I will be getting the silent treatment from my sister.



I asked her if she had a spell-checker in her email software.

"dident ask for any criticism thanks, you sure can come across quiet nasty some times"

got this in reply

As long as she's silent, she can't misspell anything.

tell her if she lightens up you'll knit her a block of tofu.

Quiet nasty is really a great way to be, when you think about it.

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

the quiet nasty is preferable when you have company staying the night.

ZombieKitten said:

Geez I get people saying things like that all the time to me...because we all know chilli is dyslexic when it comes to a keyboard
Maybe she's just having a sensitive moment I wouldnt call what u said nasty
I told one of my bothers he types like our baby sister ( she does the teenage thing of typing "Wot" and so on
So he told me I was looking more like our aunt Rosalie every day
Just tell her u love her despite her Dyslexia

Mars23 said:

I don't really care about her spelling myself, but she is starting a business, and will need to think of ways to give customers the impression she is a professional. To me, carelessness in spelling means potential carelessness in other areas too. That may not be true of course, but why give someone a bad impression if you don't need to?

Anxiety said:

my mum knitted her a cell phone

chillichocaholic said:

I'm sure she is sensitive about her spelling

Anxiety said:

or if you have kids in the house

Anxiety said:

lol it's impossible for me to be quiet and nasty

Is this typical for your sister? What I mean is, is she sensitive to criticism? (sp? )

My younger sister is something else. She'll ask me to critique (sp??) something and then get mad if I point out a problem. I mean almost hold your breath...stomp your feet childish fit mad.

I just throw that out there because I'm in a similar situation w/ my sis.

Anywho...it sucks. If my sister said something to me like you're responded to your spell check comment, it would depend on my day, mood ect...on how I would respond.



She's your sister though...you'll work it out.

ZombieKitten said:

Maybe you can write her back and tell her that you weren't trying to hurt her feelings, but were looking out for her interests. She DOES need to seem professional.

emm said:

you could always put a really loud air conditioner in the guest room, i suppose.

hokie said:

true enough. tell her the biggest big whig in the corner office still uses spell check. it's just what you do when you are writing business emails.

Anxiety said:

I want one.

ZombieKitten said:

Well did you explain that to her - sounds like you were trying to help and she may not know that

Nothinbutjoy said:

The problem is more to it than it seems on the surface, you know, the whole HISTORY. I think she is always trying somehow to impress me and constantly seeks my approval. It makes me very uncomfortable, and is probably a source of some anxiety for her when I don't/can't give her that gushing praise (or whatever reaction it is she is expecting )

if anyone shouldn't give her criticism it's me, I think it would be OK for someone else to tell her, just not me

ZombieKitten said:

1st @ your new sig

2nd: Was your spell check comment in response to something you were looking at that she intended to use in her business? If not, your spell check comment may have come across as a bit of a low blow, especially if she's sensitive about her spelling.

Have you told her your opinion about how bad spelling comes across to you in business?

Not knowing the full situation, I don't know, but again, you'll work it out.

Mach said:

it really seems to me she thinks I was saying it just to be mean to her, no bad intentions on my part at all.
She didn't reply back when I said I was only trying to help.

ZombieKitten said:

I COMPLETELY understand that.

emm said:

If I have to be, I can be a ninja of nasty.

ZombieKitten said:

Sucks

I don't have any sisters

Will you be my sister - you can tell me anytime that my spelling sucks

Efan said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

no it wasn't at all
it was in response to a weird email she wrote to me about her being so business minded these days and not being able to attend my son's birthday
she had worded it in a way that made me think she was deliberately impersonating our dad, who writes in a really strange pompous way
we joked about the dad thing - she laughed and agreed, she said he writes like that to seem more business like, and since she was feeling very business-like at the time maybe that is also why she wrote it in such a wordy way. Which kind of got me thinking about business writing, and probably totally tactlessly asked about the spell checker

Mach said:

Do you have a spell-checker Missy?

you should tell her she's lucky that she only needs a spell checker and not a SMELL checker. when she thinks about that she'll realize you're right and that might cool her jets a little bit.

Charlotte...

I just find that there are so misunderstandings in e-mails. You could mean something one way and the person receiving it could take it very differently. Maybe you could call her on the phone and try and talk to her about it.

Maybe that would help her to hear that you were coming from a place of concern and not nastiness.

hokie said:

I know