just curious.....


are you misunderstood??? thought to be sinister??? etc.

i tend to have a problem with my mouth. i tend to keep it shut for long periods and then let it all build up inside of me. then i explode. and what comes out in frustration ends up sometimes being way over the line. most of it is usually true, but a much meaner version of it than is necessary or appropriate. occasionally it's just mean hatefulness to hurt and it's not true at all.

...are you around people that don't talk alot. seems like it....


sometimes i break out in public with the resounding.....WHAT??? GODDAMMIT???


buys plenty of space. :shade:

KidaSaurusRx said:

no, i tend to be around people who DO talk a lot. maybe that's the problem. i don't say much, then WHAM!

i guess.

My voice can be really deep...so sometimes when I'm talking intensely about something it can sound like I'm getting angry, but I'm not. It can sound like I'm wanting to yell, but I'm not. I actually have to remember that and control my speaking voice when getting into even friendly debates about stuff in order to not give off the wrong impression lol ...

Depends on my comfort level around people. The more comfortable I am the more I talk-and the sillier it gets

no one listens to me.

sammij said:

AT some point, you're gonna have to start telling the world (and yourself) how fantastic a woman you are ...Until then the rest of us don't mind telling the universe for you ...

Byron said:

thanks luv
i'm always afraid of being overbearing so whenever i do get ignored (especially by the family, where it happens most) i just kinda pipe down and take it.

errant said:

You sound like me, I do the EXACT same thing! I tend to hold my feelings in, until I can't take it anymore, then I just EXPLODE and yell and say exactly what I should have said in the beginning. I've always admired people who can keep their cool and state their point at the same time, without being overly aggressive and/or mean. This is something that I need to work on, most definitely!

Byron said:

Yes, I agree with Byron.
Sammi
Byron

psychodelicide said:

i've found that people who can keep their cool, or at least some of them, have usually already thought out the argument and can't be swayed or have anything that they're saying pointed out as being incorrect, because they've already made up their mind and there's no point in even having the conversation at that point. or maybe they just aren't open to it because you're screaming it

errant said:

This is true. I tend to clam up and not say what I really think and/or should say. Gotta work on changing that.

...ok, this appears to have been a loaded thread.


sammy j and byron seem cool tho.

KidaSaurusRx said:

Loaded, how so? You asked us a question and we answered it. How does that make it "loaded"?

KidaSaurusRx said:

And the rest of us who posted on this thread are not cool? Again.
[Edited 7/20/08 21:37pm]

KidaSaurusRx said:

That's cuz we are lol ...

psychodelicide said:

I'm actually not sure what he meant by "loaded thread", either...but he said I was cool so I ignored that part lol...

Byron said:

I'm always assuming nobody listens to me, I live with 4 males
I often stop speaking mid-sentence because there is no point talking and nobody notices.
But I have friends who have got mighty annoyed with me for doing that
[Edited 7/20/08 21:32pm]

Most of the time yes, if by verbal strength you mean, how aware I am that my words ilicit a certain type of response from someone whether negative or positive--yeah, I'm pretty good at pinpointing that.

However, I've come to realize that more and more, there are a lot of folks who , through various pre-judgements, etc. etc., hear me or read my words through a looking glass of sorts that distorts their perceptions of what I intended by my comments.

On the flip side, I've receive several orgnotes from folks for instances where I haven't said anything. Apparently , when I don't respond to somebody's posts, or click their threads, or correspond with them, I have a problem with them?
My feelings and intentions can be misunderstood--generally, I view this with a bit of humor.

Imago said:

That's irritating as hell, to have someone regurgitate back to you what they heard rather than what you said.

errant said:

It depends on the situation for me ,I guess, as to whether I'll be irritated or amused; but, yeah.
I mean, let me not be a hypocrite about it--I do it too, mostly because I read too much into something someone else is saying.
But there are some idiots out there who aren't even doing that--they're literally misinterpreting what you say, ignoring words, and coming up with their own rebuttals to meet some bizzaar agendas. Now THAT is entertaining.

ZombieKitten said:

I used to do the same thing when I was married, actually...I'd be talking to my ex, and she'd be staring at the TV...and I'd just stop in mid-sentence. She never noticed. After awhile, I just stopped telling her about stuff altogether. And on those occasions when I did find myself wanting to tell her something, as soon as I'd start all the enthusiasm would just drain from me, and I'd keep quiet instead. It sucked lol ...

Imago said:

for me, it's been pretty painful, not amusing. but yes, sometimes when people argue, they tend to try to use your own words against you, except they aren't even close to the words you used. they've either projected what they think about you on what you've said or they've projected what they secretly feel to be a truth or guilt about themselves onto what you've said.

i hate that. i can't argue with people like that. of course my arguing style, as described above, isn't easy to deal with either.
[Edited 7/20/08 21:51pm]

ok i get it now. I don't think I'm understood verbally. A lot of times I have a hard time explaining my thoughts verbally
[Edited 7/20/08 21:50pm]

honeypot69 said:

Me, too. We have something in common.

Byron said:

omg same here

honeypot69 said:

I think you're very easy to understand. You also tend to pick your words carefully, and you don't bother using overly expressive terms, flowery words, or bloating your comments to get your point across. It's normally short, sweet, and razor sharp.

I do wish you'd bury your feelings deep deep down inside though--it's the only way to obtain any happiness in this world

Imago said:

Byron said:

I can see that