I'm not saying I am not but the question does beg an answer. After a few years the roaming spirit in me wants a whole differnt direction.

Is it that people change every so many years?

I wonder. Not because I don't think I'm capable but I don't think most are. I have more or less made peace with getting my connections where I can find them and butterfly my way through my life.

Only every day of my life.

and

i kinda need to feel that the person in question will make me want to stay for a real long time, and then at that point, i would accommodate because clearly they'd do the same.

Some people need "change" every few years. Boredom starts to get the best of them and they need a good challenge, and/or feel the need to learn something new. These are the folks that take on an challenged job or a job that changes and /or advances every few years. This means they will need to update their skills by going back to school or attending field courses.


Some people fear change, and NEED to keep the same routine to keep going in life.Boredom is good, and they know what to expect day in and day out. These are the people that stay at the same job, doing the same thing for many, many years.


Then there are others who welcome a bit of change, but WILL NOT wonder off their
"paths" too much. Seems they change jobs every 5-7 years. Some excitement is good, and they welcome it.


Then there are there are the fearless ones who need change all the time. The wont stay at the same job, hobbies, relationships, hair, nails for more than a season at a time.

Im the type that doesnt like to change to much when it comes to my job and my personal life. I like a good challenge every now and then.

....and as with most things in life I am a walking contradiction.

Ive had the same job for 22 years and I love it. My children have been steadfast and solid. On the other handdddd I thrive on new experiences, places and paople.

No, I'm pretty certain that a "forever" thing is for me. Shucks, at this point, I'm into the "doing mundane stuff together" (like shopping or cooking) and chilling with family and such.

I'm starting to sound like Babyface.

ThreadBare said:

i so don't have a crush on you anymore.

ThreadBare said:

No, you know I very much get that but once one obtains this, years down the road does familiarity breed contempt?







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I don't ever look at relationships as "forever and ever".

I look at them as "right nows" and if that happens to last 'til death do us part, then so be it, if not, then so be it.

JustErin said:

In the end, isn't that all you can do?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well ya, but at least I am not delusional about the "forever and ever" thing that many people are.

JustErin said:

Ok, how come you can say that and if I dare question peoples ability to have successful/healthy relationships I am a villanous satan?
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Because everyone hates a woman hater.

Stymie said:

Hahaha!

All I know is, in 1989, the sisters were swoonin' over this song. And, the brothers were like: "It's just a song... Get real."

ThreadBare said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I think it can, depending on the couple. One couple's groove can be another's rut, I suppose.

JustErin said:

ThreadBare said:

chilling with family




forgot the g
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ZombieKitten said:

forgetting the g...

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

ThreadBare said:

ThreadBare said:

It was a great comeback

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

i think it is possible, but it is not easy and it is not cut-and-dried.

i think the trick is finding someone who likes you for exactly who you are (to steal a line from 'juno'), and who LIKES you enough to stick with you when your feelings aren't exactly centered around them, but only with the knowledge that no matter what, you two are home base for each other.

and, of course, vice versa. they have to know you feel that way about them.

i think human beings go through different moods and feelings and highs and lows. i think we always want some kind of attachment to someone or something else, or some kind of connection. but even those needs might take on different forms throughout our lives. if we can create understandings with our partners that we're allowed to experience these phases and support ourselves and each other through them, then there's a good start.

but to expect honeymoon phase intensity through a lifetime relationship is just a set-up for failure, at least in my opinion and experience.

Damn

So much black and white


It's all about the gray zones

Mach said:

i feel sorry for people who can't see the gray. the gray is where the good stuff is.

Anxiety said:

Very much hear you. I was very guilty of being an infatuation junkie for a good while. I pulled out of the game entirely for the last 4 years to re-valuate and clear my head. Reapproaching the runway, i am just thinking all these things through.

Anxiety said:

gray gravy

Anxiety said:

I for one am thankful for the gray..... My whole existence is rather in the gray.