My husband of 31 years reconnected with his high school girlfriend at their 40th high school reunion last year. He had an affair for a year before he told me and left me and his family a few weeks ago. All our friends and families are shocked and we are totally heartbroken. All of you writing on this website, please be aware of what you are doing to your families when you try to reconnect with your lost loves. We raised 3 wonderful sons and had what everyone thought was the perfect marriage. That is not to say that there were not tough times, but that is what I thought made our marriage stronger. My husband NEVER told me he was unhappy until he was already involved with her. She divorced her husband of 37 years and had the nerve to move within 5 miles of my house while having this affair. I called her when he told me about the affair and asked her to stop seeing him while we were in marriage counseling. She was rude and told me in no uncertain terms that she wasn't going anywhere. When I asked her to consider our sons, she told me she didn't care about our children. I don't understand how he could be with any woman who would say that. When I married him he had a six year old son who I welcomed into my life. I had a hard time competing with a fantasy of life 40 years ago. Their selfish behavior has caused heartache for many and has destroyed the trust my sons had in their father and his convictions. My advice to all of you is be honest with your current spouse before you embark on this endeavor.