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PrintableArielB said: Ocean said: Have u been in that situation before? No. But I feel that I'm ready. If I truly love the person, then I love them for who they are, and part of what makes them who they are, is their children, who are their life. So yes, this is a 'package deal', and if I got into a relationship like that, then I do it knowingly from the beginning, that I'm not only dating one person, but getting into a relationship with her children too. Glad there are guys out there like u   | |
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I wouldn't have a problem with it. We all have baggage, it's just with some people you can see it right away and possibly play tag with it.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Aye. I have a lot of time for bairns. But I wouldn't want any of my own. | |
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Recently met a woman with two kids, a divorceé whose ex also lives in town. They share custody.
 Nice meeting you, but no thanks.
After many, many years living on my own, I'm not sure making the leap into that kind of situation would be so great for me. | |
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Sweeny79 said: I wouldn't have a problem with it. We all have baggage, it's just with some people you can see it right away and possibly play tag with it.
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ThreadBare said: Recently met a woman with two kids, a divorceé whose ex also lives in town. They share custody.
Nice meeting you, but no thanks.
After many, many years living on my own, I'm not sure making the leap into that kind of situation would be so great for me. At least ur honest!  | |
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seeing someone with kids
Yes. As long as I never had to meet the children, ever do u think u could take on the roll of step mother/step father
I would never do that and I don't believe people should allow that. The ex.....the kids (possibly hating u)
I would never allow them or the ex to be a part of my life in any way. would u be capable of loving them as u would ur own
No one's capable of that. Many bio parents have issues with that. | |
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ThreadBare said: Recently met a woman with two kids, a divorceé whose ex also lives in town. They share custody.
Nice meeting you, but no thanks.
After many, many years living on my own, I'm not sure making the leap into that kind of situation would be so great for me.  | |
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Dance said: seeing someone with kids
Yes. As long as I never had to meet the children, ever I would never allow them or the ex to be a part of my life in any way. would u be capable of loving them as u would ur own
No one's capable of that. Many bio parents have issues with that. wow...A parent that remarries and the new wife/husband never wants to meet the kids.....a parent that is ok with that is not a parent I would want in my life...children should always come first. I don't think u should ever see anyone with kids if this is a true statement | |
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It's a complicated situation Kylie....
Would I start a relationship with someone who has kids....? Yes.... I am now in my late 30's and the women that are close to my age mostly all have kids. I don't think it would be much of a choice. Could I love their kids as my own?.... I think I could love them with all my heart. Want to protect them, take care of them, nurture them, encourage them, support them...etc. Would it be the same as my kids.... I think there is a bond that only biological parents can have with their kids as opposed to step children simply because they are of their own flesh and blood.... so I guess not exactly the same.... Could I or would I willingly take on the role as a step-father... absolutely.... with a stupid grin on my face....  | |
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pardonme4livin said: It's a complicated situation Kylie....
If you were younger and u had both choices ..would the childless woman be more appealing? (before u got to know eithier of them of course)Would I start a relationship with someone who has kids....? Yes.... I am now in my late 30's and the women that are close to my age mostly all have kids. I don't think it would be much of a choice. Could I love their kids as my own?.... I think I could love them with all my heart. Want to protect them, take care of them, nurture them, encourage them, support them...etc. Would it be the same as my kids.... I think there is a bond that only biological parents can have with their kids as opposed to step children simply because they are of their own flesh and blood.... so I guess not exactly the same.... Could I or would I willingly take on the role as a step-father... absolutely.... with a stupid grin on my face.... [Edited 3/17/08 17:53pm] | |
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if she's the right woman, and I'd fall in love..... | |
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abierman said: if she's the right woman, and I'd fall in love..... Awww.....you are a sweetie pie. | |
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Stymie said: abierman said: if she's the right woman, and I'd fall in love..... Awww.....you are a sweetie pie. what can I say? you can't fight love, now can you? | |
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abierman said: Stymie said: Awww.....you are a sweetie pie.
what can I say? you can't fight love, now can you? | |
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abierman said: Stymie said: Awww.....you are a sweetie pie.
what can I say? you can't fight love, now can you?I love this answer!!! | |
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Dance said: seeing someone with kids
Yes. As long as I never had to meet the children, ever I would never allow them or the ex to be a part of my life in any way. would u be capable of loving them as u would ur own
No one's capable of that. Many bio parents have issues with that. I hope you are joking, although that would be a bad joke  .With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Ocean said: abierman said: what can I say? you can't fight love, now can you?I love this answer!!! I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love.... 
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: I love this answer!!! I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
 you can't fight looks either..... | |
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: I love this answer!!! I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: I love this answer!!! I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
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abierman said: pardonme4livin said: I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
you can't fight looks either.....   | |
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abierman said: pardonme4livin said: I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
you can't fight looks either..... Rub it in why don't ya.....  | |
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Stymie said: pardonme4livin said: I give a nice long sincere answer and Aksiel's response gets all the love....
grrrrr..... | |
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No, I feel fulfilled in this area. I wouldn't opt to fall for someone with kids at this point unless they were grown. (  Famous last words I know.) | |
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Imago said: CarrieMpls said: I dated a man with 3 children a year and a half ago or so. It never got serious, I never met them. His having kids wasn't an issue for me, but him saying he never wanted to get married again was. So that was pretty much it.
So you wouldn't date a man who just wanted a long term girlfriend? I wouldn't. | |
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Wouldnt be an issue for me...and it never was. I dated a guy with a 7yr old before I ever had kids and she was great. I'm feelin kind of n-a-s-t-y
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i hate kids  sorta lying. i had a crush on this girl with kids and a few years older than me, but she'd always say i didn't want her cuz she had too much baggage and whatnot  [Edited 3/18/08 0:25am] For all time I am with you, you are with me. | |
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purplepolitician said: i hate kids sorta lying. i had a crush on this girl with kids and a few years older than me, but she'd always say i didn't want her cuz she had too much baggage and whatnot
[Edited 3/18/08 0:25am] So was she right? | |
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