Sorry I get all those balls confused.

Yay home improvement it is! While we work. Then we will have fun when we're done!

Okay, here's the situation: my family and I are going to Pennsylvania at the end of this month to attend a family reunion on my father's side. I'm not too thrilled about it, since I don't see these people very often (just once a year, if I'm lucky). Not only that, the reunions are kinda boring.

But the real kicker is the day after my father's family reunion, my cousin (on my mom's side of the family) wants to have a gathering at her house. This cousin that I mentioned used to be very close to me, and I to her, but our relationship has changed a lot. She used to be someone who I could tell anything and everything too, but my feelings for her have drastically changed. My cousin has talked about me several times behind my back to my brothers, which I'm still not happy about. Long story short, she's a backstabbing, gossipy bitch who cannot be trusted. I don't want to go to her house, because I really don't like her, and I can't stand there and smile at her, acting like everything is okay, when it isn't. I just can't be fake about it, since it's not my style to be phony. I like to be honest and true to my feelings.

So am I in the wrong for not wanting to go to my cousin's house? I know the rest of my immediate family will be there (my parents and my brothers with their families), but I will see them a couple of days afterwards. We are going to a baseball game, so it's not like I won't be seeing my family at all.
[Edited 7/8/08 18:59pm]

psychodelicide said:

eye would have a nice long tlk with her if eye wer u.
j/k just b honest & tell her how u feel about it

dseann said:

Exactly!!! Your family sounds a lot like mine.

psychodelicide said:

It's sad but we can't have everything.

Just talked to my mom on the phone, and she is already try to guilt trip me into going to this reunion. I told her that I may have to work, and could not get off from my job (even though she's telling me to let my employer know, so I could take the time off). What the heck, I just started at this new job (my first day was today). I'm not going to be asking for time off already, and I told my mom that. I told her, "Well, my job comes first, and I need the money. I wouldn't feel right taking time off when I just started working there. I gotta do what I gotta do." But I am NOT backing down, even though she said to me, "Well, everybody is going to be disappointed." I felt like saying, "Well, everybody will just have to get over it." See what I go through all over a silly reunion that I have no interest in attending? I wish my family were the type of people who didn't give a shit about reunions, but unfortunately they do. They act like it's the most important thing in the world.

psychodelicide said:

Try explaining that you'll be disappointed too but you just can't attend. I've been doing this for years, the lies just flow too fucking easily for me. Come on adapt to the situation.

dseann said:

Yeah, I know what you mean about the lies coming easy, I find that I can do the same thing with my family.

psychodelicide said:

And how does it make you feel knowing that they know you're lying?

dseann said:

Not good, but I don't always think they know that I'm not being honest. I think I've become pretty good at lying and covering up the truth, because I know my family doesn't want me telling them straight out, "No, I just don't want to go". Their reaction would be, "Why not? It's your family! You should go!"

psychodelicide said:

With me it's gotten to a point where they know I'm lying but they keep trying anyway. It's a shame but that's the way it is for me.

dseann said:

Wow, you would think that your family would get the message that you're not interested in going.

psychodelicide said:

That's what I mean when I say they kill me with guilt.

dseann said:

I'm with ya on that! My family is the exact same way. It's like our families forget that we're grown now, and old enough to make our own decisions about whether we want to go to family gatherings or not.

psychodelicide said:

Co-sign on that.