So anyways, I ran into my friend , Eddie not to long ago. He's pressuring me into going out to Boca Raton to visit him and his wife and 3 kids, etc. etc.


About 6 years ago, Eddie accused his wife of cheating on him, and moved in with me for 3 months. I allowed him to stay free of charge until he could get back on his feet.


Well. That was a mistake. When he moved in with me, within 3 weeks he ended up bringing some female coworker home for some nookie, then a female client of his.
IN addition to this, I was throwing a small party at my house and the night it was going on, Eddie's wife learned of his wearabouts and showed up to my front porch and slashed her wrists in front of God and country.

Despite the fact that I tried very hard to be a quiet, nice, neighbor, in that one hot instant I became "That crazy fool"


But, fast forward 2 years later and him and his wife had their first children (I found out that witin 2 weeks from the time she slashed her wrists, he was visiting the his house during lunch and having sex with his wife--she decided to 'put out' more to keep him). Morals aside, I found his strategy for cheating sort of awkward . In addition, his rationale was that "He just had to know if he really loved his wife, and he could prove that by sleeping with other women...or some silliness like that"


Being that I know alot of you sluts have cheated or are considering cheating, how did you do it? What would drive you to do it?
Has a close friend of yours actually done it successfully and gotten away with it?

It just seems kind of...erm... ick.



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I am faithful. I don't why I am they way I am, don't get me wrong I've had the opportunity but I just couldn't. I could not stand to see the hurt on my husband's face if I had cheated on him.

blueblossom said:

Have you known anyone who's done it and actually gotten away with it?

I've known plenty of men who cheat but they always get caught or end up falling desperately for the person they're cheating on, and that person isn't nearly as interested in pursuing a relationship. It always ends up being sort of... ick

I actually don't know anyone who has done it!

oh except my friend who came home one night and caught his wife in bed with another man. They divorced over it, YEARS ago. It really messed him up, he lives alone now but gloats that she grew herself a really fat ass and he still looks trim.

Imago said:

I have a friend who is now 72 years old and recovering from breast cancer. Her husband died some time ago, but during her marriage she had several affairs. The last affair was when she was 50ish and her lover was 24 and it went on for about 7 years. She broke it off and he was heartbroken apparently. Her husband never knew.

75% of the guys from my hockey-team cheat on their partners.....not good!

I have no desire to cheat never have

I have a friend that recently found out her husband was having an 8 yr affair with another woman ~ shattered but they are healing

I know many men that sleep around on their wives and I know a couple woman that do too

I have had 3 of my close female friends husbands come onto me One I told

i wouldn't do that. first of all. i'd never be 'with' someone unless i really had feelings for him. if i had fgeelings for him, why would i want another guy?

second, it's just mean and dangerous (disease) to expose a sex partner to disease potentially contracted from another lover.

so, no cheating for me.

Cheated once and been cheated on. I found out being cheated on isn't nearly as bad as doing it yourself.

Anyway, a very good friend of mine cheated on her bf a lot and never got caught. I guess when your significant other really trusts you, it's easy to pull it off.

I never have cheated and never would , I have been cheated on and like a pussy gave him another chance . I still beat myself up for giving him another chance when really he didnt deserve it

i think everyone who could fuck multiple people would.
period. its a fact of life and human sexuality.

ZombieKitten said:

Dont get me wrong, but thats little consolation for losing someone you love. especially in the way it happened to him. But what can you do, life goes on.


I wouldnt cheat, If you want out of the relationship then leave.

I'm cynical and jaded. I want and expect any partner of mine not to cheat and yet I'm doubtful I'll ever find a man capable of that.

Imago, I take they didnt have kids when the wife slashed her wrists, they were newly married?

LleeLlee said:

no, they didn't have kids when this was going on.

The first sone was born about 2 years after this period.

Then they had twins about a year and a half after that.
They appear to be 'normal' now.

Imago said:

It sounds really turbulent, I dont know how relationships survive as long as they do sometimes.

In my experience, people can twist their mind by justifying morally apprehensible shit very easily and then deal with the consequences later.

As someone who is about to get married, I've thought about having sex with one person and what that means to me. This in addition to a lot of other stuff that comes with making a life-long commitment to one person has been really interesting to get my mind around. The fact is, I'm still the same person that I was before getting married so I need to quit trippin.

As far as cheating goes, there's no grey areas to me. It is about respect of the person I've committed to, period. Without that respect I'm not in a committed relationship. The chance that I could give the person I respect and love some kind of disease makes me sick to my stomach.

As corny as it sounds (and I posted it on the true love thread a few weeks ago), True love is realizing that you are with the person that is perfect for you and all other women are just fantasies of what could have been. If you make a move to chance what you have you'll find that the new woman is more fucked-up than the one you left. It's a realization that some people NEVER come to, I'm looking forward to being married because I FINALLY found her.

I have never cheated, but I know several people who have and didn't get caught. I am not friends with them anymore.

butterfli25 said:

Did the friendship end because they were cheaters?

and another question, how would you be able to know the stats of those who have cheated and got caught and those who didnt get caught.
part of the not getting caught is not letting anyone know.

horatio said:

Are you proposing?

Only if my wife were to choose my "Cheatee"...

RenHoek said:

lawd, I love that avatar.

Imago said:

also, why would ones behavior when single suddenly be different when attached?
think about when your single and all the people you have or try to have sexual encounter with. Being attached just makes it more difficult to fuck around with other people, but not any less desirable.

I like the idea of open relationship, if they work. To me it is just as equally loving as being in a monogamous relationship, if not more so than monogamy.
And its hot. Monogamy seems a bit selfish, but i guess an open one could be considered selfish too. it just seems more natural

is "cheating" just defined as having a sexual relationship with a third party? or perhaps there are other forms of cheating that ain't always (or aren't currently) involving sex?
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I've never cheated on anyone. I've never wanted to because I've never had an interest for someone else while I was in a relationship.

Almost every friend (male and female) I have has cheated on a partner at some point though and I have been the person that men have cheated on their partner with.

g3ajg said:

thats what im saying, its like inferring a bad word on public television or radio or in Princes' case a song. Is it any different than carrying out the act/saying the word in your head, than physically doing the act/ actually uttering the words?

horatio said:

To you... to me, at this stage in my life, there's nothing natural about wanting to have sex with lots of people. I've tried that route and found it doesn't work for me. It's utterly undesirable.

CarrieMpls said:

so when you were younger, you feel it is the norm?
but now that you are older your tastes have changed?

let me rephrase that, older and more experienced.