abierman said:

Dude, why not have you both take on each other's names? Or at least have the children take on both names?

You keep asking what the big deal is about taking on another person's name, so why not ask yourself that question?

JuliePurplehead said:

So not knowing me isn't the problem. The problem is that I might try cheat on you with someone I don't know either?

edit: forgot to put the emphasis on try...as if she wouldn't want to get with me.
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My name is Ashleigh Connors, my fiancée is John Tray.

So when I get married I will become Ashleigh Tray.

All my friends call me Ash. Ash Tray.

eikonoklastes said:

Dude, please.

JustErin said:

There ya go Jules, she's already begging me.

G0d said:

now that's a clear case for 2nd thoughts!

Ocean said:

So your name is Ocean Potion? Lotion?

I come from a family where I'll be the 1st one to earn a Doctoral degree. My Dad has an 8th grade education.
When I was engaged, my EX- & I talked about it & I explained that it meant a lot to me to place "Dr." in front of my last name. I wanted to honor my Dad & our ancestors that way.
In all due respect, HIS family hadn't earned my degree- a STRADFORD had, and a Stradford was going to use it.
He understood, and we agreed that I would at least hyphenate. Unfortunately, last names weren't the issue in our demise....
Hopefully, if I ever find the right person, he'll also understand.


I had a friend who kept her maiden name with her 1st husband, but her daughters had his name. Then she got remarried, and took her 2nd husband's name. She felt there were too many last names in the house at that point, so then there'd only be 2.

I'd like to share a name. doesn't have to be mine or hers. But it's something else the symbolizes unity.
But it is not that important to me. all the things that symbolize anything are just that. Being together and making it together is what counts.

luv4u said:

You're gonna call yourself Fred?

Steadwood said:

and what will he do for a name after that?

XxAxX said:

He might have some symbol --)*+__ and call himself "The man formerly known as Fred"

I've always wanted to hyphenate my last name w/ his... I think I'd still do it, but the odds of me marrying are so damn slim.

Steadwood said:

i think married couples should have to merge their names, like as in 'brangelina'

XxAxX said:

SalmonElla

Steadwood said:

BettyWoody
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XxAxX said:

PollyEster

Steadwood said:

JackAsh

When I got married I took my husband's last name.

I was SO upset that I did at first. I didn't like it.

The feeling lasted for a couple of years, but I've been fine with it for a long time now.

XxAxX said:

Here's one for serious...

JulieAndrews

Steadwood said:

and another one for serious

ImaHarry

Heck, I'm divorced from the person for many years, heck decades and I still have the married name. Did it for the kid, I had issues with being a statistic. The sad fact is I became one anyway, but I still kept the name for a host of stupid reason. I realize now that I should have given it up years ago for my own psychological well being. Now it seems pointless to go back to my maiden name, too much of my life is invested into this name. Yet at the same time I think folks that know me get the wrong impression on why I still have it. If I should marry again, I think I'll take his name but hyphenize it with my maiden name, symbolic in starting a new chapter in my life.

If my guy and I get married, I will use my last name as my middle name and his as my last name.

I feel like I have to keep my name - at least as part of my stage name - because his last name is very common (and because I'm already known by my name). I need something with a stronger identity.

XxAxX said:

PatRick

Ivor Biggun

Genesia said:

It's interesting that you said this. When my son was born he was given (by me) his father's name and mine - we were not together.

Now I am thinking that I will change it so that he only goes by my last name (just makes things easier since I have been from day one and always will be custodial parent) but have his father's last name as another middle name.

blueblossom said:

Steadwood said:

knew you'd like that one Steadie

Mrs. Hary-Saks

I'd pass on that one.

blueblossom said:

MyleneDick