Been sitting here in chat and IM and this young lady thinks that she has nothing to live for !? I have no idea why she thinks that she needs to end her life,she claims that I do not understand!?I have tried my ass off to explain to her that once you are dead that there is no coming back! What The Fuck Do I do ????? I am so confused,she says that she is okay,well I wanna die in my book is not ok ? I guess the best thing to do is let GOD handle this ?

Call 911 or your local medical mental health unit

IrrisistableRich said:

Find out what state she's in and get a suicide prevention hotline number to her. There are specialists are trained in having that discussion with people in her situation.

IrrisistableRich said:

Dang!

ThreadBare said:

Exellent advice. This person needs to get help right away, before they wind up doing something.

agreed with everyone here

I have my troubles with suicidal thoughts and I know if she's telling you about hurting herself deep down she's really asking for some help.

I don't know how I'd help her but you could give her the number to a suicide hotline, tell her to go to the hospital and they'll keep her for the night(sometimes longer), or tell her to call a family member(and sometimes they're only sitting a hallways length or stair-steps away depending on the age of this young lady) and ask for help. It's strange to do just by talking to someone online but if you really think she might or if you know she's begun to hurt herself you might need to call 911 for her.


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IrrisistableRich said:

Did you help her?

You care.

If she does go and do it, I hope you don't blame yourself in any way.

ZombieKitten said:

Oh no please do not put that on me ! I did what I could do on this wire ! Other than that ? I will not and lets pray 4 the best and the mood wheres da funk off !
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rich

IrrisistableRich said:

no no! I mean the opposite! you did all you could!

ZombieKitten said:

I have to agree with Zombiekitten- call a medic or send her phone numbers or help lines, but you can only do so much.
I hope she pulls through and can see that situations can be improved or that someone cares...maybe it's her way of saying that she needs help- which you and others are doing.
I'm uncertain of what to say as one of my friends committed suicide last year- he just couldn't handle the life that he was living and had serious personality swings- in one of his down times, he just did it.
It's a difficult subject- we can help so much...yet, like my friend had said in his note that he just didn't want to be anymore- how can you convince or medicate someone that just doesn't want to exist anymore...I'm still, to this day, confused as to whether I could of helped or not.

Please keep us up-to-date on how your friend is.

stevenpottle said:

that is what I mean - how can you stop that, one might delay it, prolong the agony, medicate, have them committed I don't know, all I can say I am thankful I have never been in a position like this. I think it unfair on those left behind, unable to do anything to stop it, but blaming themselves.
Yes, please let us know.

ZombieKitten said:

Exactly- ALL his family, partner and friends are left behind with so many questions, what ifs and what could of been- things they'll never get to do etc, but our friend truly believed that it was the answer- how could I have said it'll be alright, things will improve when he no longer could have handled another minute in his head, with his thought processes, in his body, in his life, with his past, those memories, that future...was it selfish of us to expect him to improve or handle what he was going through? These are questions that I'm still asking myself today- but absolutely treasure that I knew them and that they existed and that they are no longer in pain.
This is why I said earlier that suicide is a complex issue and very personal to the individuals involved...can it be the answer to extreme cases of people that no longer want to be?
I've been ill with ME for a year now and have given up many times in terms of what my brain, soul and body can handle, but there's something there stopping me from making that final step- it's the thought of my partner, my friends, my family, music, writing etc, etc...my friend never contemplated or imagined these in his act- he felt it was the logical step...I think if someone is going to do something like that then they don't necessarily call people or threaten- they just do it...I've spoken about it many times, but I cannot do it- THAT'S the difference- I am asking for help or wanting friends etc to help make my situation easier...make living or escaping easier. My friend didn't.

Sorry, I never meant to take over the thread, but I'm just trying to explain that some people can be helped and some just cannot- I do hope that your friend gets both help and gets better, but please don't take responsibility for any actions- you are trying to help and understand them, but believe me, it will torture you if you blame yourself.

Well I talked 2 her this morning and she is fucken pissed because I made this thread ! Obviously she knew it was about her ? The positive is that she was mad that means she is still here ! I know she wants attention,but WTF just not the way 2 go about it !

IrrisistableRich said:

Please don't feel bad as it's not as if you were laughing about it or poking fun or even not taking it seriously- you were and are concerned for her- it's a lot to take on board and you are only human in the respect that you were asking for help and advice- she should be thankful that you were trying to help as I know of others that have said that they wanted to take their own lives, but were ignored and then something dreadful happened.
Hope she gets help and that things improve.

LOG OFF.

CarrieLee said:

amen!

IrrisistableRich said:

You did it because you were concerned about her. Instead of your friend getting pissed, she should be thankful that she has a friend like you who cares about her.