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PrintableYes... you and your significant other should settle this like grown ups....cover yourselves in whipped cream and wrestle it out... 
I bet you are a cute pouter.... 
Personally I hope he kicks you in the arse...  [Edited 4/4/08 5:57am] | |
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I tend to argue too much or not enough.
I'm a debater. It's in my blood. It's a part of me. And I'm usually very rational and logical when I argue, which infuriates some people. On the other hand, I often just pack stuff away for a long time, and then it all comes out in an explosion. I completely blow up, and then after it's out, I'm fine five minutes later. Unfortunately, that's not everyone's style either. And if I'm *really* pissed off, I can say a lot of mean, ugly things that I don't necessarily mean. Maybe I mean them, but I go overboard or cross a line where I'm just being mean or cruel, and the WAY that I say them isn't what I mean or isn't true.  "Half of what I say is meaningless; but I say it so that the other half may reach you." - Kahlil Gibran | |
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Ken and I never argue! We only have minor disagreements! | |
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I hate arguing.
I can't imagine staying with someone long who likes to argue. That said, I'm neither a doormat nor do I expect my man to be. I just don't want to have to fight much. I remember the last guy I dated we had one minor thing, I wouldn't even call it an argument. He pissed me off, so I told him he did and why. He apologized profusely and took all responsibility and then thought the "relationship" was over. I thought that was hilarious.  I mean, I told him what made me mad, he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again, and I was all, OK, then great! Isn't that the best way an argument can go? I had to convince him that all was cool again. |
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Imago said: Ken and I never argue! We only have minor disagreements!
Excuse me mister....but the reach around is not a "minor" disagreement..... 
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CarrieMpls said: I hate arguing.
I can't imagine staying with someone long who likes to argue. That said, I'm neither a doormat nor do I expect my man to be. I just don't want to have to fight much. I remember the last guy I dated we had one minor thing, I wouldn't even call it an argument. He pissed me off, so I told him he did and why. He apologized profusely and took all responsibility and then thought the "relationship" was over. I thought that was hilarious. I mean, I told him what made me mad, he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again, and I was all, OK, then great! Isn't that the best way an argument can go? I had to convince him that all was cool again.Wasn't that a Friends episode.... | |
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pardonme4livin said: Yes... you and your significant other should settle this like grown ups....cover yourselves in whipped cream and wrestle it out...
I bet you are a cute pouter....
Personally I hope he kicks you in the arse...
[Edited 4/4/08 5:57am] I will only have to give in and bat my eyes  | |
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pardonme4livin said: CarrieMpls said: I hate arguing.
I can't imagine staying with someone long who likes to argue. That said, I'm neither a doormat nor do I expect my man to be. I just don't want to have to fight much. I remember the last guy I dated we had one minor thing, I wouldn't even call it an argument. He pissed me off, so I told him he did and why. He apologized profusely and took all responsibility and then thought the "relationship" was over. I thought that was hilarious. I mean, I told him what made me mad, he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again, and I was all, OK, then great! Isn't that the best way an argument can go? I had to convince him that all was cool again.Wasn't that a Friends episode.... Are you mocking my life? 
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Imago said: Ken and I never argue! We only have minor disagreements!
hun..not to cause a argument ...but this is what he told me about u 
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CarrieMpls said: I hate arguing.
Me too!!!I can't imagine staying with someone long who likes to argue. That said, I'm neither a doormat nor do I expect my man to be. I just don't want to have to fight much. I remember the last guy I dated we had one minor thing, I wouldn't even call it an argument. He pissed me off, so I told him he did and why. He apologized profusely and took all responsibility and then thought the "relationship" was over. I thought that was hilarious. I mean, I told him what made me mad, he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again, and I was all, OK, then great! Isn't that the best way an argument can go? I had to convince him that all was cool again. | |
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CarrieMpls said: pardonme4livin said: Wasn't that a Friends episode.... Are you mocking my life?
 If that is your life...it sounds pretty fun.... 
Well besides for that "On a break" stuff..... | |
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Ocean said: Imago said: Ken and I never argue! We only have minor disagreements!
hun..not to cause a argument ...but this is what he told me about u
Objects in the picture may appear LARGER than they are Tiny Dan...
Okay I am now uncomfortable on this thread....  | |
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Ocean said: pardonme4livin said: Yes... you and your significant other should settle this like grown ups....cover yourselves in whipped cream and wrestle it out...
I bet you are a cute pouter....
Personally I hope he kicks you in the arse...
[Edited 4/4/08 5:57am] I will only have to give in and bat my eyes  I bet you're gonna HAVE to do more this time.... | |
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: I will only have to give in and bat my eyes I bet you're gonna HAVE to do more this time.... Is that a challenge...that's it...I give in..off to wake him up  | |
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Ocean said: pardonme4livin said: I bet you're gonna HAVE to do more this time.... Is that a challenge...that's it...I give in..off to wake him up  | |
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pardonme4livin said: CarrieMpls said: Are you mocking my life?
If that is your life...it sounds pretty fun....
Well besides for that "On a break" stuff..... Yeah, well, that was a year and a half ago.  |
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CarrieMpls said: pardonme4livin said: If that is your life...it sounds pretty fun....
Well besides for that "On a break" stuff..... Yeah, well, that was a year and a half ago.  | |
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foxyflawedhands said: Well, back in the day Mon would just kick off like the Hulk and I'd end up bracing myself against hurled clothes hangers, trying to get out of the room, laughing sometimes (which of course only made things worse) and occasionally walking out of the house and down the street a fair way.
That got boring after a while so I started getting involved, pinning her down, that kinda thing, but it was even more perilous for me. After a while it got boring for us both and Mon settled down a bit, or rather her spirit was thoroughly destroyed by how mundane life is with me as her husband, so nowadays our arguments involve a short, relatively controlled verbal argument typically lasting about 3 minutes, followed by a tangible atmosphere of silent mutual resentment lasting roughly 1-2 hours. After this point we miss physical contact with each other and out of pathetic mutual need end up cuddling in front of the TV watching 'The Dog Whisperer' or some shit, still both secretly storing up resentment for the next time we threaten each other with divorce. 
Yes. Laughing on the part of the man always makes it worse.
We do NOT like that. 
You are so cute Nick. Mon is a lucky lady. | |
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Well, my ex husband and I argued of course.
I almost always cried.
Hit? no Throw things? no Arguing with him was exhausting though. We could go round and round for hours about who was right. He is extremely intelligent and stubborn too. I always told him he should have been a lawyer. | |
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When I was younger I was a yeller. Not anymore. I've had some really serious, infuriating conversations with my son's father and never raised my voice. I've learned how to keep cool even when I am flipping the fuck out inside.
Except with my parents. | |
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My husband and I have been married for 24, almost 25 years (in august). Of course we disagree at times, and our voices are raised, but it never lasts more then a few minutes, one of us always gives in and extends the hand of peace. We have known each other since childhood, and can't imagine life with anyone else, so it just makes sense to keep peace.
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I don't believe in having marathon arguments in my relationships. I have had them in past relationships, which is why I refuse to and will not have it in with my significant other. A disagreement is one thing, but arguments…fuck, no… I can get that with family and other people. | |
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Ocean said: prb said: ocean
of course, it depends on what we are arguing over  it was my fault so I only have myself to blame  seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before   | |
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I don't have an issue with a good argument.
But once I sense that the other person just can't be reasoned with, or that they're just rambling on about the same stuff or resorting to assumptions and other wild theories, it's kind of pointless so I normally just call it quits--I rarely get upset in an argument cause as part of my job, I have to constantly defend my projects, etc. etc.--so it's natural. I'm not a argumentative person by nature though. If I sense someone is venting, even it it's against me, most of the times, I just quietly let them if its someone I respect or care about--or someone I have no interest in interacting with. All depends. If it's someone I hate, well they're fucked. | |
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Imago said: I don't have an issue with a good argument.
But once I sense that the other person just can't be reasoned with, or that they're just rambling on about the same stuff or resorting to assumptions and other wild theories, it's kind of pointless so I normally just call it quits--I rarely get upset in an argument cause as part of my job, I have to constantly defend my projects, etc. etc.--so it's natural. I'm not a argumentative person by nature though. If I sense someone is venting, even it it's against me, most of the times, I just quietly let them if its someone I respect or care about--or someone I have no interest in interacting with. All depends. If it's someone I hate, well they're fucked. exactly, that's me too.. | |
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hokie said: foxyflawedhands said: Well, back in the day Mon would just kick off like the Hulk and I'd end up bracing myself against hurled clothes hangers, trying to get out of the room, laughing sometimes (which of course only made things worse) and occasionally walking out of the house and down the street a fair way.
That got boring after a while so I started getting involved, pinning her down, that kinda thing, but it was even more perilous for me. After a while it got boring for us both and Mon settled down a bit, or rather her spirit was thoroughly destroyed by how mundane life is with me as her husband, so nowadays our arguments involve a short, relatively controlled verbal argument typically lasting about 3 minutes, followed by a tangible atmosphere of silent mutual resentment lasting roughly 1-2 hours. After this point we miss physical contact with each other and out of pathetic mutual need end up cuddling in front of the TV watching 'The Dog Whisperer' or some shit, still both secretly storing up resentment for the next time we threaten each other with divorce.
Yes. Laughing on the part of the man always makes it worse.
We do NOT like that.
You are so cute Nick. Mon is a lucky lady. That's sweet, thank you | |
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foxyflawedhands said: Well, back in the day Mon would just kick off like the Hulk and I'd end up bracing myself against hurled clothes hangers, trying to get out of the room, laughing sometimes (which of course only made things worse) and occasionally walking out of the house and down the street a fair way.
That got boring after a while so I started getting involved, pinning her down, that kinda thing, but it was even more perilous for me. After a while it got boring for us both and Mon settled down a bit, or rather her spirit was thoroughly destroyed by how mundane life is with me as her husband, so nowadays our arguments involve a short, relatively controlled verbal argument typically lasting about 3 minutes, followed by a tangible atmosphere of silent mutual resentment lasting roughly 1-2 hours. After this point we miss physical contact with each other and out of pathetic mutual need end up cuddling in front of the TV watching 'The Dog Whisperer' or some shit, still both secretly storing up resentment for the next time we threaten each other with divorce.  ...sorry I can even visualize this  | |
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Imago said: I don't have an issue with a good argument.
But once I sense that the other person just can't be reasoned with, or that they're just rambling on about the same stuff or resorting to assumptions and other wild theories, it's kind of pointless so I normally just call it quits--I rarely get upset in an argument cause as part of my job, I have to constantly defend my projects, etc. etc.--so it's natural. I'm not a argumentative person by nature though. If I sense someone is venting, even it it's against me, most of the times, I just quietly let them if its someone I respect or care about--or someone I have no interest in interacting with. All depends. If it's someone I hate, well they're fucked. | |
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In my past relationships, we didn't really argue much. We had our disagreements, but they were usually resolved easlily. I can only think of 3 serious arguments.
hmm and do u yell? I raise my voice, but I don't yell. hit? Never. throw things? No. cry? Yep! But I cry pretty easily
pout? No. go silent? Yes. ignore? Yes. sulk? Yep. | |
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JessieJ said: In my past relationships, we didn't really argue much. We had our disagreements, but they were usually resolved easlily. I can only think of 3 serious arguments.
hmm and do u yell? I raise my voice, but I don't yell. hit? Never. throw things? No. cry? Yep! But I cry pretty easily
pout? No. go silent? Yes. ignore? Yes. sulk? Yep. I can't understand people who hit or throw things ...or even swear alot in a argument (its to agressive) ...I could never be with anyone like that.... | |
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