Do you have a problem with your significant other traveling without you? Or are you secure enough to actually condone it and actually suggest that he/she go on trips without you?

Would you ever tell your significant other that he or she cannot go to specific destinations? Why? Or is your trust just not solid?

I travel all the time without my partner. It costs way too much for me to go back home and take him with me. Now if it's a real vacation...we go together.

I love to travel and it's my favorite hobby, so I might have a problem if I wanted to go and he told me I couldn't.
But if he's traveling with "the guys" and/or going somewhere I have no interest in going (say, the antarctic) then he can go and have a ball without me. I'd most certainly expect the same in return.

What is the purpose of the travel?
What is the reason they want to travel without me?

I would never tell my significant other not to travel alone if she wants to. But if it's for a vacation, it woul raise question why she needs a vacation from me too, and why would she prefer to enjoy a vacation without me.

Do you have a problem with your significant other traveling without you? Zero issue with it

Or are you secure enough to actually condone it and actually suggest that he/she go on trips without you? Yes and Yes

Would you ever tell your significant other that he or she cannot go to specific destinations? No

is your trust just solid? 100%


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i would totally encourage it. just because we're a "we" doesn't mean he stops being a "he" and i quit being an "i". being able to have our own lives is what keeps the life we have together alive and kicking. i would never want to drain the person i'm with of the individuality that makes them special to me, and part of that is letting them pursue their interests and dreams however they need or want to do it. it doesn't bother me at all.

ArielB said:

Because she is with you all year long...why not let her have a break from you?

Mach said:

I love you gurl!!

Whap!

Anxiety said:

DexMSR said:

Love you back - huge

Please, I wouldnt even DATE someone that needed so much of me as to consider saying no!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I hear that shit!!!

WHAP!!

It wouldn't bother me if I hd a partner that they went alone without me. But back in the 90's when I was first starting to travel I had a jealous boyfriend.

He wouldn't save up his money so he could go with me but he still didn't want me to got anywhere either!!! It is part of the reason he is an ex!!

I don't and can't have somebody up underneath me all the time anyway. I want you to have your own hobbies and interests I know I do!! So one person can be your everything to you anyways.

do it all the time, never gave much thought about it

Mach said:

Co-Whap sign sisterfriend. It all about having communication with your man. Dig it!

I'd be in deep trouble if I told him he couldn't travel without me...since he's on the road about two weeks out of four for his job.

We both do a share of independent traveling for pleasure. There's no way he'd go to all the Prince shows I want to go to...and lord knows I don't want to go to all those biker things.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Case Closed.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Since we both travel for work we would be in deep trouble if it were an issue.

I went to Paris by myself for 2 weeks a couple of years ago, I spent a week in silence at a Buddhist monastery last year....I have had several holidays through the years without him....we frequently take vacations separately and together, just depends upon how it works out.

But, if he wants to go on holiday without me, that is perfectly fine.....just return home with expensive gifts (just kidding!).

Anxiety said:

Exactly. It's all about trust, communication, & bond. Once those 3 in place, the rest comes all together.

I travel alot on my own for work, which I actually enjoy, so I really dont care if my partner travels on his own either. Obviously if we are holidaying together we travel together, but there is something really relaxing about switching off and relaxing, no responsibilities, nothing you can do.. on a long haul flight

DexMSR said:

Nope. Ideally, you get to travel together. But, if that's not possible, go for it.

DexMSR said:

I am completely fine with this. My ex traveled without me all the time. He went and did things on his own and I went and did things on my own. Of course you should make sure that you don't spend so much money doing your own thing that you never have time to do things together as a family though.

I suggested that my ex go to Hawaii with a friend to see a concert. I was totally fine with it. I took a cruise with my mom for a mother/daughter trip. He was totally fine with it.

I think it's healthy to spend time apart.

He never wanted to go anywhere questionable. So I never had to face that scenario, but I'm sure there are certain trips that might bother me. For example, if it were with a bunch of single guys and they were going to some Hedonism resort then hell yeah I would say no. But, he never wanted to do that and the person I'm with now would not want to do that either, so I can't forsee it being an issue.

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hokie said:

Whap!!

hokie said:

pardonme4livin said:

Hey, I can't help that what I've got is so good that he doesn't want to look elsewhere.

DexMSR said:

True. I've never been in a long relationship, so I never needed a vacation from my partner.
I trust her, so I don't mind. I'm sure there are things that she likes that I'd rather not do and the other way around.

hokie said:

Me and my bf both have been travelling on our own and I never had a problem with it, even if he shared the room with another lady. I know I can trust him.