very often with ur significant other...and when u do, do u stew on it...become stubborn refusing to give in ..or do u live by the rule never go to bed angry?

I've decided he just needs a to the head more often
but seriously I hate arguing ...and I stress until it's sorted out ....grr men

hmm and do u
yell?
hit?
throw things?
cry?
pout?
go silent?
ignore?
sulk?

ocean

Ocean said:

of course, it depends on what we are arguing over

I talk it out...and talk it out some more...




























































And talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk it out lol ...

I slip into "lawyer" mode a bit too often as well lol ...

I'm pretty open about when someone has hurt me or bothered me or whatever...it's hard to express those feelings, though, without it sounding worse than you mean it.

I never hit, throw things, pout, go silent (although I'm sure there are times people wished I had ), ignore or sulk. I don't yell but my voice can get intense lol...I'd much rather bring it up and get it out of the way, and forget about it (or apologize if it's on me) and move on. And I always listen, no matter what.

prb said:

it was my fault so I only have myself to blame

Byron said:

Ocean said:

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And I HATE to go to bed not having it resolved

but then there is the make up

Ocean said:

Well there better be

One4All4Ever said:

What does ur other half do?

yell?
hit?
throw things?
cry?
pout?
go silent?
ignore?
sulk?

abierman said:

Ocean said:

pout and then five seconds later act like the argument never happened

chillichocaholic said:

Yeah but if it never happened u wouldn't get make up sex

Ocean said:

Maybe thats his plan

I yell and cry! And I never shut up and let things go!

Not really. I can usually get my point across with a VERY stern look and a pursed lip to express my dissatifaction with something. I think at most I raise my voice in anger for a total 5 sentences in a discussion, and that's only a couple times a year. I can't be in a relationship where I'm in a constant state of odds with someone, verbal or otherwise. I'm too old for that, life is too short (or to LONG according to how ya look at it), and all that conflict takes too much time away from laughing, loving, eating, and sexing for me to be bothered

Ottensen said:

Can I swap my husband for u?

In 23+ yrs together I can count on one hand the arguements we have had

We just don't argue

yell? Never
hit? Never
throw things? Never
cry? Sometimes
pout? No
go silent? Only to gather thoughts not to shut out
ignore? No
sulk? Nope

Ocean said:

Well, back in the day Mon would just kick off like the Hulk and I'd end up bracing myself against hurled clothes hangers, trying to get out of the room, laughing sometimes (which of course only made things worse) and occasionally walking out of the house and down the street a fair way.

That got boring after a while so I started getting involved, pinning her down, that kinda thing, but it was even more perilous for me. After a while it got boring for us both and Mon settled down a bit, or rather her spirit was thoroughly destroyed by how mundane life is with me as her husband, so nowadays our arguments involve a short, relatively controlled verbal argument typically lasting about 3 minutes, followed by a tangible atmosphere of silent mutual resentment lasting roughly 1-2 hours.

After this point we miss physical contact with each other and out of pathetic mutual need end up cuddling in front of the TV watching 'The Dog Whisperer' or some shit, still both secretly storing up resentment for the next time we threaten each other with divorce.

VERY rarely

and for me... not everything needs to be sorted there and then... it's too needy... i'm happy to just go play guitar knowing that we'll sort it out... we always do

Ottensen said:

I am almost the same way to some degree. I talk to you the first time and let you know I dont like it. If the same issue arises, I approach calmly and if he acts as if he doesn't really care about the issue, I yell like a drill seargent. (This is a warning of things to come) If he still doesn't care or if If it happens again, he can get the hell out. There are too many other fish in the sea. I dont need somebody around trying to make me miserable. I guess I could say I got to bed angry....i just make sure he knows why.
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foxyflawedhands said:

you make marriage sound so sweet

evenstar said:

You've got to keep the passion alive. Hate is a kind of passion.

Besides, you're not marrying a Thai girl.

Oh god, I just thought about Alun.

foxyflawedhands said:

oh noooo. poor, sweet man