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Printablesuperkiss said: wildgoldenhoney said: Why do you presume to try to 'teach' anyone? I don't want to learn anything from you.  how bout we start by teaching you not to stalk people like me just cuz u dont like what they say? clearly ur askin to be taught cuz u havent learned that lesson yet.  Oooohhh, teach me!  | |
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wildgoldenhoney said: superkiss said: how bout we start by teaching you not to stalk people like me just cuz u dont like what they say? clearly ur askin to be taught cuz u havent learned that lesson yet. Oooohhh, teach me!  | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Mach said: 
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wildgoldenhoney said: superkiss said: how bout we start by teaching you not to stalk people like me just cuz u dont like what they say? clearly ur askin to be taught cuz u havent learned that lesson yet. Oooohhh, teach me!  | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: I'm not saying I am not but the question does beg an answer. After a few years the roaming spirit in me wants a whole differnt direction.
Is it that people change every so many years? Yep. Every single day in fact. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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shanti0608 said: HamsterHuey said: Thanks for being so open, Val. Relationships are hard at times, but I am still hoping to find someone I have a natural report with. My tendency has been to fall for guys that are totally opposite of myself, resulting in two long relationships that were filled with battle and not much peace of mind. Lots of love, just not peace of mind, the fighting eventually breaking the second relation apart (the first one did not last because of other reasons). But as you, I see the pattern and try to break through it. Real hard, considering that indeed this pattern is forced on me unsuspectedly, so it created unsuspected pits to fall in. But being aware of the pattern helps cutting through the crap WAY quicker than I used to be able to.  Well it can go both ways. My first long term relationship started having serious problems because we were too different and we struggled to meet in the middle on things. The reason for me finally throwing in the towel was due to something that I felt I could not get past nor forgive him for. I was not going to make both of us suffer together when I was filled with rage and hurt that I could not heal from while we were together. So after that I fell for someone that was too much like me. In the beginning it was great, no effort really. No compromises..it just worked for us. He was safe and I did not have to worry about struggling with the same issues that I had before. After some time though I started to realise that neither one of us was growing. We were so much alike that we did not encourage change and it got stagnate. There were other issues that ended up forcing me to make a move and end it so we could both find some happiness. It is tough to find a balance. I am hoping that I finally found the right balance for me and for him as well. Both parties have to be committed and have the same goals. It is not an easy thing to find. Reading this really made me thankful for my husband. I found someone with whom I have many shared interests and views, which makes it easy to deeply enjoy the time we spend together, and provides a kind of built-in glue for our personalities. And at the same time, we have wildly differing views on many important topics, and vastly different life experiences to balance the ones that seem eerily almost identical. This keeps things spicy and provides a great opportunity to learn from each other, to question our own long-held views and assumptions, and to have really fun play-fights.  The Normal Whores Club | |
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FunkMistress said: shanti0608 said: Well it can go both ways. My first long term relationship started having serious problems because we were too different and we struggled to meet in the middle on things. The reason for me finally throwing in the towel was due to something that I felt I could not get past nor forgive him for. I was not going to make both of us suffer together when I was filled with rage and hurt that I could not heal from while we were together. So after that I fell for someone that was too much like me. In the beginning it was great, no effort really. No compromises..it just worked for us. He was safe and I did not have to worry about struggling with the same issues that I had before. After some time though I started to realise that neither one of us was growing. We were so much alike that we did not encourage change and it got stagnate. There were other issues that ended up forcing me to make a move and end it so we could both find some happiness. It is tough to find a balance. I am hoping that I finally found the right balance for me and for him as well. Both parties have to be committed and have the same goals. It is not an easy thing to find. Reading this really made me thankful for my husband. I found someone with whom I have many shared interests and views, which makes it easy to deeply enjoy the time we spend together, and provides a kind of built-in glue for our personalities. And at the same time, we have wildly differing views on many important topics, and vastly different life experiences to balance the ones that seem eerily almost identical. This keeps things spicy and provides a great opportunity to learn from each other, to question our own long-held views and assumptions, and to have really fun play-fights. I like it spicy  | |
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JustErin said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: In the end, isn't that all you can do? Well ya, but at least I am not delusional about the "forever and ever" thing that many people are. What's so delusional about that if it does work for some couples? | |
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I cannot help but stray.sex and love are seperate.I dont know forever yet but it is a goal I always wory about lies and being mind-fucked. I hate it!
It it is what kills me emotionally. live simply,love generously, care deeply,speak kindly, be loyal | |
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the reason i want the one-on-one forever thing at this point in my life is because i'm ready to start getting serious about having a home and a family and enjoying the domestic aspects of being in a relationship. i mean, i'm 37 - i wanna remodel some shit and varnish some chairs and things.
at this point, while i enjoy the lovey-dovey romantic headbuzz of being very much in love with someone, i'm more digging on the practical bliss of being in a relationship than i have in the past. it's something that matters to me now, and it's something i enjoy being a part of. | |
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Anxiety said: the reason i want the one-on-one forever thing at this point in my life is because i'm ready to start getting serious about having a home and a family and enjoying the domestic aspects of being in a relationship. i mean, i'm 37 - i wanna remodel some shit and varnish some chairs and things.
at this point, while i enjoy the lovey-dovey romantic headbuzz of being very much in love with someone, i'm more digging on the practical bliss of being in a relationship than i have in the past. it's something that matters to me now, and it's something i enjoy being a part of. I summed my feelings up better than you did. | |
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Imago said: Anxiety said: the reason i want the one-on-one forever thing at this point in my life is because i'm ready to start getting serious about having a home and a family and enjoying the domestic aspects of being in a relationship. i mean, i'm 37 - i wanna remodel some shit and varnish some chairs and things.
at this point, while i enjoy the lovey-dovey romantic headbuzz of being very much in love with someone, i'm more digging on the practical bliss of being in a relationship than i have in the past. it's something that matters to me now, and it's something i enjoy being a part of. I summed my feelings up better than you did. that's because nobody on god's grey earth could possibly understand love like you do right now, as you've repeatedly pointed out for us. | |
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Anxiety said: Imago said: I summed my feelings up better than you did. that's because nobody on god's grey earth could possibly understand love like you do right now, as you've repeatedly pointed out for us. You're angry at my love. Give in, Anx. Just give in to it. | |
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Anxiety said: the reason i want the one-on-one forever thing at this point in my life is because i'm ready to start getting serious about having a home and a family and enjoying the domestic aspects of being in a relationship. i mean, i'm 37 - i wanna remodel some shit and varnish some chairs and things.
at this point, while i enjoy the lovey-dovey romantic headbuzz of being very much in love with someone, i'm more digging on the practical bliss of being in a relationship than i have in the past. it's something that matters to me now, and it's something i enjoy being a part of. Damn 37 must be the age to settle down and varnish some shit. Well I am almost 37 (  ) and I was staining and sealing some garden furniture yesterday.
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shanti0608 said: Anxiety said: the reason i want the one-on-one forever thing at this point in my life is because i'm ready to start getting serious about having a home and a family and enjoying the domestic aspects of being in a relationship. i mean, i'm 37 - i wanna remodel some shit and varnish some chairs and things.
at this point, while i enjoy the lovey-dovey romantic headbuzz of being very much in love with someone, i'm more digging on the practical bliss of being in a relationship than i have in the past. it's something that matters to me now, and it's something i enjoy being a part of. Damn 37 must be the age to settle down and varnish some shit. Well I am almost 37 ( ) and I was staining and sealing some garden furniture yesterday.
I stain things better than you do, I think. | |
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Imago said: shanti0608 said: Damn 37 must be the age to settle down and varnish some shit. Well I am almost 37 ( ) and I was staining and sealing some garden furniture yesterday.
I stain things better than you do, I think. I am NOT touching that comment.  | |
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shanti0608 said: Imago said: I stain things better than you do, I think. I am NOT touching that comment.
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Anxiety said: Imago said: I summed my feelings up better than you did. that's because nobody on god's grey earth could possibly understand love like you do right now, as you've repeatedly pointed out for us. |
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CarrieMpls said: Anxiety said: that's because nobody on god's grey earth could possibly understand love like you do right now, as you've repeatedly pointed out for us. Stop hatin'  and let my love get up on ya!
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I would love to find "the one" but honestly I don't think it's going to happen for me. I'm okay with it. I haven't given up I've just become a realist. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: I would love to find "the one" but honestly I don't think it's going to happen for me. I'm okay with it. I haven't given up I've just become a realist.
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Both of you guys are catches so it is going to take two amazing ppl to be good enough.
I am keeping my eyes out over here for both of you btw.  | |
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shanti0608 said: Both of you guys are catches so it is going to take two amazing ppl to be good enough.
I am keeping my eyes out over here for both of you btw. Thanks, lady! |
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CarrieMpls said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: I would love to find "the one" but honestly I don't think it's going to happen for me. I'm okay with it. I haven't given up I've just become a realist.
Same. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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shanti0608 said: Both of you guys are catches so it is going to take two amazing ppl to be good enough.
I am keeping my eyes out over here for both of you btw. Well I do declare..... MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: I would love to find "the one" but honestly I don't think it's going to happen for me. I'm okay with it. I haven't given up I've just become a realist.
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: PaisleyPark5083 said: I am totally for the forever thing, being married for 24 years, 25 coming august 6th!! Of course if I was not with the man I am now, I may have a different opinion. But I love the history that comes with being with the same person for so long. Both of my parents have now passed on, no one else could know what they were like and why I am the way I am without actually knowing them. My husbands Mother has passed, and she was a witch, god bless her, but she was...but I am glad I met her and now understand some of my husbands quirks. I love the fact we can go back in time in our conversations, and say "remember when" and we both do, we can go back in our thoughts 27 years!! Back when we were both young, not a grey hair or wrinkle insight. I adore him, and he adores me. Our love only get's stronger with time. I would never dump him to start over, dear god no..
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shanti0608 said: PaisleyPark5083 said: I am totally for the forever thing, being married for 24 years, 25 coming august 6th!! Of course if I was not with the man I am now, I may have a different opinion. But I love the history that comes with being with the same person for so long. Both of my parents have now passed on, no one else could know what they were like and why I am the way I am without actually knowing them. My husbands Mother has passed, and she was a witch, god bless her, but she was...but I am glad I met her and now understand some of my husbands quirks. I love the fact we can go back in time in our conversations, and say "remember when" and we both do, we can go back in our thoughts 27 years!! Back when we were both young, not a grey hair or wrinkle insight. I adore him, and he adores me. Our love only get's stronger with time. I would never dump him to start over, dear god no..
Bless you both and your family. You have something very special and unique...your doing the right thing by cherishing it and nourishing it so it keeps growing stronger over time.  Thanks Val!
I wish you and Phil a wonderful marriage filled with love and blessings!! p.s. don't sweat the little things, my tip to you! | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: shanti0608 said: Bless you both and your family. You have something very special and unique...your doing the right thing by cherishing it and nourishing it so it keeps growing stronger over time. Thanks Val!
I wish you and Phil a wonderful marriage filled with love and blessings!! p.s. don't sweat the little things, my tip to you! Thank you
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