Ocean said:

Imago said:

That pole wanted me!!!!

JustErin said:

*note to self - start obsessing over JustErin*

Ocean said:

Are you talking about Rushing07

OK, so here's a little addition to the story. This past weekend, my friend asked me to come to the bar and hang out. (collage town, massive amounts of people in a large group). At the end of the night, my friend went off with some other jackass. At 3 in the morning, as I stewed in my pity, I deleted her from my life. Deleting her off Facebook, that sort of thing, and I sent her a very harsh text which said: "you invite me out, i buy you drinks all night and you blow me off. don't call me...ever. delete this number from your phone"

The next day I left an apology on voicemail. She still hasn't contacted me. Now I fear I've blown the friendship...or she's just letting me grovel for a bit.

Ocean said:

Are you talking about Rushing07

Imago said:

someone told me that he and i would make a cute couple. do you agree?

R3V said:

flames on the side of my face... breath.. heaving breaths...

Ocean said:

Are you talking about Rushing07

Imago said:

You chase them until, well, you have boiled their family pet in a pot, threatened their whole family, broken into their house and basically been knifed to death in their bath.


Then you can stop, if you like.

You're probably not going to want to hear this but you've totally blown this. Not that you ever had it, but that last meltdown you had certainly has sealed it for you.

For what it's worth, the "chasing" scenario hardly ever works out.

I can only think of one time where chasing someone sort of worked out for me, but even then things really didn't turn around until i'd made up my mind that it was over and had moved on and she changed her mind about me.

Bottom line is this. Desperation is NOT attractive.
Move on. She might come around, but probably won't.
Life's too short and there are too many people in the world that you haven't met to get really hung up on one.

Next!

NOT interested???

R3V said:

i'm a firm believe of the power of giving hea...

uhh

healthy handshakes

6 months ago, I started dating this girl. We dated for 2 months, then she said she just wanted to be friends, so we became friends. I still had feelings, of course. So I started trying to set up great dates, as friends, thinking I could still woo her over. We continued to be "friends" yet I kept trying. Now its out of control, I've confessed my love for her but she laughs it off. Its killin me, lol. I'm totally whipped on this girl, my friend.

mdiver said:

This concept is new to you? I mean really, women have been doing this for years hoping the guy will eventually come around. It's not like this guy (although I am suprised that a guy is openly admitting this) is the first to ever do this.

JustErin said:

Guys do shit like that all the time too, they just try and hide it.
Actually funny story/true story i had a situation last summer where i was hanging out with a girl and the agreement was that i didn't want anything serious (and she of course agreed but was LYING) so she was i guess in effect "chasing" me. So what happens? We stop seeing each other and then my best friend decides that she's the prefect girl so they hang out and he starts "chasing" her and then she wasn't interested.

I'm thinking that the whole "chasing" approach doesn't work for either sex.

until you get tired of chasing and someone new comes along who interests you, at which point the former object of your affection will notice that you are suddenly unavailable and that will magically make you at least 50% more attractive to her, at which point it will be a moot point for you other than maybe you can laugh at how the tables have turned and now you're making her miserable, which is always a healthy way to approach things. love is magical.