sammij said:

Perhaps the best thing you can do for him is to give his mother and grandmother articles that show that being gay is not a choice. Together with calm discussion, maybe you can make them see that shunning him won't change his sexual preference and perhaps - somewhere down the line - this will help them come to terms with who he is.

Horrible. We are too tolerant of homophobia.

Unfortunately I know someone who was only 16 and his mother threw him out. The streets of Chicago are not a good place to be. I do not understand how a parent can do that. That is still your baby. He came to stay with me in Madison for a while. I had to take him in. Now, that I'm back in Chicago, I see him all the time. He's actually doing well. Just got accepted into the House of Lacroix. And I guess I've been "volunteered" to help make their float for the Pride Parade.

My best friend from Madison had a cousin whose mother found out she was gay and threw her out. She was 18 and ended up living friend to friend...sleeping on couches. Drinking too much. She ended up dead from a terrible car accident. The driver was drunk, and three people died. I went to the funeral, and her mother was screaming and falling on the floor...."If only I hadn't put her out. Why did I throw her out???" It was so pitiful. You never know when you will see a loved one again. You should treat them as if you won't.

sammi, you are a good soul. Making sure he knows you are there. Imagine how hurt he must be to think his own mother can't love him enough to accept him.