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PrintableMIGUELGOMEZ said: CarrieMpls said: Miguel is a total catch. The entire package and then some. But, I totally get what he's saying. I'm pretty much there myself. Not everyone finds someone. May as well be happy with what you've got. I believe that our perfect match is overseas Carrie.....I'm only sayin'....  | |
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Imago said: CarrieMpls said: Miguel is a total catch. The entire package and then some. But, I totally get what he's saying. I'm pretty much there myself. Not everyone finds someone. May as well be happy with what you've got. ok, I agree with this. And I also think alot of people in relationships haven't actually "found" somebody so much as settled for safety, security, or just didn't want to be lonely. So yeah--I agree with this. I guess for me I NEVER go out looking for companionship--sex, sure. But companionship just always kind of happened I guess. Which is why I place so much value on friendships. I think we live in a strange modern "Internet" era where we supplement our lives with friends in various ways (overseas, online, etc. etc.) to fill the void that our parents could only do through unhappy marriages. We aren't settling--and it makes the trip a bit scary.  I feel like I "found" someone. I didnt expect to find anyone like him and he's more than I expected to find..much more. I guess I'm one of the lucky few, because really I had given up too. | |
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Stymie said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: I believe that our perfect match is overseas Carrie.....I'm only sayin'.... I love you sweety. DITTO! I admire you because you are so strong. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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LleeLlee said: JustErin said: Yeah, maybe. I mean, I like really confident, aggressive dudes...I guess that tends to lean towards the 'jerk' category. Or maybe I just become obsessed with emotionally unavailable men....oh oh...issues!! Okay, this is my theory: You like Alpha males. However, so do a lot of other women and this is why they tend to spread themselves around and very reluctantly commit, they know there are no shortage of females gagging for them. So they enjoy themselves until their looks are gone and finally settle down. You like them when they are still at the seed spreading stage unfortunately. My remedy is give them a wide berth and go for a different type of guy (not so brutish, agressive ) but somebody you find physically attractive. :endoftheory: Makes sense. | |
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Ok, now that we've established that everyone in here is an amazing catch.... | |
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JustErin said: Ok, now that we've established that everyone in here is an amazing catch....  | |
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Imago said: CarrieMpls said: Miguel is a total catch. The entire package and then some. But, I totally get what he's saying. I'm pretty much there myself. Not everyone finds someone. May as well be happy with what you've got. ok, I agree with this. And I also think alot of people in relationships haven't actually "found" somebody so much as settled for safety, security, or just didn't want to be lonely. So yeah--I agree with this. I guess for me I NEVER go out looking for companionship--sex, sure. But companionship just always kind of happened I guess. Which is why I place so much value on friendships. I think we live in a strange modern "Internet" era where we supplement our lives with friends in various ways (overseas, online, etc. etc.) to fill the void that our parents could only do through unhappy marriages. We aren't settling--and it makes the trip a bit scary. I don't think anyone I know in a long-term relationship thinks they've "settled" though... Not to say it doesn't happen. And I'm polar opposite. I don't go looking for sex. Like, ever. I want everything else, sex is the icing on the cake.
I'm lucky to have some fabulous friends, don't get me wrong. But it's not the same as being in a relationship. And it's more than sex. |
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JustErin said: Ok, now that we've established that everyone in here is an amazing catch....
You are too, Erin. 
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CarrieMpls said: I don't think anyone I know in a long-term relationship thinks they've "settled" though... Not to say it doesn't happen. And I'm polar opposite. I don't go looking for sex. Like, ever. I want everything else, sex is the icing on the cake.Settling is so passé, that went out with perfect idealistic nuclear family structure of the 50's/60's/70's (non existent). Basically, it boils down to what common bonds a you have with the person you are getting involved with initially in the exclusive relationship. And like you said, once that's established, the rest is the icing on the cake and you have a match made in heaven because the person can make love to your body soul and mind. [Edited 3/18/08 12:48pm] | |
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CarrieMpls said: Imago said: ok, I agree with this. And I also think alot of people in relationships haven't actually "found" somebody so much as settled for safety, security, or just didn't want to be lonely. So yeah--I agree with this. I guess for me I NEVER go out looking for companionship--sex, sure. But companionship just always kind of happened I guess. Which is why I place so much value on friendships. I think we live in a strange modern "Internet" era where we supplement our lives with friends in various ways (overseas, online, etc. etc.) to fill the void that our parents could only do through unhappy marriages. We aren't settling--and it makes the trip a bit scary. I don't think anyone I know in a long-term relationship thinks they've "settled" though... Not to say it doesn't happen. And I'm polar opposite. I don't go looking for sex. Like, ever. I want everything else, sex is the icing on the cake.
I'm lucky to have some fabulous friends, don't get me wrong. But it's not the same as being in a relationship. And it's more than sex. I don't go looking...period. I've never been that type of person. I seek relationships and especially sex from already established situations. So dumb, I know. I know many guys that have settled...that's in no way saying that they don't love or care about their wives...just that they lusting for others...wait, we already talked about this stuff, didn't we? | |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: Ok, now that we've established that everyone in here is an amazing catch....
You are too, Erin.
Not amazing enough though since the one dude I (think I) want badly is not feeling the same about me.  | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: I don't think anyone I know in a long-term relationship thinks they've "settled" though... Not to say it doesn't happen. And I'm polar opposite. I don't go looking for sex. Like, ever. I want everything else, sex is the icing on the cake.
I'm lucky to have some fabulous friends, don't get me wrong. But it's not the same as being in a relationship. And it's more than sex. I don't go looking...period. I've never been that type of person. I seek relationships and especially sex from already established situations. So dumb, I know. I know many guys that have settled...that's in no way saying that they don't love or care about their wives...just that they lusting for others...wait, we already talked about this stuff, didn't we? Don't settle. You're a fucking catch. | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: I don't think anyone I know in a long-term relationship thinks they've "settled" though... Not to say it doesn't happen. And I'm polar opposite. I don't go looking for sex. Like, ever. I want everything else, sex is the icing on the cake.
I'm lucky to have some fabulous friends, don't get me wrong. But it's not the same as being in a relationship. And it's more than sex. I don't go looking...period. I've never been that type of person. I seek relationships and especially sex from already established situations. So dumb, I know. I know many guys that have settled...that's in no way saying that they don't love or care about their wives...just that they lusting for others...wait, we already talked about this stuff, didn't we? Oh, I really don't go looking either. My recent foray into dating websites was the first time I decided I was going to actively look. And I didn't like what I found.  |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: I don't go looking...period. I've never been that type of person. I seek relationships and especially sex from already established situations. So dumb, I know. I know many guys that have settled...that's in no way saying that they don't love or care about their wives...just that they lusting for others...wait, we already talked about this stuff, didn't we? Oh, I really don't go looking either. My recent foray into dating websites was the first time I decided I was going to actively look. And I didn't like what I found. I find them scary!! | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: Oh, I really don't go looking either. My recent foray into dating websites was the first time I decided I was going to actively look. And I didn't like what I found. I find them scary!! A close friend found her partner on eHarmony. They got married in January and he's a wonderful man. It's apparently possibly to meet someone decent, so I thought I'd give it a try. But yeah, mostly scary. |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: I find them scary!! A close friend found her partner on eHarmony. They got married in January and he's a wonderful man. It's apparently possibly to meet someone decent, so I thought I'd give it a try. But yeah, mostly scary. Those eHarmony commercials freak me out. "What do I love about him/her? Everything, everything, EVERYTHING!!!!!" Yuck. | |
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