JasmineFire said:

Seriously
Especially if the man has a family.
They wouldn't want to be hurt like that themselves. Damn skanky ass hos better leave my baby Daddy alone.

He's good looking but he often has dragon breath and stinky feet AND he pulls the blankets up over my head when he farts. And he can fart on command. Also he's a workaholic
Do they really think they want that? .

If someone starts flirting with my fiance in public I just lay a long kiss right on him until they go away. He says its a turn on when I'm all possessive,
so the more they flirt with him the better our happy ending is.
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Since you said that he's unattainable, you have to distance yourself from him, if possible.
Time and distance work wonders. Also finding someone who is available helps a lot.

i agree with what both carrienpls in and jerseykrs said. however i think the ultimate piece of advice is to stop looking at him and only communicate through IM.

2Jay said:

That's good advice if he's unattatched but if he's with someone, she is probably looking over his shoulder at least some of the time. You don't know who sees the IMs.
People should try not to crush on people who are already in a relationship, it savs a lot of pain for everyone.

shellyevon said:

so..um...why do you want that? just askin'...

JasmineFire said:

I ask myself that all the time
We're both insane but in different ways. I put up with a lot of his crap and he puts up with mine.

SirPsycho said:

you are wise.

PurpleRighteous1 said:

I HATE IT!!!

JessieJ said:

it sucks doesn't it!!!

Most of the advice that's on this thread is quite good BUT unfortunately I have the same kind of problem and I don't think the whole "distance" thing would work for me since I WORK with her.
To make things worse (or better, depends on how you view it), she confronted me about it few weeks ago when we were both at a club downtown.. she told me she knew I had a crush on her and she told me she liked me alot but that she had just hooked up again with her old bf. A few days after all this I got friggin' chickenpox and I've been away from work for the past two weeks but on Monday we'll see if things get embarassing and if my "crush" has faded.

veronikka said:

Yeah, it does

JessieJ said:

Dutch Ovens usually work

my sister and i were talking about this today as she would always want to uncrush a crush - so to speak

so we've come up with a system - all of yous/us should try

write out all the reasons the crushee does not deserve the crusher

sure, it sounds a whole lot like pros and cons, but really, this kinda helps you in a way too, no??

my sister came up with it so matter - of - factly, it was kind of strange.

ok Rhonda, get to it!

Rhondab said:

Why can you not just feel what you feel without wanting or not wanting to feel it? Just because you have a crush doesn't mean you have to act on it or not act on it. If the friendship is more important to you, then you develop the friendship, nurture the friendship. It doesn't mean that you won't crush on him, but it can mean that you will always act from a place of love and caring, rather than a place of desire. I guess I've always felt that when we try to stifle what we feel, we are more apt to create more adverse feelings, rather than more positive feelings. If you stifle your crush, you are more likely to end up resenting him and losing the friendship. The key isn't to uncrush your crush, the key is in realizing it for what it is, and not clinging to an outcome or to a desire.

sammij said:

do I have to....

LittleRedCorvette said:

the sane part of my brain...completely agrees with you

Rhondab said:

girl, if you don't his fine self will be haunting your dreams nightly.


did i say fine?
xnay on the inefay....


orrrgnote

sammij said: