So...you know how you be beatin up that thang thang, and everything is cool an sh*t, but after awhile her lady parts start to get sore and swollen...and then you have to stop, but you aint really ready to stop yet?

is that i sign of improper treatment? (the swollen thing)

Seriously (for any women reading that dont mind sharing), should this be where intercourse concludes? or is there a better way, where a couple can go for an extended period of time but the female in question doesnt end up having to stop cuz she hurts?

I could suppose that would be a sign of "going too hard" but 90% of the time during I just do as i'm told...impact-wise at least.

Now, from what I've learned from numerous rap songs, these things are supposed to be indications that I did well, but we can't go on living by the words of Ice T now can we?

I will admit this is more of a selfish question then anything, cuz my partner doesnt really complain or nothin, but I cant imagine anybody actually enjoying being sore. To tell the truth, this been a question in my head for some time. I was "raised" to believe you did good if "she walks funny afterward", but (call me a bitch) I can't help but feel like i should apoligize for treating someones body that way. I mean, i dunno...i dont mind being tired or "spent" afterwards, but truth is...I have no idea what a woman goes through...I mean funny as it sounds, it's like you guys are just constantly "stabbed". Can one really "go the distance" without over-working their bodies? or am I just being idealistic?...cuz i would really rather she not be sore, and rather i not have to stop...



P.S.=> I know to some this must seem like a joke for shock value, and I have let my humor come out with how I chose to phrase this, but I really would appreciate it, if at least one person really addresses the question I posed critically. I tend to come to you guys for stuff like this, cuz I can get a wealth of opinions. So thanks ahead of time...









and oh yeah...i wanted to use this emoticon since the servers have been down, and I couldn't find the perfect place to use it in what i just wrote....so here=>
[Edited 6/6/08 12:02pm]

Sounds like not enough lubrication. She's probably chafing.

But if it's a deeper, muscle kind of hurt and not a surface, chafing kind of hurt, then yes. Stop.

CarrieMpls said:

thank you! i'll ask for clarification

what about the swollen/fatness thing? is that a sign of anything in particular? (i dont know if thats a dumb question or not)

ugh I hate it if the pounding goes on for too long. I get really bored with it.

change it up a bit for God's sake! (well maybe not for "God's" sake, but for the woman's sake)

Chafing from insufficient lubrication can definitely be an issue. However, I think the swelling is more a result of inflammation both from her excitement (you know blood rushes to our nether regions too) but also from the repeated impact/friction of your pelvic area colliding if you're using that much force. You may alleviate this by not literally bumping her down there when you penetrate. So maybe try positions where you can penetrate without the extra contact that results in swelling.
[Edited 6/6/08 12:12pm]

minneapolisgenius said:

That's when anal sex comes in play.

i also read once, awhile back, that the female body in general, can only take penetration for a certain amount of time...and anything beyond that is gonna be "pushing it". Is that true? I mean, generally at least?

minneapolisgenius said:

Nah, you can't disagree that the Lord appreciates variety. I mean, look at Rip Taylor. Or the platypus.

Glad to help, SirPsycho.

minneapolisgenius said:

i do switch it up...i cant enjoy one position/motion for too long either (if anything, i usually switch up speed too soon)

SCNDLS said:

thank you, that is worth a try

INSATIABLE said:

dang u beat that thang up like mike tyson 12 rounds! take a recess! lol

INSATIABLE said:

I'd let Rip Taylor do me long and hard though come to think of it.

should i expect her to say somthing?...sometime ago i got the impression that many woman will deal with being in pain they dont want if they think they're gonna come...now i know i, for one, never had proper sex education, and I doubt if many of the women in my community did either...but i do know a woman knows her body (at least most do/should) ....could i expect her to know if she's chafing? cuz i sure as hell dont know what to look for...

minneapolisgenius said:

Rip Taylor for dinner, long and hard, and a nice crack-dusted lard salad for dessert.

Men & women seem to want different things out of sex at times. Men want to pound, women want to grind (I'm generalizing here). I've never been with a woman who wanted as much pounding as I did. Sometimes you just have to giver the poor girl a break & finish up porno style.

But I agree with the suggestion of using more lube.

SirPsycho said:

Well, you'd hope to Christ she'd say something. Man. It's hard to imagine a lot of chicks out there willing to deal with unbearable pain during sex, unless it's their thing.

And uh, this goes without saying, but an unfortunate number of women don't usually get off with penetration/Rip Taylor-style pounding alone. Then again, that's some serious Sex 101 and I don't think anyone under 16 is unaware of that shit.

INSATIABLE said:

Very true.

INSATIABLE said:

I couldn't think of a more perfect evening if my life depended on it.




And book-signing tour here we come!

Forget taking a break!

U got 2 try a new positionnnnn, yeah!
Something that'll make it all right

SCNDLS said:

trust me guys...even tho my purpose of this thread may not show it, thats not what i do....to be honest i hate the pounding thing...it doesnt really do it for me either, i too need a lil more sensation than that...but if she says "harder" i go harder...



maybe i should ask this...(women)...if i'm behind, and we're going slow, and you "back it up" harder and a lil faster...i should take that as a cue to match your speed right? or am i reading it all wrong?


{again, i know every woman doesnt liek the same thing...just in general}
[Edited 6/6/08 12:41pm]

Maybe try something new that turns you on more so you don't need quite as much physical stimulation. That can speed things up a lot!

SirPsycho said:

I think women do, indeed sometimes "want it harder," but maybe not for as long as you're needing.

Maybe she lets it go a little longer than she'd like because she wants to please you, but then it's just too much?

NDRU said:

i can believe that...fortunately we're getting better at communication, so my pleasure should be less of a grey area

NDRU said:

That's exactly it.

Cinnie said:

i blame morris "work-that-body-so-hard-you-wish-all-you-had-was-an-achin-head" day

I have a family member that prides himself on telling anyone within ear shot of his sexual capers...

I'm gonna paraphrase a quote from him...
"When that shit gets dry and she starts bitchin', I just spit on it and keep on truckin'"....

minneapolisgenius said:

so in otherwords...we both try to please each other and stay somewhere we dont want to longer then we have to ..


i like the qoute under you profile pic btw

SirPsycho said:

yeah, maybe you should just ask her