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PrintableZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: no reincarnation? i can make my own pancakes.  I make really good ones, though they would be crepes actually  with strawberries? | |
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JasmineFire said: ThreadBare said: You think reincarnation's knocked, you should see the wrap snakes get in most churches... j/k I make a mean dinner. and i can order out with the skill of a professional. i don't wanna go to church!  I have those questionnaires in PDF form I could send you you two should seriously sit down and compare answers, NOW  | |
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JasmineFire said: ThreadBare said: You think reincarnation's knocked, you should see the wrap snakes get in most churches... j/k I make a mean dinner. and i can order out with the skill of a professional. i don't wanna go to church! Wehhh! | |
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JasmineFire said: ZombieKitten said: I make really good ones, though they would be crepes actually with strawberries? we just ate a whole punnet over here 
I really like an apricot sauce actually! or black cherry jam | |
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ZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: and i can order out with the skill of a professional. i don't wanna go to church! I have those questionnaires in PDF form I could send you you two should seriously sit down and compare answers, NOW  | |
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ZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: with strawberries? we just ate a whole punnet over here
I really like an apricot sauce actually! or black cherry jam | |
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ZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: and i can order out with the skill of a professional. i don't wanna go to church! I have those questionnaires in PDF form I could send you you two should seriously sit down and compare answers, NOW  I LOVE questionnaires! | |
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ThreadBare said: ZombieKitten said: I have those questionnaires in PDF form I could send you you two should seriously sit down and compare answers, NOW I LOVE questionnaires!because you are confident you know all the right answers? 
there are no rights and wrongs in these, just an opportunity to see you and your potential spouse's differences, which can also be complementary | |
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ZombieKitten said: ThreadBare said: I LOVE questionnaires!because you are confident you know all the right answers?
there are no rights and wrongs in these, just an opportunity to see you and your potential spouse's differences, which can also be complementary Hah!
 No.
Because they're thought-provoking. | |
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ZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: That's the kind of stuff I notice. I'm similar to you in that in order to be truly attracted to someone, I have to know them and click with them on a certain level. That kind of true attraction is rare for me. However, I don't need to get to know a man who looks good in his jeans when all I want to do is look at him in his jeans. He may be a jerk but that really doesn't matter to me because I'm not really interested in getting to know him when I have a perfectly good man at home. It's possible the male form doesn't really do it for me anyway, so an attractive guy would rarely even catch my attention, it might be more the way he moves, or the context I imagine him in. I have a group of guy friends that I love dearly, and we click on many levels, and have the best fun, but am I attracted to any of them? nope
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paintedlady said: If I am in love I can not be attracted to another person.
Are you the same? Is this just a woman thing? spell edit 
[Edited 7/1/08 21:44pm] .. that's just it... if your heart is in love .. then no, others wont phase you... you can find other people attractive, sure... there's handsome guys all over, but your heart can only belong to one... and if u're in a relationship and your eyes are 'wandering' .. well i dont think 'your heart' is 'in love' .. u can care about a person u're in a relationship with and you can 'love' them..... but 'being in love' with a person is a whole other story... | |
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When I'm in love I'm not interested in other women, but when I start losing interest in her it's like I can finally see again and I start noticing all these fine women. There might be a very confusing time when I'm interested in more than one woman at the same time. I don''t just fall out of love all of a sudden and stop having feelings for this person. It's something that goes graduately. | |
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ZombieKitten said: kimrachell said: i only want my husband!
 I did too! (mine I mean ) for the first 10 years
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ZombieKitten said: paintedlady said: I think so too...and where are the men? they are staying WELL away from this one for their own safety imagine if I started a thread that said "do these pants make me look fat?" they will get a cold sweat, knowing whatever they say will be wrong and they will be spending the night on the couch  I'm getting there! | |
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| to all that ZK said
to most that TB said. | |
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Love is not a relationship.
Love is a state of being. -Goofy- "LOVE YOURSELF AS ALL PEOPLE" | |
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Flowerz said: paintedlady said: If I am in love I can not be attracted to another person.
Are you the same? Is this just a woman thing? spell edit
[Edited 7/1/08 21:44pm] .. that's just it... if your heart is in love .. then no, others wont phase you... you can find other people attractive, sure... there's handsome guys all over, but your heart can only belong to one... and if u're in a relationship and your eyes are 'wandering' .. well i dont think 'your heart' is 'in love' .. u can care about a person u're in a relationship with and you can 'love' them..... but 'being in love' with a person is a whole other story... very true! | |
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 Yes, I found that you and/or me could be in love with someone else and still have another lover(s) just that there is often times trouble and that person(s) baggage that goes along with the game. It certianly not an easy thing to pull off in the circumstance that if you and/or your partner both know or suspect that there is someone else intimately involved, unless you're down with it and so is everyone else concerned. - John[color=green][/color] | |
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MrsMdiver said: Flowerz said: .. that's just it... if your heart is in love .. then no, others wont phase you... you can find other people attractive, sure... there's handsome guys all over, but your heart can only belong to one... and if u're in a relationship and your eyes are 'wandering' .. well i dont think 'your heart' is 'in love' .. u can care about a person u're in a relationship with and you can 'love' them..... but 'being in love' with a person is a whole other story... very true! so what are you supposed to do then?  being "in love" lasts a finite amount of time. Once that wears off, you need to really work hard at it. And according to some, if you have to work so hard at it, it isn't real love. So why bother?
People claim all sorts of things, that they are so in love it will last forever etc, and feel sorry for anyone who can't attain that same level of bliss. I guess they will wake up in a few years, just as disillusioned as the rest of us. | |
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ZombieKitten said: MrsMdiver said: very true! so what are you supposed to do then? being "in love" lasts a finite amount of time. Once that wears off, you need to really work hard at it. And according to some, if you have to work so hard at it, it isn't real love. So why bother?
People claim all sorts of things, that they are so in love it will last forever etc, and feel sorry for anyone who can't attain that same level of bliss. I guess they will wake up in a few years, just as disillusioned as the rest of us.I think the mistake that many of us make is to think that we do not have to work at it from the very beginning. We think it should be easy and just work. I think that if something starts out too easy and too good to be true then it usually is. Love changes and grows if two ppl work at it from the very beginning. I have known ppl to be in love with their partners for a very long time and I have known ppl to fall out of love very quickly. Just depends on the levels of the love that you have for the person to start with. If you start out thinking it is always going to be wonderful and easy, you are going to be let down the moment you hit a rough patch. I think for me, being through some serious crap as far as relationships go, I have learned a lot along the way. I have failed, ppl have failed me, I have lived and I have learned. It makes me appreciate the good times and try harder when the tough times come. It takes work, just like raising children or having your own business. It is a partnership. Love is not easy but it is so worth it if you find what you truly want and what you truly need in a partner. | |
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MrsMdiver said: ZombieKitten said: so what are you supposed to do then? being "in love" lasts a finite amount of time. Once that wears off, you need to really work hard at it. And according to some, if you have to work so hard at it, it isn't real love. So why bother?
People claim all sorts of things, that they are so in love it will last forever etc, and feel sorry for anyone who can't attain that same level of bliss. I guess they will wake up in a few years, just as disillusioned as the rest of us.I think the mistake that many of us make is to think that we do not have to work at it from the very beginning. We think it should be easy and just work. I think that if something starts out too easy and too good to be true then it usually is. Love changes and grows if two ppl work at it from the very beginning. I have known ppl to be in love with their partners for a very long time and I have known ppl to fall out of love very quickly. Just depends on the levels of the love that you have for the person to start with. If you start out thinking it is always going to be wonderful and easy, you are going to be let down the moment you hit a rough patch. I think for me, being through some serious crap as far as relationships go, I have learned a lot along the way. I have failed, ppl have failed me, I have lived and I have learned. It makes me appreciate the good times and try harder when the tough times come. It takes work, just like raising children or having your own business. It is a partnership. Love is not easy but it is so worth it if you find what you truly want and what you truly need in a partner. would that mean that you can attain that level of bliss with any person that is prepared to work with you ?? I imagine both partners need to be on the same page, but it wouldn't really require butterflies and such to start off. | |
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BlueZebra said: MrsMdiver said: I think the mistake that many of us make is to think that we do not have to work at it from the very beginning. We think it should be easy and just work. I think that if something starts out too easy and too good to be true then it usually is. Love changes and grows if two ppl work at it from the very beginning. I have known ppl to be in love with their partners for a very long time and I have known ppl to fall out of love very quickly. Just depends on the levels of the love that you have for the person to start with. If you start out thinking it is always going to be wonderful and easy, you are going to be let down the moment you hit a rough patch. I think for me, being through some serious crap as far as relationships go, I have learned a lot along the way. I have failed, ppl have failed me, I have lived and I have learned. It makes me appreciate the good times and try harder when the tough times come. It takes work, just like raising children or having your own business. It is a partnership. Love is not easy but it is so worth it if you find what you truly want and what you truly need in a partner. would that mean that you can attain that level of bliss with any person that is prepared to work with you ?? I imagine both partners need to be on the same page, but it wouldn't really require butterflies and such to start off. in the beginning you just don't care about anything else but the bliss!!! that is the problem | |
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BlueZebra said: MrsMdiver said: I think the mistake that many of us make is to think that we do not have to work at it from the very beginning. We think it should be easy and just work. I think that if something starts out too easy and too good to be true then it usually is. Love changes and grows if two ppl work at it from the very beginning. I have known ppl to be in love with their partners for a very long time and I have known ppl to fall out of love very quickly. Just depends on the levels of the love that you have for the person to start with. If you start out thinking it is always going to be wonderful and easy, you are going to be let down the moment you hit a rough patch. I think for me, being through some serious crap as far as relationships go, I have learned a lot along the way. I have failed, ppl have failed me, I have lived and I have learned. It makes me appreciate the good times and try harder when the tough times come. It takes work, just like raising children or having your own business. It is a partnership. Love is not easy but it is so worth it if you find what you truly want and what you truly need in a partner. would that mean that you can attain that level of bliss with any person that is prepared to work with you ?? I imagine both partners need to be on the same page, but it wouldn't really require butterflies and such to start off. Yes you need to be on the same page..I think. At least with me, I need someone that communicates with me. | |
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ZombieKitten said: BlueZebra said: would that mean that you can attain that level of bliss with any person that is prepared to work with you ?? I imagine both partners need to be on the same page, but it wouldn't really require butterflies and such to start off. in the beginning you just don't care about anything else but the bliss!!! that is the problemBliss is great and it comes in many forms. I guess I have just had more luck with relationships that encouraged me to work and really communicate from the very beginning. If someone communicates with me and is on the same page as me then everything else seems to fit and fall into place. Especially the sex and the intimacy. | |
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Okay, I think I need to throw up now... | |
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ZombieKitten said: BlueZebra said: would that mean that you can attain that level of bliss with any person that is prepared to work with you ?? I imagine both partners need to be on the same page, but it wouldn't really require butterflies and such to start off. in the beginning you just don't care about anything else but the bliss!!! that is the problemI would imagine, if it were true love (  ) the bliss wouldn't wear off.
but as that's already said, isn't monogamy a fucked up concept in todays society ?? | |
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eikonoklastes said: Okay, I think I need to throw up now...
feel free... it is an open forum. Do as you please. | |
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BlueZebra said: ZombieKitten said: in the beginning you just don't care about anything else but the bliss!!! that is the problemI would imagine, if it were true love the bliss wouldn't wear off . but as that's already said, isn't monogamy a fucked up concept in todays society ?? I really think that misconception is a huge part in the downfall of many otherwise successful long-term relationships. I really believe it wears off, no matter who you are with, all it does is make you look for someone else, thinking it will be better with that person, when really if you do it the same way again, without work, it will wear off again. | |
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BlueZebra said: ZombieKitten said: in the beginning you just don't care about anything else but the bliss!!! that is the problemI would imagine, if it were true love ( ) the bliss wouldn't wear off.
but as that's already said, isn't monogamy a fucked up concept in todays society ?? It takes communication. If you are not up for the work then you should not commit. If you think that everyday will be bliss then you will be let down and disappointed. | |
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ZombieKitten said: BlueZebra said: I would imagine, if it were true love the bliss wouldn't wear off . but as that's already said, isn't monogamy a fucked up concept in todays society ?? I really think that misconception is a huge part in the downfall of many otherwise successful long-term relationships. I really believe it wears off, no matter who you are with, all it does is make you look for someone else, thinking it will be better with that person, when really if you do it the same way again, without work, it will wear off again. exactly. Hollywood fucked up our view on Love
so it really would be better to just fuck around, without commitment, enjoy the short moments of bliss If only I had known earlier | |
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