I'm tired of being alone on Friday night. For those who don't know, I'm newly single. My Friday nights were previously spent with him, either we were out and about or I was his house or he at mine. So now that i've had enough sense to break it off with a person who I found really wasn't for me, I find myself alone. My friends (the ones with no kids) seem to all be busy, no where to be found. My other friends have kids to tend to. I find myself slowly drifting back to the kind of thinking I had when I first broke up with him..."he's probably already out with someone else while i'm sitting here like a fool with nothing to do". I know I shouldn't think that way, but I can't help it. I don't have low self-esteem...if I did i'd still be with him I don't feel like I need a man to have a good time or to feel important...but at the same time I do like having fun. What do you do when the people who can help you are no where to be found? I'm starting to feel lonely.

Oh hun!

Enjoy your time and freedom to go out and about without answering to anyone.

It's also a time for reflection and moving on.

Are you looking to get back in the dating game while you are on the rebound??

Welcome to my world...

chocolate1 said:

yes, welcome...

misread.
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you know what YOU need to do?

you need to march yourself outside, go to the video store, rent an obscene pile of DVDs that you've always wanted to see but never had the time to watch, then go to your local barnes and noble or borders and get yourself a big fat stack of magazines - gossip rags, film magazines, hairdo mags, new yorker, whatever. get 'em all. get a couple of CDs while you're there, too!

then you go home, put on your comfiest clothes - that nasty looking t-shirt with all the holes in it? YEAH, THOSE CLOTHES. and you order some take-out and you plant your butt on the sofa and you read your magazines and watch your movies and don't let ANYONE distract you.

THAT is how you deal with being alone on a weekend.



just don't do it ALL the time, heh.

luv4u said:

Well I don't know. I'm not pressed to date anyone at the moment, but it would be nice to have a guy to hang out with. I all for "whatever happens, happens". I know its a period of reflecting, that seems to be all i've been doing lately, but today it was driving me nuts. I've been focusing on losing weight, i've been to the gym 3 times this week and plan on going in the morning as well and i've changed my eating habits...as now I'm able to since i'm not going out to eat as much as I was before.

I don't have no problem going to the movies by myself, but I don't do that at night, only in the daytime. If I do go at night i'll probably end up running into someone I know, and I'll be damned if I run into him while i'm by myself and he has a date or something. I was thinking of going to the museum tomorrow too, but I just don't know what to do with myself at night when no one else is available.

sammij said:

mine too

I actually don't mind it too much

Anxiety said:

I hear you, but I can't do the "order out" thing while keeping busy anymore. That's how I gained weight while I was with him (and he was out with his friends). I ordered a pizza the first week after our breakup and ate it all within two days. That wasn't healthy.

My main goal is preparing myself for that guy that i'm supposed to be with. Or whoever I meet that will understand me and appreciate me. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with what I look like now, but I know I can look a whole lot better. I want to be a knock out. And i'm especially tired of my clothes feeling snug on me.

missfee said:

i think you're missing the point.

just do things for yourself that you never had time to do.

missfee said:

okay, so you buy a few lean cuisines (the veggie eggroll one is delicious) or you make a big pot of brown rice and veggies. the point is, let yourself escape for a while. indulge yourself. BE the person who you want spoiling you.

JasmineFire said:

No I understand exactly what Anxiety is saying, I was just explaining about the take out part, but I know what the deal is, to watch old black and white movies, particularly the ones with Brando, or read a book that I'm interested in reading.

Anxiety said:

ok.

missfee said:

exactly. some people call it having a lost weekend. whatever you want to call it, sometimes it's just nice to turn your brain off and wallow in creature comforts for a day or two.

missfee said:

take a bubble bath!

i'm contemplating one right now, just pamper yourself

sammij said:

I will

But one thing I do know is that I WILL be going to see the "Sex And The City" movie, even if I have to go by myself. I'm a big Sex and the City fan. I've been refreshing myself on the past seasons lately...that seems to be kind of fun.

missfee said:

there you go.

missfee said:

i'll be watching MXC

I'm not single, but I sit here by myself every saturday night.

The upside that I can think of

Saturday nights = snoring free!

Feeling abandoned is such a nasty ass feeling, isn't it?

I can totally relate cause I've been there. It's too sad but just think that it's time you can spend with yourself