...or week even, that was SO bad
you just
felt
heavy?

like emotionally heavy?

how do you get rid of the feeling?

meditation? incense?

what can i do to get rid of this feeling of negative emotional overload?


going for a bus ride, be back later.

No jokes here:

I have a fucking long, drawn-out wank.

I exercise (MASSIVE stress relief)

Shower lots to relax

Drink a lot of tea

Eat my favourite foods

MAKE myself go out with friends.

i have had a bad fucking 9 days straight and i really want to rip out my hair. i don't think it's going away! i'll be bald in another 9 days!

I cry and sulk and be a pain in the arse. I don't think it helps much though

Spookymuffin said:

Definitely.

Here's some other good advice:


- Andy Warhol (The Philosophy of Andy Warhol: From A to B and Back Again)

If I have to deal with my employer jerking around this kid I took to the emergency room last week for ONE MORE DAY I'm going to fucking explode.

I sleep for 12 to 13 hours and I feel back to normal the next day.

Cinnie said:

Spookymuffin said:

That is, after a good wank to send me into sleepy mode. Right Ben?

Cinnie said:

YES

sammij said:

Honey try "S.C.S.C."...sulk, cry, shop, chocolate. The darker the chocolate the better=> antioxidants. Hyperblue=I buy myself 2 to 3 doz roses.

By the way: @)-}-----@)-}-----@)-}-----@)-}-----@)-}-----@)-}-----

When I am having a super bad day or week...I pop open a bottle of wine, light some candles and take a nice bubble bath.

well, i'm back..

i went for bubble tea with a friend and that helped temporarily..
so did radiohead...

but alas... as i approached my stop on the bus i started to cry...
and walked around in the quarry for a bit to settle myself...

i think i'm going to go cry a bit more - i don't think it's all out of my system yet.


thanks for all the suggestions though.

sammij said:

A good cry is always helpful! And sometimes..that's just what a person needs to do.

Ive always been intersted in starting a small social group for folks who have bad days and just need to vent with others who feel the same. It would be so powerful to be in the presence of all that negative energy and potentially turn it into positive.


Imago therapy often teaches that you shouldn't strive to always be good an happy--but whole. And being whole means to occasionally be angry, hurt, sad, and "heavy". But to understand where that energy is coming from, what it teaches you, and how to live through the experience learning something and becoming stronger. It's impossible for most of us to be "good" anyways.


Also, crying is great. I had a very good cry in late Feb that was so fucking overdue.

sammij said:

you know, sometimes a really good, long cry (or several of them) is necessary. it can clean you out for awhile, until you have to have the next one.

yup today...the weight of the last two weeks. usually my workouts and a vegging out listening to jazz will help.

sammij said:

Sometimes I'll watch a sad movie or read a book or listen to music I know will make me cry. It let's me get it out without focusing on whatever it is that's pissing me off.
Then a long sleep and I'm usually better in the morning.

crying is exhausting
but man, paired with incense, it can really cleanse your energy field...

my tarot card for the day:

The Hermit
The Hermit represents the need to distance yourself from the people and events in your life that are causing undue strain on your emotions. There are times in your life when seclusion and isolation are warranted. The Hermit is a card of discovery and enlightenment, which can only develop by spending time alone with your thoughts. Your energy will be depleted quickly in social situations.

who knew...

i do feel a bit lighter, and i had a real deep chat with an old friend of mine... we've set aside our differences too, and i think he and i are on the right track again..


...and i'm buying radiohead tickets on saturday.


thanks everyone again... i always feel lame-sauce for posting my emotions... i feel so emo for it... but im always writing out my thoughts - just i feel people needed to see them this time...

I hope tomorrow is a better day.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

i really hope so too...
...thank you

sammij said:

It really is....I should know!

Spookymuffin said:

I do all of that except the exercise.

But then again, like Sammi, I gotta go through the depth to feel better. I need to cry, feel sorry for myself a bit and then realise how ridiculous I am. I even understand the need for the self-pity. But I gotta snap out of it too. Sometimes it lasts a moment, other times weeks.

After my mother passed away I am even more susceptible to moodswings. But I find that often the smallest moments of joy can lift the veil.
I found a smallish trigger to get rid off my sadness when it comes to my mom, though.
My sister had 6 year old twins she had to explain their grandmom had passed away. She told them she was in heaven, after which one of the twins then said; she is the brightest star of all!
And who can mess with that. So often when I feel sad at night, and the stars are out, I look up, search the brightest star and say 'Hi Mom!' and damn; that helps!

When I just feel sorry for myself for the feeling sorry, I just go out for hikes, mostly. Or bicicle around; not so much fun hiking here in Amsterdam as it was in the village I come from, which is surrounded by meadows, forest and wuthering heights, but without the heights.

So I suppose I exercise after all, dayum.

Do something nice for somebody else, then you'll both feel better!

Dayclear said:

Yeah!

[insert comical interlude in Dutch]

Do The Stofzuiger!
Door je knieën!
Do The Stofzuiger!
Schud die zak leeg!
Do The Stofzuiger!
Tuit je lippen!
Do The Stofzuiger!

pardonme4livin said:

Need a hug?

HamsterHuey said:

HamsterHuey said:

You'd make Imago proud!

Sander said:

What! It's a dance!