Perfect example of why my sig is there.

eikonoklastes said:

I love your honesty!

Graycap23 said:

Oh.

Graycap23 said:

So? What's the big deal? You can't handle the truth in return?

mdiver said:

Well I wish my ex could read that because in his eyes he's always the fuckin' victim and had no faith in himself. That's one of the reasons why I broke up with him.

JustErin said:

Preach

JustErin said:

I see u missed the point. No problem, I expect that HERE.

JustErin said:

You are so right. If only I could get up the nerve to do that.

Graycap23 said:

Um ok, so what was your point...since I missed it.

missfee said:

If you really want to get over this you will have to get up the nerve.

We are jackasses that love sex.

Any man with an opportunity to be a jackass and get away with it, will do it.

The same with sex.

missfee said:

Don't ignore it. They've called, I can't talk to them right now. It hurts right now but one day it won't. Pick up a good book and put on some headphones.
"It's Gonna Be Lonely".

JustErin said:

Good luck with that.....

missfee said:

For most people it may work, but for me it has always been easier to get over somebody if I still had contact to the person instead of cutting it all immediately.

mdiver said:

It's super annoying when people say shit like that but then never back anything up or clarify anything.

Just makes them look like they're defensive because they know what you said is true. Guess it's kinda embarrassing.

But hey, I gave him the benefit of the doubt...but if there is no response...we'll know why.

JustErin said:

If there IS a response it will be the first time ever, and if there is then maybe you have an admirer

I'm not a man but here I go anyway... Whatever u feed gets stronger... If u keep giving someone or something for that matter enormous amounts of attention and care and keep putting ur energy into it, its not going to diminish it's gonna continue to grow. I've never watered my plant put it in the sun and wondered to myself "why won't this thing die?". So is the same with relationships if u continue to indirectly nurture this relationship and keep pondering it, ur going to be confused. U have to starve it and let it die if that's what u want if that's not what u want then maybe u r the one confusing him into thinking he still has a chance. Most men are not weeds if u starve them eventually they get the point and stop popping up. This is the long version of JustErin's response.

JustErin said:

I'll be brief.
Man meets woman, just wants 2 sleep with her.
Woman wants conversation, get 2 know u, and all that other "stuff"
Man just wants 2 sleep with the woman. If she could handle the truth, she would just say yes or no instead of all of the drama. Why not cut 2 the chase? Especially at a bar or places with people are ONLY there 2 "hookup" in the 1st place?

Graycap23 said:

But dude, you expect women to handle a man's 'truth', why is it that they can't handle the woman's truth in return.

Right or wrong, her truth is to get pissed off over the fact that the guy wants to just fuck her and that's all.

That's just the way it is. Seriously, deal with it.

It's a total cop out to say that women can't handle the truth so men lie to get what they want.

Men simply can't handle hearing back that the woman doesn't just wanna only fuck the guy. Cuz if they hear that, they probably aren't getting any.

It just makes dudes look like cowards and babies because they can't handle what a woman has to say or do in response to what they say or do.

JustErin said:

JustErin said:

Example number 2:
Woman buys new outfit and asks her boyfriend if that outfit looks ok.
The boyfriend responds, "I don't like the outfit, it makes u look fat".
The woman get's mad at his response. He spends the night on the couch.

Graycap23 said:

Ok, that one. I agree...that's ridiculous and far too many women do that.

i wish i knew!

AMIGO... MEN AND WOMEN DO THE SAME

But you just gotta let go, hard though that may be. I've been on both ends of the silent treatment and yeah it sucks (especially if you're inexplicably given the silent treatment: ladies take note). You can either be strong and deal with your ex head on or take the easier option and not return his calls. The latter is most effective.

PS: JustErin, you've been giving sound advice lately. What gives?

missfee said:

papaaisaway said:

JustErin said:

I go to a concert last night and a guy friend of mine who hasn't even called me in months calls me during the concert! After emailing him now and then (and with me initiating the emails might I add) he knew that I was going to a concert yesterday night because we were emailing each other while we both were at work, but of all the nights in the world, he calls me when I busy. Any other lonely night when I do want somebody to call, I don't even get a vibration.

Right now every guy in my life is nuts, all of them!

And not to mention that I'm sexually frustrated as hell right now

What I wouldn't give to have my ass smacked, getting crazed butt naked on the kitchen countertop with sweat glistening all over my body!

missfee said:

JustErin said:

That is so gangster and so true!

Just Erin, are you this hard core in person?

You were raised around a lot of men, weren't you?

Women, we complicate shit. He's just thinking, I need some...and here you are with all the hoo hoo and boo hoo. Seriously, don't rekindle...BIG mistake. From experience here! Should have done what Just Erin is telling you to do.

Yeah, WHY?!?!