Well i'm going through it once again. He didn't cheat on me, he didn't hit me, he didn't call me out my name, he didn't emotionally abuse me, he didn't try to kill me....he told me that he wasn't happy with himself, and I realized why WE were so unhappy together. He didn't know what he wanted out of life. So I had to make a decision. You know they say when you really love someone, you have to let them go. Well i'm trying to do that, but its so damn hard. I still love him so much, I miss him terribly, but he had to find himself. He has to make himself happy before I can even begin to be happy with him. I'm happy with myself personally, but I wasn't happy in the relationship because he wasn't happy with himself.

And you can't make someone happy who isn't happy with who they see in the mirror, nor can they make you happy either.

Its only been a week, but it hurts so bad. I'm surprised the water works have stopped at this point, i've been crying all day.

So there's my rant for the day.

Being broken hearted hurts so much .

but you are right

take care of yourself

Serious said:

thanks

it does, at one point I cried so hard today it was as if somebody had died...rather I felt like I was dying...emotionally.

JessieJ said:

One4All4Ever said:

I am. The thing is, I have so many things going right in my life, the relationship was the only thing stressing me out to no end. How can two people love each other so much yet be so unhappy? We've known each other for so long. I can't see myself with nobody else but him..but like my mother told me, if it was mean't to be he'll come back to me after he's okay with himself...if not then it wasn't meant to be.

I'd give you advice but I'd rather give you a

PEJ said:

thanks.

I think about the only other thing I can do right now is just keep busy.

I know how U feel... I was engaged once.

There is nothing to say, only
U have to work thru it on your own....
It does get better.

You're wiser than most.
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chocolate1 said:

I know its just hard. Its only week 1. Hopefully a week from now I'll be a little bit more focused.

Love stinks

littlemissG said:

thanks.

I've had my heat broken many times. I feel your pain.

It gets better eventually.

Ocean said:

yes it does. its like a drug you get addicted to. you get addicted to this person but once you see that something is wrong and you have to separate yourself from them, then you have to go through withdrawal.

breakups are so incredibly hard. i'm sorry you're going through this.

The brain goes through withdrawal of the serotonin so its like getting off heroin.

missfee said:

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Chin up, amiga.

missfee said:

Exactly

It sucks to have to part with someone whos a part of you, because thats what that person becomes, and they take some of what you are when they leave. its very sad, but remember what they leave with you, hopefully its filled with good memories and joy

men are so silly

they break up with their girlfriends when they are unhappy with other areas of their lives.

It feels like that because that's what it is. Half of your heart and soul is missing.


You'll get through it. But it's hard.

missfee said:

i love u even though i dont know u

CoolTarik1 said:

True. Of course, life does moves on like the sands in the hours glass.And one must except the consequences of their choices in life which brings them to this point in life.

You're a tough cookie, I'm sure you'll be just fine.

Upwards and onwards.