newpower99 said:

if this is your way of asking for a happy ending, it's going to cost you.

Anxiety said:

I think someone needs a free pass to funtime island with full release!

family and children are overrated.
I won't be alone in my old age. i'll have my friends

superspaceboy said:

are they gonna open the pleasure dome? because i really enjoy pleasure.

Anxiety said:

I think they are going to open the Thunderdome. Hope you like Thunder!

Imago said:

My very long marriage is ending this Summer and I'm certain I'll not be in another. A relationship someday, maybe, but not even a living together situation. It has more to do with sorting out my flaws and deciding what and how and if to change them. I have some amazing friends and family, the most fabulous animals and when I retire from my job I seriously want to just grow Lavender. swim in the Lake Huron and rescue dogs. Not very lofty goals, but I've had an amazing life and have learned so much. It would be nice to have someone to sit and look at the sunsets with but the Universal Code doesn't seem to be pointing in that direction and I'll be fine with that.

MoonSongs said:

All well and good. Just don't try swimming in Lake Erie... old and alone or with Prince Charming.

Lammastide said:

For sure ~ and the Great Lakes Consortium agreement (or whatever it's called) for cleaning them up doesn't seem to be coming together well. I've been in Huron, Michigan, Superior (frigid) and Ontario but never Erie. Don't want to turn florescent glow~in~the~dark green.

MoonSongs said:

I like your goals buttttt you don't know what life/God still has for you! Thats exciting really.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

That's very true ~ my life took a fantastic and amazing change in 1996 coming from a very unexpected source. Thanks Muse ~ it's sometimes about what we keep ourselves open for isn't it? The unknown IS very exciting!

Like Horatio and a couple others here mentioned, all the big/important things in life, we have to go through them on our own, that is alone: birth, death,.. even your job interview, nobody can do it for you!

Plus, I see plenty of elderly people whose adult children they barely see and by whom they are hardly being taken care of. Sad but true. I don't now what the trends are in the US regarding relationships between parents & their adult children, but I feel that in Western Europe [ok - the part that I know most, Belgium & France], the situation is pretty bleak. Dozens of elderly people were left without care and some even died during unusually hot weather two summers ago. A lot of this could have been prevented if these people's children had visited them more often and taken care of them.

In short, nothing is guaranteed. You've got to be your own provider and find your source of happiness within imo.

Btw, I think the thread/topic is extremely timely/relevant - it seems to be a trend/general feeling now these days, at least in the 'Western' world to use a broad term, this desperation of finding 'the one' and settling down.

A friend of mine just emailed me to say she 'had lost all interest in life, after a break up, which somehow made her think that it spelled the end of her romantic possibilities in this life. Marriage and kids were her top goals. Now she says she 'doesn't care about anything anymore'.
She is just 34... a baby imo.

That's what I love about Prince - he seems to have inextinguishable drive. His energy and passion for his art, for starting up new projects, throwing/enjoying parties, for life in general, his creativity, etc. don't seem diminished despite his older age.

Stymie said:

Same here. I rather be happy alone then miserable together. I will only settle into a relationship if I can see the longterm future, not garuanteed,sure, but it will take prospective husbands quite some willpower and a lotta love to force me out of my single routines.

MoonSongs said:

and what I've come to learn is that that's really all you can hope to expect out of life. anything else is just gravy or icing on the cake.

Imago said:

since I'll still be kicking when I'm 110, I suspect the best friends I'll ever have in my life, haven't even been born yet

horatio said:

Yeah but whats that saying Plato said: ‘Happy is the person that has someone to bury him’.

I hope I dont, you never know what fate has in store but...I hope not.



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Since I am an only child and do not have children. I could grow old alone. You never know what the furture holds.
I am used to being alone so it would not bother me too much.

I have been told that I will live a long time so it is a strong possibility I will outlive my hubby though I am older.

Imago said:

I never thought about it for myself, because I never believed full in, I would become old. Throught the illness I got, I am living very long for, I am oldier as my birhtage, It was impossible to me to think or dream about, to change Millenium!!!

Now, I dont' know.

so valentines day this year ....no pressure on many orgers

Well, being that I'm just out of a 3.5 year relationship, I feel like I will never find love again....thus loneliness. Not sure if I will feel this way in a few weeks or a few months because I am an optimist. I'd like to think that I will find someone to spend my life with. Loneliness sucks ass


Smooches;)

Cloudbuster said:

I know I've stated this being one of my biggest fears several times on this site. I think about it more than is reasonable. I guess it's because I'm approaching 40 and never thought that at this age I wouldn't have already settled down with someone. But I haven't. And I'm not close. And I think that perhaps by the time I'm ready to do so, no one will want me.

violator said:

nonsense.

some of us just take longer to find the right one.
Nothing wrong with being picky.

I am the kind of person who worried about some things a lot and others not at all. Ir could well be that it could happen, but at the moment I totally don't care . Nobody knows what the future brings and although my chances may not be the best I don't think about things like that.

shanti0608 said:

I know. That's why I said I think about it more than is reasonable. I guess it's something I think about a lot also because I have some relatives who are in that situation right now and they're not happy individuals. I mean they seem to lead such sad, solitary lives. I definitely don't want that.

violator said:

Well I think it is natural to have that fear. I have no siblings and no children.
It can be a scary thought if I really let myself sit and think about it.