eikonoklastes said:

So all single women with children over the age of 5 are in an absent daddy situation?

All children of divorced/separated families are going to sabotage the new interest of their parents?

So basically these people are supposed to just stay single?




holy spelling mistakes!
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MoniGram said:

It's so not fair for kids to get used to someone and then the mom dumps them for whatever reason and they are not around anymore. Better that the kids have stability of not having the rug yanked out from under them

My daughter doesn't meet anyone I date. No one. She's the type of kid who gets attached to people really easily and I don't wanna risk it.

As far as dating JustErin, I don't have any reservations about that.

Flowerz said:

Will you call off the witch hunters for me? I give my experience and what I have seen in my life and all of a sudden I'm physically, psychologically and emotionally abusing women around here

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I don't think anyone would dispute that there are some women like that out there. But where I take issue is with Old Dude coming in here swinging around the term "bitches", and lumping all women into the same catagory based on his experience. That shit ain't cool. If that was his experience then too bad for him, but I question the mindset of a person that keeps being drawn to what he sees as problematic women, then moaning about it, IN ADDITION to not knowing how address women collectively without referring to them as bitches.

I've seen bachelors young and old do very well with dating single moms but I think it definitely depends on how "together" the woman is in the first place. When a woman's got her hustle together, raising healthy productive children,has an active social and hobby life, and great spiritual walk...trust and believe she's smart enough to already know that "like attracts like", and "great minds think alike", so the LAST thing she's thinking about is how to snatch up some raggedy ass commitment phobe into house and home for-evah-evah, when her life is already full enough. Shit, that's what The Rabbit and drive-by booty-calls are made for. Tides you over until someone compatible with a shared sense of purpose comes along.
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I don't think anyone would dispute that there are some women like that out there. But where I take issue is with Old Dude coming in here swinging around the term "bitches", and lumping all women into the same catagory based on his experience. That shit ain't cool. If that was his experience then too bad for him, but I question the mindset of a person that keeps being drawn to what he sees as problematic women, then moaning about it, IN ADDITION to not knowing how address women collectively without referring to them as bitches.

I've seen bachelors young and old do very well with dating single moms but I think it definitely depends on how "together" the woman is in the first place. When a woman's got her hustle together, raising healthy productive children,has an active social and hobby life, and great spiritual walk...trust and believe she's smart enough to already know that "like attracts like", and "great minds think alike", so the LAST thing she's thinking about is how to snatch up some raggedy ass commitment phobe into house and home for-evah-evah, when her life is already full enough. Shit, that's what The Rabbit and drive-by booty-calls are made for. Tides you over until someone compatible with a shared sense of purpose comes along.
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I just think dudes who get into these situations like this just go after what they preceive as the easier targets, and then get pissed off when they find out that it ain't as easy as they thought.

morningsong said:

Okay...now I agree with this. I think people are wondering if I'm in this situation. I'm dating someone with kids but I'm not committed like that. I just see things. There's no committment here. I couldn't do it considering the circumstances. Hell, we both agree on this. If you were to ask her, she'd tell you the same thing.

But listen man....everyone is their own Keeper with God. Do what yall want to...I was just saying.

After my husband and his 1st wife divorced, he dated a woman with a young son. She brought the child over to his house, and he jumped up and down on the "white couch". That was the last date. Nevermind, he had two daughters. Thus, my comments on another thread, about double standards, which I've seen.
It isn't easy to handle already established behaviors, on child rearing, which you may or may not agree with.
It takes a mature, tolerant, flexible person, to handle a step-family, and it's better to be honest about not being able to deal with it.
If I hadn't become pregnant the first year of our marriage, I'd have left. Honest to God. Between my husband's oldest daughter, her undiagnosed bipolar disorder, plus drug abuse, and my mother-in-law who moved two blocks away.....I'd a flown outta there like a bat out of hell.....There was a long, difficult, ten years,...
Throw in my hubbie's infidelity, which according to some, I'm "responsible" (or played a part) for....I look back, and I'm surprised I survived it all.

After my husband and his 1st wife divorced, he dated a woman with a young son. She brought the child over to his house, and he jumped up and down on the "white couch". That was the last date. Nevermind, he had two daughters. Thus, my comments on another thread, about double standards, which I've seen.
It isn't easy to handle already established behaviors, on child rearing, which you may or may not agree with.
It takes a mature, tolerant, flexible person, to handle a step-family, and it's better to be honest about not being able to deal with it.
If I hadn't become pregnant the first year of our marriage, I'd have left. Honest to God. Between my husband's oldest daughter, her undiagnosed bipolar disorder, plus drug abuse, and my mother-in-law who moved two blocks away.....I'd a flown outta there like a bat out of hell.....There was a long, difficult, ten years,...
Throw in my hubbie's infidelity, which according to some, I'm "responsible" (or played a part) for....I look back, and I'm surprised I survived it all.

xplnyrslf said:

so did you leave him yet?

ZombieKitten said:

HELL NO! After all the suffering I endured, a little infidelity is going to intimidate ME????

emm said:

Why you think men go for younger women? That's right, because older bitches who are single either have issues or kids. Actually most seem to have both.

Don't date women with even one child. The motherly instinct to provide for their child has many women using and abusing men. Just bang around if you can do it without commitment. Children really shouldn't be exposed to their mother's dating.

hokie said:

i once told a gal with 3 kids that men added the weight of the kids onto the weight of the woman to get her effective weight. She got mad. I said, if a woman works hard she could lose 50, 60 pounds in a few months. Can't sweat away 3 kids.

I would say, if you think you want a kid, date or even marry a woman with a kid or two, but never adopt.

My daughter doesn't meet anyone I date. No one. She's the type of kid who gets attached to people really easily and I don't wanna risk it.

As far as dating women with children, I don't have any reservations about it.

xplnyrslf said:

In it for the long haul. Alrighty, then.