lol anything that Imago touches does not turn 2 gold.

Insecurity, plain and simple.
My theory is this. Love is a gamble anyways. If you trust someone with your heart then you have to TRUST them until they give you a reason to do otherwise. If you don't trust that person, then DON'T BE WITH THEM.


I've had girls break up with me over the fact that i refuse to get jealous. It's like they need it to feel like the guy cares about them. Whatever.

ButterscotchPimp said:

They sound stupid.

onenitealone said:

And to think I had to photoshop, crop, and resize this on my work time

Stymie said:

That's because they were.

Uppertwist said:

oh sh lol. he's alrite

just tends to take a simple thing and push it way too far

no off-switch

Imago said:

Did you mean to post this here?? THANK YOU, though. I really apprecate it.


I seriously need to learn how to use a computer.

onenitealone said:

You just need a man who knows how to work a computer



And a kayak. And your ass.

Imago said:

Erm, thanks.



Thank you.

onenitealone said:

Imago said:

There's still a tiny bit of the white border showing. I'm just sayin'.

onenitealone said:

jami0mckay said:

shut.

up.

Imago said:

jami0mckay said:

Imago said:

luv4u said:

i'm not sure luv4u, sometimes we ask other people questions as a way of asking ourselves.

sometimes others want, what someone else have.


Hope & love

luv4u said:

After reading some things here you still didn't get an answer. I don't think there is one answer since many things can play a part. And did you pick a difficult topic

I sure do know that depending the level of jealousy or envy you can call it a illness. I really think that people who are really jealous or envious are sick in the head. Maybe because they didn't get any love in their childhood and got damaged in a way, they probably had to fight for their life instead of enjoy being loved or maybe because they just malfuntion in their brains, wrong chemistry or bad feeding patern whatever.
What disturbs me the most is that a lot of these people have a persistent obsessive/compulsive goal to get something that is somebody else's, could be a partner but also something materialistic, could be something little or bigger like a car, a house whatever's on their mind at that moment.
What baffles me is that they are totally emptly from the inside, when they get what they want they aren't interested at all. The grass is always greener on the other side but why not starting to look at what you got yourself and then try to make something out of that. But they aren't capable of that.
They just want to damage imo.

They should study these kind of people, try to give them medicine and try giving them proper love and attention and good food. I really would like to see IF they changed. However I think that what has formed during childhood cannot be changed when being an adult. But it could only become better.

But luv4u, maybe I took it too big. If you mean the normal level of jealousy/envy. Everybody's insecure in a way so jealousy is present in everyone but in a small amount it is only human and harmless. It's one of human's flaws.

CarrieMpls said:

lmao lmao

Stymie said:

b/w A Sense Of Entitlement.

Christopher said:

nevermind
[Edited 4/25/08 0:15am]

Intense said:

ommgg wut was it?

Christopher said:

Well, I wrote something like:

That's so Intense

btw you're in the wrong room, go left, all down the hallway and then at the right.

and I was looking for the name of the thread which contained this pic of the sleigh but I couldn't find the damn thread because..... it was this very one

So nevermind

Cinnie said:

yep

CJanssen said:

i was thinking about my answer, why i hadnt responded yet ..i think ppl are jealous cause when they find someone that makes them feel good, they dont wanna share them with anyone else and if others are experiencing a 'joy' with the person they set their affections on, a possessiveness sets in n they feel or become threatened of loosing that person. I think there are different levels of jealousy cause of self-esteem. I think all ppl experience a little jealousy and that's normal. When u're confident in yourself and you know that person loves you, you dont worry about or care who they're talking to .. u trust them.. just my take.. Envy is another topic n ball game..


and oh CJ, that what you said about ppl who are persistant, compulsive, obsessive and going after something that belongs to someone else... that's all to do with self-esteem... they dont have enough confidence in themselves to believe to go get their own, that they gotta take somebody else's... could be a partner or materialistic

Flowerz said:

Yes... and no, it's a very difficult topic and as you said many many levels. I have so many examples. Some people are just evil. They just want to have someone else's man just to say, hahaha, see what I'm able to? Is that low self-esteem? They are probably not even interested in that person.

I know someone who has a beautiful house, beautiful garden etc. She doesn't give a shit about it, it's an uncosy house and she doesn't do anything in her garden.
But she's always looking at big houses and even bigger gardens, saying, if I had that house with that garden....
She dislikes people who have nice interiors and big things, she's very envious but I'm 100% sure that if she would get a bigger house and garden and whatever she will not look at it and start looking for something else again. She does have a low self esteem and then again she's very arrogant, thinking she's all that. I just can't mix that together but I see it with a lot of people. I guess we humans are just complex.

And I can understand people who are with someone who makes them feel good and they get possessive because they're afraid to loose that person.
I'm not possessive (I think) but I always keep an eye open around my hubby, you never know what someone is up to.

Because they either love you and they aren't sure that they can have you, or,

they want to BE you.

CJanssen said:

yeah ..it's a miserable person .. 'misery loves company'.. they have no peace and want to take the peace of others she has a georgous house, garden, etc... but just isnt content, this is where envy comes in (with materialism), she has to out do the neighbors..you said she dislikes others too who have nice houses n nice stuff, some type of compulsive behavior ppl like this have.. yeah, i say self-esteem issues still... when u're content within yourself.. you dont act out like that

I think it's natural, and goes back to the desire to see your genes succeed. A man wants to beat out other men, and a woman wants a man's attention/protection for her offspring not some other ho's.

I'm not saying those are the conscious reasons people are jealous today, but they are the innate instinctive cave reasons.
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