It's something you may want to ask yourself when you feel it's time for you to grow or change.

If I weren't afraid I would _____
If I weren't afraid I would _____
If I weren't afraid I would _____

You simply fill in the blank with whatever pops into your mind, no self editing, just keep answering the question over and over again and see where it leads you... It can lead you to some very important insight and answers.

....buy a house.

....run around outside butt naked.

....eat white castles.

DanceWme said:

....contact him
....invite that person 2 visit
....go ahead and do it

I would have probably been in the studio singing RIGHT NOW.

I would be more well traveled.

I would have a man.

buy an ultralight and use it to commute to work everyday

Call her

Fly to AZ and reconnect

Cut myself some slack

Just lie about it

Not have g-force induced panic attacks

- I'd move away for good.

- Go to visit him for a while.

- Tell a couple of people to fuck off

KidaDynamite said:

co -

..... have a baby

.....drive on the other side of the road on the other side of the car with crazy roundabouts

that is about it..I don't let fear stop me from doing much. If I did I sure wouldn't be in a strange country without my friends and family.
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start my own business. That's actually what I'm doing since fears r secret desires

actively persue men i'm interested in

go more places alone

tell her the whole truth.

Be more forthcoming about my darkside.

Tell her everything.


discard my possessions.

Allow myself to grieve

Cut all ties

Let go

... tell ppl to fuck off that really get under my skin

Mach said:

This totally is a brave thing to do.

I remember a time when I wouldn't even allow myself to show vunerability. If I was going through nasty breakup of friends/relationships, I would always make it appear as if I was unphased by it. Like, wrapped myself in pride and show that I wasn't hurt.
I find now that I'm better off just being transparent and showing that I'm hurt. If the other person gets off on it, well it speaks volumes to their character--and at least I was honest. Not easy to do.

And as far as grieving, I went through this with my father when he passed away.
It took 3 years before I finally broke down.


very brave

Imago said:

the tricky thing with grieving, at least for me, is realizing that it goes on far longer than you are even aware of.

There are times when I look back on a certain period of my life, where I thought I was pretty much done grieving, and realize that I wasn't done at all and that I was still suffering.

Imago said:

It's tied to another fear I suppose

If I weren't afraid I would relinquish control

Imago said:

that would take courage. and even more would be required of your friends for at least a week after that

share personal information with people I don't know on the internet

Not wait till next year.....

I think that is the only thing in my life that has ever scared me.
Well the only thing i have control over

PurpleRighteous1 said:

Its never too late to tell someone how you feel about them

...skydive.

drop a sheet of acid

PaisleyPark5083 said:

do it....you wont regret it

One more.

If I weren't afraid I would...

spend my stimulus check on something crazy.

mdiver said:

but I am such a scarredy cat, I lean against the wall while going down on the elevator just incase it drops, dumb me thinks this will save me.

Slave2daGroove said:

why not?!....I already know what kind of drawz you wear.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

If it all goes wrong....only the last 2 inches hurt enjoy the ride