FuNkeNsteiN said:

that to me makes so much more sense in most situations.

My cousin Kristina, married an airline pilot, and he took her name when they married and I love him for it - now there is a hunky guy with the same surname as me in my extended family!!

HamsterHuey said:

ZombieKitten said:

Indeed

He can take my name, the lazy git!

My aunt's husband did that, it's way better.

And I agree with children taking the mothers name, especially after a divorce.

It's so weird that 4 of my cousins still have their dads name when their mother has her maiden name AND has remarried!
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I once worked with a man who took his wife's surname AND she took his. They both hyphenated their names.

I've heard all the arguments from accomplished female friends who love their names and their names' respective histories. Right. For those friends, in their heart of hearts, they'll want to take their husbands' names.

I would expect my wife to take on my name.

think about the kids being asked by their friends all the time why daddy & mommy have different names.....

It is tradition that wife take the name of their husbands, this so-called feminist emancipation is going too far! Thinking about it more after reading this thread: the women that I am going to marry will have to take my name! Period.
My children, if I'll have them, will have my surname!

abierman said:

kids aren't stupid
that is normal now

abierman said:

Will they be allowed out on their own too or will a man have to escort them?

Will they have to wear burkas too?

purplesweat said:

It's Holland, where the women wear the pants, so it's the last shred of male dominance to insist she take his name

I took his name...and even if I remarry..and I have a different last name from my children...wouldn't that happen in the end anyway? More so if you have girls and they take their husband's name?

I think it's just the sign of the times people, single mothers, divorced parents, parents who remarry, etc...

So I think, if the woman wants to take her future husband's name so be it. It's really up to that couple and what floats their boat.

ZombieKitten said:

I value tradition, it has always been like this and it has never been a problem. Now all of a sudden things have to change and I can't see why, it is utter bullshit to me.

purplesweat said:

too stupid to comment, sorry!

abierman said:

Well, where you are from anyways.

ZombieKitten said:

Who made you the expert in Dutch culture???

HamsterHuey said:

Don't start, Herman.

abierman said:

My dutch friend Judith she made a bitch out of my friend Vinnie

ZombieKitten said:

She did....i saw it

abierman said:

Why not. I love the scandinavian tradition of mother's names. You are just being yerself, I mean, yer just being a male chauvinistic pig.

If you turn down the woman of your dreams over something so trivial. I mean, even without being married, or her carrying your name, your kids could.

mdiver said:

OMG I have WITNESSES!!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

So Judith slams Vinnie and therefore all women in Holland are wearing the pants? I don't know Vinnie, but he sounds kinda soft.....

ZombieKitten said:

abierman said:

uh nope he really isn't

Ocean said:

I was going to ask a similiar question too! well, I am not married, BUT if I do get married I am definately keeping my last name and if the guy gives me attitude then we can compromise by "my last name-his last name", and I would want our kids to have both of our last name like "his last name-my last name".

HamsterHuey said:

, Herman.....you, for one, know me better than almost anyone else around here, stop creating this stupid image that is just not true. I'm serious here!

You will have to accept that my views are different. I do believe in tradition because it has worked for ages. Without tradition everything will go to shreds, just look where this fucked up country we're living in is going to.....

It is too easy to say that I am a male chauvinistic pig to create an image of me that will live on, Charlotte already has a twisted impression of me based on utter BS..........not that I care much, but it is comments like these that will only enforce that image unjustly!

Thank you.
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abierman said:

I know you are, you didn't have to tell me.

purplesweat said:

yeah? whatever.....snappy comeback!

If I ever find a man that wants to marry me , I might become hyphonated

Pochacco said:

isn't that a come back virgin? ooohhh ooohh I mean hymenated!!! hee hee!!

It kinda bothered me that my ex wife was still using her first husbands last name even after we got married. It had to do with practical reasons for the biggest part, but still she could have taken some effort to change that. If the tradition would have been to take your wife's last name, I would have been proud to use it.

Hell is this pick on abierman day
Aksel