foxyflawedhands said:

Oh...my son went through something similar! His favorite color was pink and he only played with girls. It bothered his dad a lot at first. But we just tried to go with the flow. He has since grown out of it. He's 8 now. I think if he's spending lots of time around women that's most likely the reason why. I think as long as he has positive male role models in his life all is good. I wouldn't worry too much about it now. Even my pediatrician said it's no big deal and that lots of boys go through it.

evenstar said:

That's what I'm thinking. Obviously I can provide the perfect super macho male role model when it comes to speech and behaviour. I think we shouldn't go overboard encouraging that feminine side (as in putting mascara on him) but shouldn't come down too hard on the way he plays around and has fun. You're right about his language though. I'm really trying to get him to end sentences with 'khrap' instead of 'ka' or 'na ja', but the way he responds is just so knowing.

I'll say 'phuut khrap sii luuk. phuu chai phuut khrap. khao jai mai khrap?' = 'say khrap, child. Boys say khrap. Do you understand?'

And he'll say he understands, with an emphatic 'khrap' on the end, almost sarcastic, then a minute later he'll ask me 'Ok, sang khao man gai laew ja. Ao ik mai naaaa jaaaaa?'

'Ok, you've ordered chicken with rice, dear. Would you like anything else dear?'

And he'll run off to pretend prepare the food.

hokie said:

Ok, good to know. Sometimes, as with speech, it's obvious to correct him, but other situations I find more tricky. Don't want to stop the kid having fun, after all, or feeling we're 'on his case' all the time. He's a funny little kid. I'm taking him swimming later.

foxyflawedhands said:

Yeah...it's a difficult situation. There were times where I wanted to say, "Stop it!" if he happened to be doing something feminine. It was because I didn't want him to be tortured or teased. People and kids can be so cruel.

But, it is very tricky. I understand completely. I think if you correct him gently and spend lots of time with him then that's really all you can do. Unfortunately this parenting shit doesn't come with a manual and sometimes it sucks.

hokie said:

True. At least yours is yours though. Yesterday I had New up here on the bed, wriggling all over the place. He's 3 months old. Meanwhile I was trying to stop Golf, who's four, throwing things out of the window.

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foxyflawedhands said:

@ you!


Parenting is fun isn't it?

I'm an acquired taste. Part of the reason I never join the photo threads.

ThreadBare said:

I bet you're cuter than you give yourself credit for.


Oh... @ your sig.

hokie said:

Yes it is. Among other things.

foxyflawedhands said:

It will be even more fun when they throw yogurt into your moving at high speed ceiling fan.

hokie said:

Ah, bless your heart. And, he does deserve our compassion. Poor guy.

ThreadBare said:

I know it's weird, but I get all warm and fuzzy inside when someone says, "bless your heart".

hokie said:

Haven't had that one yet. Golf did knock a full glass of water over yesterday. It all dripped through the cracks of the wooden floor to downstairs.

hokie said:

Bless your pea-pickin' heart, then.

foxyflawedhands said:

Are you familiar with "gogurt"? It's yogurt in a plastic sleeve. You cut off the end and eat it like a popsicle...

Anyway, one morning when I apparently wasn't properly supervising my children, my two sons decided that they would each get one of these gogurts and take them upstairs to eat them. They know that they are not allowed to eat upstairs so there goes the first rule violation.

Then they decide to turn the ceiling fan on high and repeatedly throw the gogurts into the fan until they get it just right and the fan smashes open the gogurts and splatters pink yogurt all over my son's room.

It was everywhere. Walls, ceiling, floor, sheets, curtains, books, toys, clothes IN THE CLOSET!

Needless to say, they got it. Oh did they get it bad.

That was the day they were HIS sons and not mine.

foxyflawedhands said:

If you tell him it's all wrong you could give him a complex and turn him into a serial killer. No jokes.

Just realised Mon doesn't post on here NEARLY enough.

hokie said:

You must've had a giggle about it at some point though. That's some mischievous genius right there.

Spookymuffin said:

I'll have to get her a laptop at some point.

Her posts would be crap anyway.

foxyflawedhands said:

OK...yes. I admit. It's funny NOW.


But at the time I was seriously so furious I felt dizzy.


I had to go to my room and lock the door and cool down for about 10 minutes.

Flowerz said:

It's a necessary evil if there's to be 'beauty' in anything.

foxyflawedhands said:

well yes ppl can have nasty spirits which can be ugly...

ThreadBare said:

stop fishing

Spookymuffin said:

OMG...Benny...you are way to hard on yourself! You were so cute! Why can't you see that?

pardonme4livin said:

heybaby said:

There is something odd about my looks that I cannot peg. White girls tend to now like my looks, but fine sistas seem to always smile or flirt with me. Could be a self esteem issue, maybe. Doubtful.

Hey, I will take a fine hispanic or black girl over an oogly white girl any ole time..lol

I have my moments when I feel completely unattractive and wish I could change this and that about my face and body.
That's when it's good to have someone around who tells you how stupid you sound. lol.

I grew up thinking that I was ugly, partly the face but mostly the body.

Now that I'm older my face has stretched out so I feel better that way, but I'm ashamed to take my shirt off at the beach. So yeah I still think I'm ugly I guess.

Problem is also that I have high expectations.