superkiss said:

Gotcha... still good to answer frankly. As to my question, does your IP register a second more known screename? Huh, friend?

Imago said:

Its really quaint having a clickish sort of invasion thrown in my thread.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

wait

I'm not 100% sure why, but I suspect you could probably pull out a couple of the 7 deadly sins and build a thesis around that .

There's nothing I hate more than someone who criticizes me but doesn't have the nerve to be direct about it--sort of like a back handed compliment's twin sister ,so to speak.

Sometimes they get what they want--a rise out of me, for I'm only human--I DO feel pangs of negative emotions if the stimulus hits in the right place, at the right time, and unfortunately I act out in anger and all the other pointless expressions that don't help the situation.

But there's a famous buddhist quote that I always wish I could live by (I don't , but still want to): Do not judge. Go and help.





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Mach said:

I'm not 100% sure why, but I suspect you could probably pull out a couple of the 7 deadly sins and build a thesis around that .

There's nothing I hate more than someone who criticizes me but doesn't have the nerve to be direct about it--sort of like a back handed compliment's twin sister ,so to speak.

Sometimes they get what they want--a rise out of me, for I'm only human--I DO feel pangs of negative emotions if the stimulus hits in the right place, at the right time, and unfortunately I act out in anger and all the other pointless expressions that don't help the situation.

But there's a famous buddhist quote that I always wish I could live by (I don't , but still want to): Do not judge. Go and help.





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In all seriousness, it's the last refuge in an argument or debate. They can't (or won't) intelligently and compassionately state theire own beliefs or defend their position so they go on the attack of the "little" things about the other person.

I correct Dan's spelling all the time beacause frankly, it's atrocious.

CarrieMpls said:

This is true, but I think Karen's talking about someone who resorts to this behavior as normal business. Like just in passing, etc. etc.--THAT's rather toxic actually.

I've known folks like that--folks in marriages, with children actually. I always wonder how the hell they can live their daily lives being so toxic in family settings.

Why is it ( I've seen this a lot on here) that many feel the need to exert power through correction of others short comings? This is not to say share a solicited opinion but assert one where it was never asked for?

Is it that one supposes the subject doesn't know their own short comings?

Is it some form of expectations one holds themselves to and thus measures all others by? If so, is it not more-so about you and flagging your strenghs in the first place?

I find condescension one of the lowest forms of human communication.

Do you yourself feel that you learned or improved by a demeaning remark sent your way? If not, why perpetrate it against others?

If a believer, do you feel that God has ever dealt with you that way and hence you benefited from it? Then why pray tell do you believe another would?

I had cause to ask myself this question the other day... I think it's because people are either jealous or insecure. People suck.

Why is it ( I've seen this a lot on here) that many feel the need to exert power through correction of others short comings? This is not to say share a solicited opinion but assert one where it was never asked for?

Is it that one supposes the subject doesn't know their own short comings?

Is it some form of expectations one holds themselves to and thus measures all others by? If so, is it not more-so about you and flagging your strenghs in the first place?

I find condescension one of the lowest forms of human communication.

Do you yourself feel that you learned or improved by a demeaning remark sent your way? If not, why perpetrate it against others?

If a believer, do you feel that God has ever dealt with you that way and hence you benefited from it? Then why pray tell do you believe another would?

Many people excuse their own faults but judge other persons harshly.

We should reverse this attitude by excusing others' shortcomings and by harshly examining our own.

It could also be cultural. I have met many people in Australia from Europe (mostly aquaintances of my parents), who find themselves with few friends, because their way of being "helpful" (as they like to think of it) in a rather blunt manner, comes across as judgemental or critical. They never meant any malice.

If faced by someone's "correction", I will always take it. It goes against my first reaction perhaps, but nearly always produces the least worst outcome.

ZombieKitten said:

I think you're onto something there.

I also think it's difficult, in this kind of setting, to divine peoples' true meaning. If a person says what they think in a forthright way or without using "post lube" - etc. - they can be labeled as rude or condescending...when that really isn't the spirit in which their remarks were conceived.

I think people need to cut each other some slack in both directions.

i think people who do this are 1) their own worst enemy, neglecting their own personal development in favor of trying to block someone else's; and 2) utilizing the cheapest of cheap ways to make themselves feel a little taller - by cutting the legs out from under someone else.

Many people excuse their own faults but judge other persons harshly.

We should reverse this attitude by excusing others' shortcomings and by harshly examining our own.

Genesia said:

It would be ill received if spoken outside of relationship.... Meaning to say, if you haven't an established connection based in best interest of the individual likely you will be rebuked.

However, I wasnt speaking to this form of communication myself.

zombie!!

muse!!

apples!!

dang! i feel like dancing

im at a wedding-pin striped suit n pink shirt

oh sorry-yeah muse anybodys mean to you ill track em down

It could also be cultural. I have met many people in Australia from Europe (mostly aquaintances of my parents), who find themselves with few friends, because their way of being "helpful" (as they like to think of it) in a rather blunt manner, comes across as judgemental or critical. They never meant any malice.

If faced by someone's "correction", I will always take it. It goes against my first reaction perhaps, but nearly always produces the least worst outcome.

jonylawson said:

Pictures!

Muse2NOPharaoh said: