Do you believe that two people, who can have fantastic long talks and great sex, two individuals that share a similar view on human behaviour, on loyalty, being honest, what's important in life.... BUT who have totally different interests can be happy together?

I'm talking about differences like literature/language vs. sports
melancholic songs vs. elektro
interest in history vs. no interest at all...

Please share your personal experiences if you want...

(I'm having a long-distance relationship: two different countries, three or four hours by train to see each other)

Don't know, how big are her breasts?

It can and shall work, a healthy relationship is about balance. Both can share their interests and interact with it, this will open up horizons on both individuals.

Now if its a belief/ideology say Religion, this may be challenging and can erupt with serious consequences.But Love conquers all.

LONG DISTANCE...oh man, ive been through it and never again. All the power and Good luck to you.
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MarieLouise said:

Yes. Absolutely.

I'm talking Yankees vs. Red Sox
Punk vs. R&B
Indoors vs. outdoors
Boxing vs. herbal healing

Know what? If you really are into each other, try opening up to each other's interests. I never thought I'd say this, but I watched a boxing match last night and enjoyed every second of it; I rock out to tons of punk music...and stay tuned for the Yankee thing.

It's totally possible!

FunkMistress said:

Totally agree

I mean Val hugs trees for fun and i race bikes.

She is still my one

We just share each others stuff ....like she has even got me recycling and she makes a cracking pit girl

the answer is YES. It's not common, but it can happen.

BTW, regarding FunkMistress' post.....

fuck the Sox
R&B is shite
I can't wait until the sun burns out
and the only herbal healing I give a shit about is the


hahah, despite many differences, it all works out perfect.

JerseyKRS said:

See, like I said, you just have to make an effort to appreciate each other's interests.

mdiver said:

JerseyKRS said:

You crack me up man.

Erin does like guns though

i think so- it's just a matter of being able to compromise with each other over things like whose music you're listening to at any given time, etc.

and 3-4 hours by train is nothing you can make it work if you both really want it.

mdiver said:

shit, my Dad got one specifically for her to practice with, and fuck if she ain't becoming a crack shot with it.

JerseyKRS said:

Dude you are in major fuckin'trouble.....I love her and all but Erin with a Glock is a recipe for bad things happening

If you need somewhere to run.....

mdiver said:

shhhhh!!! she'll here you and then she'll know where the hell I am!!!

Thanks guys, for your comments...

luckily the size of breasts and penises is one of the things that just don't need any attention.

We'll see what the future brings. I just had a decent talk with him on Skype, so I'll be able to sleep now.

MarieLouise said:

it all doesn't really matter mucho ... as long as 1 and 1 ends up to be more
than two (and it's you and him that have to feel that) it'll all work out.

MarieLouise said:

Hooray for Skype.

MarieLouise said:

Always here if you need me sweetheart

JerseyKRS said:

Good point....don't worry...i know some "people".....you will be safe my friend

Compromises are necessary in every relationship. I am sure it will work .

You know, the "love conquers all" shit is nice in theory BUT it really depends on how much each of you is willing to give. If nobody budges & you're both doing your own thing, how much can you really do (recreational stuff) together?

The distance thing throws it out of wack. It's easy to think long distance relationships work b/c it's all great the few times you see each other. It's really spending time w/ someone that's the test, & I would think you won't always wanna be @ such a distance.

Doesn't look good, but that's just my opinion I'm just speaking from the perspective of having been in a long relationship where he was right here w/ me but some of our interests were pretty different. I did a lot of things w/ friends, which ultimately made me feel more "alone" than if I were single...


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MrsMdiver said:

i love skype so much

Here is what I think
Those things, the music, literature interest type stuff is probably quite good if they are kept separate interests.

I had this boyfriend, when I was your age who I introduced to my favourite music, Frank Zappa. He loved it so much he bought EVERY CD and listened to him ALL THE TIME, even when I didn't feel like listening to FZ. It drove me It put me right off. We broke up and now I don't have a single FZ CD, since I stopped buying them - what was the point of having 2 of every album, right?

Those things are nice to have as your OWN. There are plenty of OTHER things you can enjoy together.

Mon and I were really complete opposites to begin with but slowly over time I've broken her spirit and forced her to like everything that I do.

foxyflawedhands said:

It takes time but is soooo worth the effort

Yes.


If they feel suffocated, though

your not suppose to change your self or your partners interest to suit each other,

why did you even fall for this person in the first place because of the person they are.

my partner and i have no similar interest in music, films and sports. she likes some Prince songs atleast

but its because of who she is what am interested in,

the end of the day its your interested into each other not the hobbies.

BUT who have totally different interests can be happy together?

ThaCat said:

don't the things that a person is interested in define somehow who or what person is ?

I can imagine that finding out that my partner is a dog-hater while I'm a PETA member or that he/she is interested in guns while I'm a pacifist might pose problems in a relationship.

(ok ... this obviously doesn't count for Erin and Chris )

irrelevant.
[Edited 4/21/08 16:48pm]

One4All4Ever said:

Well, there's different interests, and then there's opposing moral beliefs. One is easier to navigate than the other, y'know?