Insecurity? Controlling?

Discuss.

I like the boffing and I'm insecure.

i don't!

I do. It's insecurity.

But you know what?
I'm very secure about my insecurity.

insecurity for sure! jealousy ain't healthy. I think it can eat you from the inside out and in the end the one that's jealous just works themselves up in their own misery.

insecurity, definitely.

people project what they don't have onto people who appear to have what they want, when in reality they don't need it in the first place or else they already have it and just aren't using it.

i don't understand any part of what i just wrote, ps.

Anxiety said:

Spookymuffin said:

don't hate.

I'm going to play it safe, go with the flow, and say insecurity.

for me it's definitely insecurity

Jealousy is completely normal and yes, it's out of some level of insecurity...but I don't think that it automatically makes you an overall insecure person.

How you handle your jealousy is the important thing. I can certainly feel some jealousy when it comes to people I really care about, but I would never act out on it, or take it out on anyone. It's my issue to deal with and I do on my own.

Or are you talking about "envy"?

I would say immaturity and insecurity are the two main causes. Maybe not in that order.

veronikka said:

Totally

JustErin said:

Good point. There are many people who are jealous but not necessarily insecure, for instance someone like Prince, who is a very bold person fashionwise or on stsage yet seems to be pretty insecure and jealous when it comes to his relationships.

Envy is slowly but surely getting killed by its stronger cousin "jealousy", meaning that many people get "envy" and "jealousy" confused. This leads to people saying " I´m jealous, Tim bought a brand new car !" instead of using the more appropriate adjective "envious".
Funny thing is, the more US-Americans ( and Canadians ) keep misusing the word jealousy, the faster it spreads even into other languages, also because most TV stations over here are a bit sloppy with their dubbing ( from English to German or any other language) ...sure, some dubbed movies and TV series are amazing but they still contain a lot of mistakes.

because they believe in limits.

luv4u said:

if someones got their tongue down my mans throat, its not a matter of jealousy.

its a life or death situation straight up.

that kind of thing starts in the mind.

like morals.

superkiss said:

Aint it kinda funny how in some parts of the world, young girls commit suicide because they´re no longer a virgin, and in some other parts people consider threesomes and DPs a part of their sexuality or lifestyle, and then in some other circles, some people get upset about their partner kissing someone else and yet in the same culture you have swingers, serial monogamists who don´t believe in eternal monogamy...and so on.
Not to offend you or anything , it just crossed my mind when I read what you wrote.It´s a very diverse planet we´re living on, isn´t it ?

KoolEaze said:

yes, it is. and each to their own.

i go by what feels right 4 me according to my intuition.

no doubt everyone has their own to listen to, some are tuned into it while others may not be.

whateva floats peoples boat is cool with me, i just know what floats mine and what dont.

I would say insecurity is probably the main factor.

The more confidence you have in your own abilities, your own strengths... the less likely you are to worry about the things which make you jealous. Much easier said than done, of course.

onenitealone said:

I will sleigh a bitch that moves in on you.




Just sayin'

Imago said:

CarrieMpls said:

jami0mckay said:

Co-

I now have an image of an angry Dan whizzing towards me on a sledge. How macho.

And Dan... Fool.

onenitealone said:

shut.

up.



And that was meant for Carrie and Jamie too.

Imago said:

Imago said:

If I could photoshop, I'd put your face on a pic of santa in a sleigh so we all would know what jealous Dan looks like.

CarrieMpls said:

you absolute ass

CarrieMpls said:

The most unthreatening image imagineable.

onenitealone said:

Possessiveness.