If I am in love I can not be attracted to another person.

Are you the same? Is this just a woman thing?


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i only want my husband!

kimrachell said:

I did too! (mine I mean ) for the first 10 years

kimrachell said:

Exactly, when I am in love with someone its like I have blinders on and can't notice anyone else.

paintedlady said:

so when that wears off, then what?

ZombieKitten said:

First ten years?
What cha talkin' "bout willis?

You two are a sexy couple

ZombieKitten said:

I don't know... I guess I never gotten that far yet.

paintedlady said:

we been together now for close to 14 years it wore off ages ago

ZombieKitten said:

well, we've been together 6 years so far....and i've only wanted him since i first saw him...it was instant attraction and love for me! i'm a very loyal person, so i'm not worried!

kimrachell said:

I wasn't either!!!

paintedlady said:

it's a scary place to be

The answer to your question anyway, if you are truly in love, you are oblivious to anyone else.

at least that is how it is for me

ZombieKitten said:

but you won't cheat.... is that because real love has set in? You know the same kind you have for family... they urk you but you can't see yourself without them?

ZombieKitten said:

that's sad! you grew apart?

kimrachell said:

Do all couples go through this in time?

kimrachell said:

we are fine when we work towards a common goal - like the wedding, buying a house, having a baby (x3) which has taken up that first 10 year period. At the moment there isn't anything we are working toward together, just kind of coasting along busy with our own individual projects/problems

ZombieKitten said:

Maybe that's why many families need vacations to pull back and reconnect so to speak. Or even doing projects together... like fixing that cute car you own or home improvement project.

ZombieKitten said:

When I am in a serious committed relationship I am not interested in anyone else...I notice hot guys, but I don't wanna get with them.

JustErin said:

I wonder if men think the same way, or is it just us ladies that are like this?

paintedlady said:

I don't even NOTICE the hot guys

guys NEVER stop noticing I'm willing to bet

ZombieKitten said:

I think so too...and where are the men?

paintedlady said:

they are staying WELL away from this one for their own safety
imagine if I started a thread that said "do these pants make me look fat?" they will get a cold sweat, knowing whatever they say will be wrong and they will be spending the night on the couch

ZombieKitten said:

Gotcha

Someone asked for a guy's perspective. Here's mine:

You can be in love and find another fine. You could even find her exciting and dangerous and such. To the point that you start asking yourself hard questions about life, decisions and so on.

Just because you're in love with someone doesn't mean you go blind and stop noticing other women.

If anything, when you love a woman enough to start sacrificing stuff for her and devoting real money to building something with her, shoooot... that's right about the time the "others" start jumping out the woodwork.






"And, you know this .... MAN!!!"

men are totally different to us

I KNEW it

^^ LMAO @ that. Thanks for your honesty. Good points.
When it rains it pours huh?

paintedlady said:

The stories I could tell ya. My twenties and early thirties were a straight-up romantic comedy. My best buddy keeps trying to get me to write about it.

And, it wasn't like a "How to Be a Player" thing. It was romantic comedy.

ThreadBare said:

So would you say that men probably need to work harder at staying in a relationship?

Even when I'm in a serious relationship I can still appreciate the beauty of another man. It doesn't mean that I want to be with the other man, just that I like looking at him.

There are many men who I find physically attractive but have no sexual/romantic interest in.

When people say things like "I only have eyes for my significant other!" I tend to think they are lying. In fact, I know they are. Because even if you are with the finest man in the world, there is always that one celebrity or whatever who you think it hot. It's normal.