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Thread started 04/10/08 7:39am

Mach

Are you a sex addict?

- A quick quiz to see if you may be sexually addicted

A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
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Reply #1 posted 04/10/08 7:40am

Mach

What is Sexual Addiction?

Sex Addiction can involve a wide variety of practices. Sometimes an addict has trouble with just one unwanted behavior, sometimes with many. A large number of sex addicts say their unhealthy use of sex has been a progressive process. It may have started with an addiction to masturbation, pornography (either printed or electronic), or a relationship, but over the years progressed to increasingly dangerous behaviors.

The essence of all addiction is the addicts' experience of powerlessness over a compulsive behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable. The addict is out of control and experiences tremendous shame, pain and self-loathing. The addict may wish to stop --- yet repeatedly fails to do so. The unmanageability of addicts' lives can be seen in the consequences they suffer: losing relationships, difficulties with work, arrests, financial troubles, a loss of interest in things not sexual, low self-esteem and despair.

Sexual preoccupation takes up tremendous amounts of energy. As this increases for the sex addict, a pattern of behavior (or rituals) follows, which usually leads to acting out (for some it is flirting, searching the net for pornography, or driving to the park.) When the acting out happens, there is a denial of feelings usually followed by despair and shame or a feeling of hopelessness and confusion.
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Reply #2 posted 04/10/08 7:43am

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WTF? Half of these sound like someone who hates sex. confuse

I am so thankful to be free of shame and negative feelings associated with my body and my sexuality, even though I've been through shit that often results in that.

I'm lucky, I guess. And oversharing. I have to go now.
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Reply #3 posted 04/10/08 7:43am

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Mach said:



Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

Kinda. Tryin not to.

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

No

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

Yes. The UFC!!!

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

WHen I was cheatin yeah it did interfere and I couldnt get an e. cuz i would feel bad


Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

NO not at all



Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?


No

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

No they have all been different




Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

No


Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?


No
Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?


No

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?


No


Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?


No

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
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Reply #4 posted 04/10/08 7:45am

Mach

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Reply #5 posted 04/10/08 7:46am

Stymie

Mach said:

- A quick quiz to see if you may be sexually addicted

A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
Uh oh. eek
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Reply #6 posted 04/10/08 7:50am

heybaby

Nope.
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Reply #7 posted 04/10/08 7:50am

DanceWme

Nah
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Reply #8 posted 04/10/08 7:50am

horatio

Stymie said:

Mach said:

- A quick quiz to see if you may be sexually addicted

A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
Uh oh. eek


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Reply #9 posted 04/10/08 7:51am

Rhondab

Stymie said:

Mach said:

- A quick quiz to see if you may be sexually addicted

A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
Uh oh. eek



in my former life...I would say that...uh...yeah...i WAS an addict....lurking
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Reply #10 posted 04/10/08 7:52am

Mach

Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? No Do you lead a double life? No

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose? No

Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media? No

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems? No

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter? No

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? No Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual? No

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship? No

Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief? No

Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.? No

Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development? No

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence? No

Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal? No

eek Thank GAWD
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Reply #11 posted 04/10/08 7:55am

Stymie

I'm not answering those questions in public. But suffice it to say I said yes to more than one. lol
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Reply #12 posted 04/10/08 7:59am

Mach

Stymie said:

I'm not answering those questions in public. But suffice it to say I said yes to more than one. lol

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If I included pre marriage sex into that lol a few of the questions leaned towards big MAYBEs lol

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Reply #13 posted 04/10/08 8:05am

One4All4Ever

I don't need no questions to know I am ...
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Reply #14 posted 04/10/08 8:08am

hokie

One4All4Ever said:

I don't need no questions to know I am ...




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Reply #15 posted 04/10/08 8:19am

IrrisistableRi
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eye am jackin' off reading this thread! Is that a problem ? ? jerkoff :
peace PEACE.....It does not mean 2 be in a place where there is no noise,trouble,or hardwork.It means 2 be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart ! heart
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Reply #16 posted 04/10/08 8:20am

hokie

IrrisistableRich said:

eye am jackin' off reading this thread! Is that a problem ? ? jerkoff :



lol
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Reply #17 posted 04/10/08 8:33am

TheMightyCeles
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Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you?
Yes, but at the same time, I post daily updates on my blog. So, y'know.... it all evens out.
Do you lead a double life?
Yes. But that's only cuz I'm also a masked crimefighter.

Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
I never choose who I get to have sex with. Instead, I just settle.
...for what I can afford.


Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
No. I never read the articles.

Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
When it comes to facing, I don't have a problem with it. Sure, sometimes it costs me extra, but whattayagonna do?

Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex?
No. I usually just tell her that she ain't gotta to go home, but she's gotta get the hell outta here.
Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
Nope. Cuz lemme tell ya, if you've sunk as many times as I have to the levels of debauchery with which have I have become accustomed to, eventually you become desensitized to the point where you just don't feel anything (a'tall).

Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships?
In my case, touching usually costs extra, so, no. My answer is no.
Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual? ...uhmm...that I am asexual what?

Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
Yes. The destruction on my wallet is usually pretty devastating afterwards.
So, my answer would be yes.
A definite yes.


Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
Experiencing excitement and relief? Is such a thing possible? Where do I sign up?

No, seriously.
Where?


Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
Arrested, no.
Handcuffed, yes.


Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
No.
Yo,
can I get some church all up in here?
Holla.


Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
Naw man. Though, I never really asked, I'm sure all that stuff would cost me extra.
Alot extra.


Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
No.
Those kinds of feelings are usually more the result of the extreme lack of orgnotes that I've recieved in my orgnote box since joining this site almost 4 goddamn years ago.


If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.
Bah. I heard that those places are just a bunch of meat-markets where people just go to score.




Where do I sign up?

No, seriously.
Where?




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Reply #18 posted 04/10/08 8:34am

Mach

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Reply #19 posted 04/10/08 8:39am

DanceWme

One4All4Ever said:

I don't need no questions to know I am ...

falloff





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Reply #20 posted 04/10/08 8:41am

Stymie

Mach said:

falloff
Don't encourage him. falloff
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Reply #21 posted 04/10/08 8:48am

Sander

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Mach said:

Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of (...) pregnancy(...)? No


lol Then you're doing it wrong!


Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others(...)? No


That's called love right?

Is this list serious, or do they need new members?
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Reply #22 posted 04/10/08 8:49am

BSK3478

they shoulda added:

Are you currently in the midst of having sex and are ass-deep in penis/vagina while you're filling out this survey?
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Reply #23 posted 04/10/08 9:42am

Stymie

BSK3478 said:

they shoulda added:

Are you currently in the midst of having sex and are ass-deep in penis/vagina while you're filling out this survey?
spit

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Reply #24 posted 04/10/08 10:10am

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I'm a "no" on Q's 2 & 3 so I'mma consider myself not razz
heart prince I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it prince heart
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Reply #25 posted 04/10/08 10:28am

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I don't need to read the quiz to know the answer.

Yes lol
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Reply #26 posted 04/10/08 10:29am

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What's the opposite of sex addict?
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Reply #27 posted 04/10/08 10:31am

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CarrieMpls said:

What's the opposite of sex addict?

a sexual.
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Reply #28 posted 04/10/08 10:31am

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I LOVE IT...AIN'T GIVING IT UP FOR NOTHING OR NOONE AND WILL ENJOY IT UNTIL THE DAY I FUCKING DIE!!

carry on.....


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Reply #29 posted 04/10/08 10:32am

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yes.

however SAA is not homofriendly

if you are a gay sex addict you need

Sexual Compulsives Anon.
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