them.
However, I do think your note afterwards was a nice gesture, but don't dwell on it if you are. It's not worth it.  | |
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ZombieKitten said: I will be getting the silent treatment from my sister.
I asked her if she had a spell-checker in her email software. "dident ask for any criticism thanks, you sure can come across quiet nasty some times" got this in reply oh hay, thats two bad i hopes you too can fixes things up betweens ya
ps: um, seriously, i hope you can work things out. [Edited 7/10/08 8:24am] | |
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She's just being sensitive - just tell her you're sorry if you hurt her feelings. Things like this happen with my sisters all the time. | |
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ZombieKitten said: Nothinbutjoy said: Ouch. So apologize already It only hurts for a second.
I just tried calling her house but no answer, so I wrote her this: "I am really sorry, I totally did not mean this to be mean at all. I am not criticising you at all. You feeling business like just got me thinking on the topic of business writing. It occurred to me that you will be wanting to seem totally professional, right? You'll be dealing with potential and existing customers (what do I know, you might never actually communicate with them in emails) but their perception might be that carelessness in spelling or grammar means possible carelessness in other areas - which in your case is NOT true at all, but why give someone a bad impression when you don't need to? I wasn't giving you a passive aggressive low-blow by any means. I want you to succeed. I love you I am your sister, and I know how important this is to you and how excited you are by it all
xxxx" PERFECT!!! I'm firmly planted in denial |
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ZombieKitten said: Sweeny79 said: it says what I mean I think - I hope she will understand I'm not so good getting out straight what I mean when I say it not write it I'm quite prone to saying things all wrong and making it even worse We must be twins somehow.
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| wtf??
my excellent DNA thread gets 4 replies and charlottes sister is a bad speller gets loads and loads and loads. man zombie you are worshipped on this site! | |
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jonylawson said: wtf??
my excellent DNA thread gets 4 replies and charlottes sister is a bad speller gets loads and loads and loads. man zombie you are worshipped on this site! That is because Zombie ROCKS!  Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song
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toots said: jonylawson said: wtf??
my excellent DNA thread gets 4 replies and charlottes sister is a bad speller gets loads and loads and loads. man zombie you are worshipped on this site! That is because Zombie ROCKS! there is no justice..wait till i get my hands on zombie.....  | |
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jonylawson said: toots said: That is because Zombie ROCKS! there is no justice..wait till i get my hands on zombie..... so you got your tickets yet or what? 
this time you will be down here over a weekend, yeah? | |
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toots said: jonylawson said: wtf??
my excellent DNA thread gets 4 replies and charlottes sister is a bad speller gets loads and loads and loads. man zombie you are worshipped on this site! That is because Zombie ROCKS!  [Edited 7/13/08 18:01pm] | |
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hokie said: Charlotte...
I just find that there are so misunderstandings in e-mails. You could mean something one way and the person receiving it could take it very differently. Maybe you could call her on the phone and try and talk to her about it. Maybe that would help her to hear that you were coming from a place of concern and not nastiness. But what if she really was coming from a place of nastiness?  Have we actually clarified that Zombie isn't in fact 'quiet nasty'?
Zombie, I think she's already decided what you're like so you should send back an e-mail saying 'Oh, fuck you!'
You can orgnote me if you need any further sage advice about anything. | |
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Fauxie said: hokie said: Charlotte...
I just find that there are so misunderstandings in e-mails. You could mean something one way and the person receiving it could take it very differently. Maybe you could call her on the phone and try and talk to her about it. Maybe that would help her to hear that you were coming from a place of concern and not nastiness. But what if she really was coming from a place of nastiness? Have we actually clarified that Zombie isn't in fact 'quiet nasty'?
Zombie, I think she's already decided what you're like so you should send back an e-mail saying 'Oh, fuck you!'
You can orgnote me if you need any further sage advice about anything. If only I was always saying stuff like that, then I wouldn't hesitate to say it. I know she will be calling up my parents and 
and I really NEED them to babysit for 2-3 weeks next year | |
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