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PrintableMuse2NOPharaoh said: applekisses said:    He just sent it to me!
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applekisses said: ZombieKitten said: It could also be cultural. I have met many people in Australia from Europe (mostly aquaintances of my parents), who find themselves with few friends, because their way of being "helpful" (as they like to think of it) in a rather blunt manner, comes across as judgemental or critical. They never meant any malice.
If faced by someone's "correction", I will always take it. It goes against my first reaction perhaps, but nearly always produces the least worst outcome. I see what you're saying. I see it in my Eastern European friends and family. Criticism can be seen as something healthy and helpful - and I think it's all in the delivery. The "advice" (even if it's unwelcome ) given by those who care about us I think might be a little different. I don't think those folks use what they say for any sort of self-satisfaction or for trying to one-up another. I think they're just nosey and blunt  yeah that is what it is!!! | |
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superkiss said: Muse2NOPharaoh said:  Gotcha... still good to answer frankly.  As to my question, does your IP register a second more known screename? Huh, friend?unless i've got a twin out there i dont know about.. no. superkiss said: mine, duh.
 Uppertwist said: lottielooloo1968 said: love & sweetness rules ok!
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wildgoldenhoney said: superkiss said: duh. | |
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MsLegs said: wildgoldenhoney said:
Hi LittleMsLegs.  | |
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wildgoldenhoney said: MsLegs said:
Hi LittleMsLegs. Hey Wild | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Why is it ( I've seen this a lot on here) that many feel the need to exert power through correction of others short comings? This is not to say share a solicited opinion but assert one where it was never asked for?
Is it that one supposes the subject doesn't know their own short comings? Is it some form of expectations one holds themselves to and thus measures all others by? If so, is it not more-so about you and flagging your strenghs in the first place? I find condescension one of the lowest forms of human communication. Do you yourself feel that you learned or improved by a demeaning remark sent your way? If not, why perpetrate it against others? If a believer, do you feel that God has ever dealt with you that way and hence you benefited from it? Then why pray tell do you believe another would? In all cases where one is condemning/patronizing another they preceive as 'inferior' to them self... I have found it to be rooted in their own fears and insecurities. Carl Jung says that everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. So we all have that choice, project or inner reflection. love,light & peace ~ Ginnie "Well shes walking through the clouds with a circus mind thats running round; Butterflies and zebras and moonbeams and fairy tales thats all she ever thinks about, riding with the wind." | |
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The importance of being earnest!
Some are just control freaks. Others are just insecure and feel superior when "correcting" somebody else. I don't know the answer to your question actually.. | |
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