OK.


Most of the folks I know think they're pretty good looking. Sure they make self-deprecating jokes but on the inside there is a certain level of confidence about their looks.


Look at pardonme4livin. He claims he thinks he's ugly, but i *KNOW* half the org probably has scantily clad images of him via orgnotes or somne shit--please orgnote me if you do.

But in the last month, I've actually talked to folks who genuinely think that they are ugly.
I mean, the seriously believe that they are.

I don't think I'm some looker by any stretch of the imagination, but I couldn't imagine living life thinking that I was ugly. Maybe on certain days, I feel especially jankity and ugly--but it's never a strong undercurrent in my life--it's just 'having a bad day'.


Do you yourself, or someone you know, think of yourself/themselves as ugly? Is this something one comes to terms with? I'm fascinated at this.

I've often thought that there was no correlation between looks and thinking you're good looking. In other words, I always thought that everyone thought of themselves as good looking--how else do you have the confidence to get laid?

But this is not the case. It appears alot of folks, regardless of looks still think they're ugly--even the FOINE ones.

I think I'm fairly objective about my looks. I know I'm not someone the vast majority of the population is going to find physically attractive. I went most of my youth thinking I was unquestionably ugly. I've found old elementary school papers that stated as such.
But I do my best to make up for it in other ways. My sense of style, my personality, etc. I make the best of what I've got. I'm not turning heads, but once you get to know me, I can be awfully cute.
I'm an aquired taste.

CarrieMpls said:

You're hot.
Pretty smile, smooth skin, etc. etc.


But seriously--your boobs often steal the show. especially when you wear dresses.


They're distracting.

CarrieMpls said:

oh, and I'm an aquired taste for sure


Well, I am!

But I remember hating certain features about me (big ears, strange face, etc. etc.) when I was younger.

And now when I look at older pictuers I think, "lawd, I was foine."

So I guess it's all perspective.

Ok, I'm gonna try this.

I grew up feeling terrible about myself but being told I was pretty. I had crooked teeth until I was in high school and that made me feel hideous. I've struggled with my weight off and on my whole life and that made me feel hideous. All it took was one mean boy to say I was too tall and too fat and that was it. I never even thought of myself as even remotely attractive until I was in my early 20s...that's when I started to see the power that came with being considered somewhat attractive. But still, I struggle with thinking I am not good enough, constantly think I am not worthy of some of the attention I get, and my weight makes me think I am repulsive no matter how cute someone might think my face is.

I hate you.....

...and I am ugly so piss off....

pardonme4livin said:

Ur not ugly!

DanceWme said:

yeah he is

JustErin said:

i feel almost exactly the same way, except i've never worried about my teeth, more so the height & weight thing. you'd think it goes away some when you lose weight but it never really does.

Pardon I'm just joking

heybaby said:

See your first response is usually the truthful one.... thank you for your punctuation of my point and brutal honesty....

DanceWme said:

You are kind....a LIAR....but kind....

pardonme4livin said:

well damn.

DanceWme said:

pardonme4livin said:

I don't think you're ugly.

I think you're stunning.

I think you're nice.

I think you're funny.

If there's ANYTHING you need to feel self-concious about it's not your looks--it's your fashion sense.

Ugly person here. I've heard it all my life. I kinda don't care about it anymore particularly since some really hot people find me attractive in spite of my hideous grill.
Despite what the world thinks, I'm comfortable in my own skin.

This is making me sad that some of y'all think ur ugly.

Imago said:

Mother fuc.....

DanceWme said:

Some people on the Org remind me everyday of that fact.

Stymie said:

Shut UP!

You get reminded everyday at home that you are not...

DanceWme said:

It's common!


I mean, when I look at very good looking men, I KNOW they're far better looking than me in the classic sense. I'll never be Tyson Beckford or Casey Spooner.

But I never let it make me feel that I myself am "ugly". I'm just a Honda Accord--not a Bugatti. And lots of folks like Accords!

But I know folks who think that they're some run down tricycle missing one of it's wheels, ya know?


I know a woman right now who has the body of a 20 year old (she's 43), and is the fittest person I know. Cute face, etc. etc.
She wants a boob operation, and she hates her face. She literally thinks she's ugly.

It blows my mind. Even folks I don't find 'attractive' or folks who aren't clasically attractive aren't exactly Quazi-Motos. It just seems there's the undercurrent that is pervasive making everyone think they're ugly.


I started off this month feeling hunky dory. Now I think I'm 'gonna sign up for some lypo and a nose job.

pardonme4livin said:

At home? Here in Chicago?

The world is a shallow place. I could be the best damn person in the world and a hot chick with a stank ass attitude will be chosen over me most of the time. Luckily, I've met a few exceptions in exceptional people or I would have just stayed under my bridge forever.

Stymie said:

fuck them!

If I weren't so madly in love right now I'd probably fuck everyone of you without a condom. So stop hatin' on yourselves.

ok, so my last statement is irresponsible.

sorry.

Imago said:

I like riding Honda Accords!

Any color...I dont discriminate

DanceWme said:

Actually, it's okay. I can't hate on them for like pretty people when I have my own hangups and preferences.

DanceWme said:

I may be an 'import' honey, but my ass is tricked out!!