I was not going to put this up at all but speaking with a friend he gave me an idea.
In brief, my ex died. He had been in a seven year relationship with someone else and his family doesn't know me or how to contact me without making an affirmative effort to do so (they know people who could reach me- like his partner in Houston or family friends in CA). Although we hadn't seen each other in over seven years we usually spoke at least once a week on Fridays.
There was a memorial service in Houston,TX where he lived but he is from San Francisco, CA. I am getting the impression that if there is a service in S.F. I will not be invited or informed.
Despite how I feel about that it is what it is.
A friend suggested holding my own memorial service for him but I don't know what or how to do that. Open to any ideas.
Thanx in advance for condolences, best wishes, prayers, and love.

the park, a picture, a candle, his favorite song.

set up the picture, light the candle, play his favorite song.

write some things you want to say to him and you want him to remember.

burn that paper or pieces of paper.

leave a flower by a tree and remember the good times

sorry for your loss.

i'd just take some time for self-reflection and introspection. trying to organize an event like a memorial would probably not be as productive because of the hard work and labor of trying to find friends/associates who would participate on short notice. if you do find enough friends, keep it simple and go out to dinner or lunch and remember the good times.

good luck

that is sad news
I guess you could get together all the photos of you two, all the things that meant a lot to the 2 of you, find the songs that were special from that time. Relive your memories, if you can write, maybe write a poem about him, all the things you miss, all the things that drove you nuts, all the fun things you did, the times that were rough. Remember him with respect and love.
I've never had to do a thing like this yet, but I've mourned passed relationship before.
It's a very sweet thing for you to want to do

ehuffnsd said:

That's beautiful

i'm unable to answer your question but you do have my deepest condolences.

I am so sorry.

A donation to his favorite charity would be a nice way to honor him.

littlemissG said:

This is a good one.

I would donate to Obama, he was a political junkie. (Did I just type 'was'? )
He was so excited. I just knew he would be here to see Obama at win the election if not his inauguration.

ehuffnsd said:

I like this a lot. Thanx.
I still can't look at pictures of us.
I still see him in my mind and I know where the picture are but I can't bear to look at them.

SUPRMAN said:

my thoughts are with you.

Many lovely suggestions have already been given on this thread, and so I offer just my condolences. I am very sorry for your loss, SUPRMAN.