....stopped calling someone you were dating? No explanations....just stopped calling period?

What do you think about it?

DexMSR said:

wow, that's cool but how did the other person respond to it?

That's such a pussy thing to do. People who do that are really cowardly.

SummerRain said:

Well in most cases the writing is already on the wall. And it was just a matter of time. I have never had anything come of it.

Twiki said:

We already had THE TALK but I think she's expecting it to continue....
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No, but reminds me....

Nope. Never.

But I have been tempted to do it.

Not with someone I was dating, I always had closure or a conversation of closure. Sometimes drunk and crazy came back to haunt but most times the calls stopped.

Now with regular friends, this happens when I start being the only one making the effort to stay in touch. When it's not mutual, I just stop calling.

Slave2daGroove said:

I would stop calling if they were still creasing their jeans.....

Desperately wanted to, because the person in question was an utter piece of shit. But I knew ultimately it would end up reflecting more on me than her.

Plus, it wouldn't have worked anyway...

violator said:

JustErin said:

Could you be more vague...?

violator said:

Ahem.....

Twiki said:

It is

DexMSR said:

You covered yourself....unfortunately we cannot control other people - their actions, their emotions....

You should be able to walk away with no guilt since you made your intentions (or lack thereof) clear.

If it seems she still has not 'gotten it', treat her with kindness and compassiion and tell her again.

If she STILL has not 'gotten it', she is a stalker and you need to take out a restraining order.

WHAP!

Yes.

Twiki said:

Coward here! I've done it but not with someone I'm dating for a long period of time obviously. But gone out on a few dates and figured out they weren't worth my breath, so no phone calls ever again. Pretty easy really

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Exactly.

Yeah.
I dated this guy for about a month.
Just didnt feel like explaining why I didnt wanna talk to him anymore. It was too much.

But I wouldnt do that if I didnt want it done to me. If u stop calling me then hey.... I dont care.

love the new Avatar!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

But see, that's the thing. It's pretty easy to end things with someone you've only been on a few dates with. Breaking up with someone you've been with for months or years can be unpleasant, but a few dates? Just say, "I'm sorry, this isn't working out," so when you run into them again, there aren't any hard feelings and everyone can be cordial.

Twiki said:

Not everyone can be cordial.

Some people are fucking delusional.

Twiki said:

If they aren't worth the time of day, I could give shit about cordiality Like one time I went on a date and the guy was so absolutely wretchedly rude and demeaning to the wait staff for no reason at all. Never spoke to him again, manners be damned.

FunkMistress said:

Don't date those people. One or two nights of sex and then get the hell out.

Twiki said:

those one or two nights are probably considered dates

Someone did that to me once. (I'd been seeing him for six months.)

I was actually sort of relieved, as I recall.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well, in that case, I'd like to change my responses above...

Seriously, though, for many cases, a quick and easy breakup conversation works and a lot of people do take the easy way out too often. That's all I'm saying.

Twiki said:

Ahhh...the old "Two Night Stand"

whap whap!!

in a roundabout way....



yep.

DexMSR said:

I have not done this. Of course my dating experience has been VERY limited. I just ended a 12 year marriage. I only dated one other person besides him.

I can't say that I wouldn't do it. I don't know. I'd have to be put in the situation.

I think it depends on what kind of relationship it was. If it was very casual--only a few dates then maybe, but I don't think I'd do that if it were a more committed relationship.