eikonoklastes said:

there you have it, co-fucking-sign!

abierman said:

the only impression I have of you is what you post on here!
and if you knew me, you would know that my way is pretty much tongue in cheek in most things I say, but you seem to take everything I say so SERIOUSLY

Unless his last name is something like "Pondscum", I'm taking his. My last name sucks. My children will have his last name as well.

JuliePurplehead said:

yeah I draw the line there too

Ocean said:

No worries, Kylie..... Herman is just being a cunt.....I can handle that, I just thought it is about time to make him stop portraying me for something that I am not, and he knows!

ZombieKitten said:

Honey when you get to our age the younger generation's sense of humour seems to fly past and as you grow older your sense of humour becomes more twisted and dry. If my sense of humour becomes any drier and dirtier I shall end up a sad old lady!!

and before any one says it, yep I am becoming sad and old!!
[Edited 6/6/08 6:00am]

ZombieKitten said:

I know, and I don't mind .....anyways, that post was directed to Herman, not to you!

blueblossom said:

aksel and I are exactly the same age

Aksel, i do understand what you mean and the continuation of the family name is something i feel strongly about too. I think there is room for both ideals and feelings in a situation and if one was to consider a person as a potential wife/mother then things like this would really not be a deal breaker. If 2 people want to be in that situation and have kids then they should be adult and ,mature enough as well as responsible enough to find an amicable solution.

ZombieKitten said:

SEE SEE WHAT I MEAN, just write anything down before researching it and while you're at it stick that big foot in your mouth and with the other kick yerself up the arse. Older women are also very impetuous.

mdiver said:

Also in marriage it is never ending compromise on both sides.

ZombieKitten said:

blueblossom said:

blueblossom said:

who are you???

JuliePurplehead said:

It's not, now will you just accept my proposal!?

abierman said:

she is a very nice lady, who needs new batteries and a big box of chocolates

luv4u said:

lol

For me, it depends on what his name is. I will probably only care about the aesthetic of it. My last name is such an uncommon name I kind of like it. But if his is better, then I'd probably take it.

I know a girlfriend of mine decided to take her husband's last name as she was writing out wedding invitations. She was sick of writing out all the couples who had different names or hyphenated names and decided she'd take his out of convenience's sake.

I changed my name.

I love my old last name, because it's been a part of me for thirty years and it's a badass name (It's Hazard, come on, that's pretty kickass).

But I decided to change it for a few reasons. I married a man of Italian descent with a fairly traditional family, whom I adore and respect completely. It was very important to him and to them that we share the same last name as a matter of tradition and respect. If I chose to join their family but not take their name, it would be almost a slap in the face to them. I understand that and it is an honor to me to be welcomed as their daughter, especially because they are the only family I have here.

And as far as the historical ownership issue: I already carried a man's last name; my biological father's. And in many ways, in the short time I have known him, my father in law has been more of a father to me than my bio dad was in all the years of my life. So if I'm going to carry a man's last name it might as well be the ones who are truly loving me, protecting me and taking care of me and my children the way fathers are supposed to.

ZombieKitten said:

oh she knows me sooo well.....

blueblossom said:

a kindred spirit!

FunkMistress said:

most of this is true for me too, except I never thought of it from their perspective they already thought I was some weird swedish person with weirder still customs, but they still love me

FunkMistress said:

Well said!

Ocean said:

All the children will also have his last name, as Chris is in the process of adopting my daughters.

Ocean said:

I kept my last name and took his as well ~ because that is what I wanted

Our children carry his/our last name ~ because that is what we wanted

ZombieKitten said:

That's family! I'm a weird Irish chick from their rival town of Boston, but they love me anyway.

FunkMistress said:

I bet if I'd been Italian I never would have gotten away with it

If I ever get married, I'd probably hyphenate it..

My wife kept her maiden name...which at the time I delt with and learned to not think about....my family had a big issue with it but whatever...my kids have hyphenated last names that are both kind of long. We agreed that when they get older they can choose which they prefer...hoping ofcourse they would choose mine. So far, my oldest is the only one who has been choosing between the two...so for school stuff he uses his mother's name and for sports and other boy stuff he goes with mine... I dunno....

Honestly... I think I have a pretty great last name and know this... if I were to marry again, I really want my wife to take my name.

eikonoklastes said:

You'd cheat on me with JustErin. Or you would try to cheat on me with her, I should say.