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Printablejone70 said: Anxiety said: i've had to use the jerry seinfeld line on strangers before: "sorry, i'm not looking to make friends today." i felt like an ass for saying it, but i was only speaking truth.  Please. That's being polite compared to what happens if someone tries to befriend me if I'm in a bad mood. I usually icily say, "I don't talk to strangers" and give them the evil eye. In New York you cannot entertain the talkers. People will try to yap your ear off about the most inane things and when I am on the bus or the subway or out doing my own thing I do not want to be bothered.   I had that happen to me once while I was waiting for the bus to go home. A young girl, someone who I did not even know and vice versa, came up and starting talking to me. She was telling me her life story, as if I were her best friend. I was like, "WTF?!" Boy was I ever glad when her bus showed up, and she left.  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Anxiety said: i think living in new york is when i LEARNED to deflect chatty strangers in public, because there, random people on the street either want to be your friend because they want to sucker you out of your money, or else they're nutjobs in search of someone they can corner and impose their hours-long rants upon. of course, moving back to the midwest, i have to loosen the armor a bit, because these days, sometimes "how about this weather?" means exactly that. Exactly. And you have to tell your midwestern friends/family to *not* engage. I still have to remind my parents to not make eye contact and not talk to anyone on the subway b/c they don't look like New Yorkers and the talkers know they are easy targets. psychodelicide said: I had that happen to me once while I was waiting for the bus to go home. A young girl, someone who I did not even know and vice versa, came up and starting talking to me. She was telling me her life story, as if I were her best friend. I was like, "WTF?!" Boy was I ever glad when her bus showed up, and she left. That's the worst--when you are trapped because you have to wait for the bus or you're on the bus. At least on the subway you can walk down the platform or switch cars at the next stop. That's why headphones or sunglasses are good to have on hand. Headphones should be the universal "can't hear you/don't want to talk" signal and sunglasses are good for avoided eye contact. Sometimes I even pretend I don't understand English or didn't hear them if they try to 'make contact'. The check. The string he dropped. The Mona Lisa. The musical notes taken out of a hat. The glass. The toy shotgun painting. The things he found. Therefore, everything seen–every object, that is, plus the process of looking at it–is a Duchamp. | |
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jone70 said: That's the worst--when you are trapped because you have to wait for the bus or you're on the bus. At least on the subway you can walk down the platform or switch cars at the next stop. That's why headphones or sunglasses are good to have on hand. Headphones should be the universal "can't hear you/don't want to talk" signal and sunglasses are good for avoided eye contact. Sometimes I even pretend I don't understand English or didn't hear them if they try to 'make contact'.
Unfortunately, I didn't have headphones or sunglasses on me that day.  But you're right, those are two good things to have, if someone approaches you, and you don't feel like conversing with them.  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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| once i was thirsty and walked over to a mcdonald's to get a soda and while i was filling up my drink this guy came up behind me and started rambling about random ass shit having to do with his kids, etc.
i was like  but i just kept saying random "yeah" and "uh huh"s until he walked off. then when i left the place he was standing outside the door and started talking to me again, only this time something about how i got my drink (  ). i just walked off...
and i can be slightly agoraphobic on top of that so really...that doesn't help matters HE'S COMING AGAIN | |
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Imago said: It depends on my mood.
If I'm in 'asshole' mode that morning, I turn around and ignore them. They get the hint. If I'm in a good mood, I entertain them then walk away and use the experience to talk shit about something to my friends, like "You will not BELIEVE the fool I ran into today  "
If I'm feeling like Jesus that day, I'll join in and ask them questions, etc. etc. and actually talk to them--- people out there are very very lonely sometimes. It doesn't hurt to take a few seconds out of your day to make them feel less so. Again, it doesn't matter what they're like really. It all revolves around my mood, so it's completely random. Oh my God we do the same thing exactly  | |
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