ThreadBare said: You weren't invited. It's the bride's day, so to speak, and you should honor her wishes.
Especially if neither she nor the groom has invited you. To go would be tacky, IMO. do you see why I comment on men being pussywhipped. ![]() ![]() ![]() 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ThreadBare said: You weren't invited. It's the bride's day, so to speak, and you should honor her wishes.
Especially if neither she nor the groom has invited you. To go would be tacky, IMO. do you see why I comment on men being pussywhipped. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() My wedding certainly wasn't ![]() He sometimes refers to our wedding as "his party". | |
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and Richard, most men could not be bothered helping with organising the wedding btw. They get out of it as much as they can - this I see around me all the time, leaving the poor bride with everything to do because he says "you know I'm no good at this stuff, you choose it" ![]() | |
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ZombieKitten said: and Richard, most men could not be bothered helping with organising the wedding btw. They get out of it as much as they can - this I see around me all the time, leaving the poor bride with everything to do because he says "you know I'm no good at this stuff, you choose it"
![]() Oh believe me, I'm not defending men's ridiculousness on the issue. you're pledging your life to a woman, the least you can do is do SOMETHING ![]() ![]() ![]() 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ZombieKitten said: and Richard, most men could not be bothered helping with organising the wedding btw. They get out of it as much as they can - this I see around me all the time, leaving the poor bride with everything to do because he says "you know I'm no good at this stuff, you choose it"
![]() Oh believe me, I'm not defending men's ridiculousness on the issue. you're pledging your life to a woman, the least you can do is do SOMETHING ![]() ![]() ![]() well what are you waiting for!!! make this 50 minutes count mister - you don't want to look back and say you could have tried harder! ![]() | |
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ZombieKitten said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Oh believe me, I'm not defending men's ridiculousness on the issue. you're pledging your life to a woman, the least you can do is do SOMETHING ![]() ![]() ![]() well what are you waiting for!!! make this 50 minutes count mister - you don't want to look back and say you could have tried harder! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ZombieKitten said: well what are you waiting for!!! make this 50 minutes count mister - you don't want to look back and say you could have tried harder! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |
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ZombieKitten said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You know, now that something is happening that I never thought would happen in my lifetime, I'm really kind of bummed I have nobody to do it with ![]() ![]() ![]() 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ZombieKitten said: ![]() You know, now that something is happening that I never thought would happen in my lifetime, I'm really kind of bummed I have nobody to do it with ![]() ![]() ![]() you could start booking reception centres and stuff, you know, be prepared! Go and read the "why am I married" thread, those things are truer than you think ![]() | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ThreadBare said: You weren't invited. It's the bride's day, so to speak, and you should honor her wishes.
Especially if neither she nor the groom has invited you. To go would be tacky, IMO. do you see why I comment on men being pussywhipped. ![]() ![]() ![]() Deferring to a social custom doesn't make someone whipped. It's about showing respect to the people getting married. I thought you would be a bit more empathetic about wedding parties' wishes, these days... ![]() [Edited 6/16/08 17:23pm] | |
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ThreadBare said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: do you see why I comment on men being pussywhipped. ![]() ![]() ![]() Deferring to a social custom doesn't make someone whipped. It's about showing respect to the people getting married. I thought you would be a bit more empathetic about wedding parties' wishes, these days... ![]() Richard is going to be the bridezilla or bridezillas ![]() | |
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I wouldnt go but i would send the bride and groom a tasteful present and make sure they know it is from you. Don't play their petty family games. Don't make yourself a pawn in the mother-in-laws game. Take that time to do something special for yourself. Be unavailable also! You do not owe them any answers. live simply,love generously, care deeply,speak kindly, be loyal | |
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Nothinbutjoy said: VERY tough situation, because as you've mentioned, weddings can bring out the WORST in people.
IMHO, it is the bride and groom's day. As much as you love the groom's mom and family, if the bride and groom did not invite you, I would not go. If the bride is being a BRIDEZILLA, then it's her loss. It is about both the bride and groom, but if the groom doesn't stand up and insist his side be invited fully (you said you and others were left off the list) then Mom's should be dealing with him. But, at the risk of getting ![]() ![]() It's still bad form to not let the groom's mom know who was taken off the list. Hope that made sense and hope you got it all sorted out! ![]() I agree with everything you said. The funny thing is that the bride AND groom did very little according to the bride's mom. She was overheard complaining a few weeks ago that neither of them did anything. ![]() ![]() [Edited 6/16/08 18:22pm] | |
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ZombieKitten said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: You know, now that something is happening that I never thought would happen in my lifetime, I'm really kind of bummed I have nobody to do it with ![]() ![]() ![]() you could start booking reception centres and stuff, you know, be prepared! Go and read the "why am I married" thread, those things are truer than you think ![]() ![]() ![]() And Supa, I'd murrrrry you ![]() ![]() Is it odd that I wanna be a bridesmaid in Ellen Degeneres' wedding??? ![]() | |
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30peacessilver said: I wouldnt go but i would send the bride and groom a tasteful present and make sure they know it is from you. Don't play their petty family games. Don't make yourself a pawn in the mother-in-laws game. Take that time to do something special for yourself. Be unavailable also! You do not owe them any answers.
Ummmmm I don't know about giving them sapsuckas a gift. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |
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SCNDLS said: ZombieKitten said: you could start booking reception centres and stuff, you know, be prepared! Go and read the "why am I married" thread, those things are truer than you think ![]() ![]() ![]() And Supa, I'd murrrrry you ![]() ![]() Is it odd that I wanna be a bridesmaid in Ellen Degeneres' wedding??? ![]() I forwarded your post to my husband ![]() we are stuck with each other now!! | |
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If your not invited...u don't go ..... ![]() ![]() | |
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SCNDLS said: 30peacessilver said: I wouldnt go but i would send the bride and groom a tasteful present and make sure they know it is from you. Don't play their petty family games. Don't make yourself a pawn in the mother-in-laws game. Take that time to do something special for yourself. Be unavailable also! You do not owe them any answers.
Ummmmm I don't know about giving them sapsuckas a gift. ![]() ![]() ![]() Shows you have the tact they lack. Besides the gift can be awfull if you get creative. live simply,love generously, care deeply,speak kindly, be loyal | |
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30peacessilver said: SCNDLS said: Ummmmm I don't know about giving them sapsuckas a gift. ![]() ![]() ![]() Shows you have the tact they lack. Besides the gift can be awfull if you get creative. ![]() | |
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SCNDLS said: Just got an update on the proceedings, turns out the food was crappy, the location was tacky, and the bride was antisocial, didn't walk around greeting or speaking to folks at all. Sounds like I didn't miss much.
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ZombieKitten said: and Richard, most men could not be bothered helping with organising the wedding btw. They get out of it as much as they can - this I see around me all the time, leaving the poor bride with everything to do because he says "you know I'm no good at this stuff, you choose it"
![]() Oh believe me, I'm not defending men's ridiculousness on the issue. you're pledging your life to a woman, the least you can do is do SOMETHING ![]() ![]() ![]() Now you know doggone well after all of this time that if I was a boy I would marry you ![]() I just wouldn't want any ice sculptures at the reception. That's the one thing I'd HAVE to veto ![]() | |
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Ottensen said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Oh believe me, I'm not defending men's ridiculousness on the issue. you're pledging your life to a woman, the least you can do is do SOMETHING ![]() ![]() ![]() Now you know doggone well after all of this time that if I was a boy I would marry you ![]() I just wouldn't want any ice sculptures at the reception. That's the one thing I'd HAVE to veto ![]() unless its one you made yourself! | |
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DesertEskimo said: Ottensen said: Now you know doggone well after all of this time that if I was a boy I would marry you ![]() I just wouldn't want any ice sculptures at the reception. That's the one thing I'd HAVE to veto ![]() unless its one you made yourself! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() . | |
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Ottensen said: DesertEskimo said: unless its one you made yourself! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() . this one is quite nice ![]() | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ottensen said: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() . this one is quite nice ![]() Wow that's nice and would be a great symbol of the happy couple's love BUT can you imagine the lawsuits when that sucka melts killing all the wedding guests???? ![]() ![]() | |
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SCNDLS said: ZombieKitten said: this one is quite nice ![]() Wow that's nice and would be a great symbol of the happy couple's love BUT can you imagine the lawsuits when that sucka melts killing all the wedding guests???? ![]() ![]() ![]() I think you could hollow it out and hold the reception inside it! and the bride and groom can have their wedding night there! ![]() | |
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ThreadBare said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: do you see why I comment on men being pussywhipped. ![]() ![]() ![]() Deferring to a social custom doesn't make someone whipped. It's about showing respect to the people getting married. I thought you would be a bit more empathetic about wedding parties' wishes, these days... ![]() [Edited 6/16/08 17:23pm] deferring? ![]() ![]() 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: ThreadBare said: Deferring to a social custom doesn't make someone whipped. It's about showing respect to the people getting married. I thought you would be a bit more empathetic about wedding parties' wishes, these days... ![]() [Edited 6/16/08 17:23pm] deferring? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |
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ZombieKitten said: SCNDLS said: Wow that's nice and would be a great symbol of the happy couple's love BUT can you imagine the lawsuits when that sucka melts killing all the wedding guests???? ![]() ![]() ![]() I think you could hollow it out and hold the reception inside it! and the bride and groom can have their wedding night there! ![]() ![]() ![]() | |
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sorry for jacking your thread, my imagination runs away with me ![]() | |
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