FunkMistress said:

i'know
RnB & Punk don't clash morally .... I guess
but still ... I might fall in love with a girl only to find out after a few months that she's into quilting and I'm allergic to the fabric she uses ...

just saying ... it's a minefield ... better stay single and celibate

I say Yes. If you love them it's worth it no matter how far away they live.

My partner and I have COMPLETELY different tastes, ideas, likes and take on life. After 8 years it gets a bit trying. So I hear ya.

The real key is just to smile.
[Edited 4/21/08 15:30pm]

FunkMistress said:

But what if you do try to get into that persons interests, and once you do, they are no longer interested nor do they want to talk about it. Or let's say you get into a subject of interest (like graphic novels) but since it's not what exactly they have gotten into they have no interest in discussing it.

You have to agree on moral and philosophic principals and have SOME mutual interests. But you don't have to have everything in common. My ex couldn't understand my love of Godzilla movies, hip-hop, or '70s porn, but we still had enough in common to make the relationship last (at least for a few years).

And, ummmm, sorry but your long-distance relationship won't work unless one of you eventually moves. Sorry to sound unromantic, but trust me — and dozens of other Orgers — on this one.

HELL NO

play the field girl-he's 4 hours away he'll never find out!

Without having read all the on- and off-topic remarks on here; it's not the difference in personality/character/interests; it's about balance.

Therefor, in this case, I think it has to do with not being able to become an integral part of someone's life, so you can establish quirks and balances, as should be in a relationship.

Instead, you try to pack a week's worth of stuff, emotion, appointments into a weekend timespan, which will make you tired, irritatable and doubting what you know is right.

Of course, this might not need to apply to you, but it did with me and my weekend relationship. We saw eachother on the weekends, often cocooned, leaving the stuff you normally do on the weekends (shop, hang, see friends, unwind) for the already stressed weekdays.

So balance, sweet woman; balance.

Yes.

My schnookems doesn't know any of the major musical acts that I like.
We probably don't have that many hobbies in common.

But...

I. don't. give. a. shit.


I'm head over heals in love.

My husband and I are complete opposites
Im into hip hop and R&B....He's Country
Im laid back...he's anal retentive No joke
Im outgoing...he's withdrawn\


And when we first started out he was a USA resident and I was here in AUstralia, he flew here to see me about once every six months until he got out of the navy....even after we first got married
He lives here permanently now since 2000 ( we were married in 98) and we have been married 10 years


We may piss each other off, but it works

Imago said:

prince will keep u together

hes reading this right now i bet

I LOVE YOU PRINCEEE!!@!1111

I think it could work, if U 2 , really love each other.

Reply #41 posted 04/28/08 12:13am

redpumps said:

Put it this way: If my wife had the same personality and interests as me, we'd be the most boring pair of mutherfuckers in the World!


A good friend of ours wrote a poem for our wedding which included the lines:


"Dave is the drum; steady and strong, Emma the cymbal; crashing along"

A beautifully put way of saying: You need salt AND pepper to season the dish


You will never find someone with exactly the same tastes/ opinions/ hobbies/ outlook/ personality as you - it doesn't exist! You are unique, as is everyone else. Sure there will be SOME common ground, where the closeness can come from, but there will also be some very different ground which, and here's the good bit, the closeness can also come from


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MarieLouise said:

I see this as a very healthy relationship. Mine, 23 yrs strong now, is like this and we thrive on what we share and what we allow ourself and our mate to do alone.

I would be unhappy and bored if we were connected at the hips at all times and only did the same as each other BORING



that would be almost ick

Different interests? Sure.

Difference in a core foundation of beliefs? No.