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PrintableDance said: People say that it's a huge job, but people don't really explain that.
And I'm talking about being a SAH mom, not being a parent. As a parent you will have certain responsibilities whether or not you choose to work. What is work life for a SAH mom and how is that different from or exactly like a typical job? You can't separate being a SAH mom and parenthood. When you're able to be home, you're able to do more with your children than those parents who work. My mother was at home and I would say that she managed the household, we had a hot breakfast and dinner Sunday-Friday. Saturdays...maybe dinner. She did the laundry and even would iron some of our stuff. Of course as we got older, we would help. She even managed the finances. She made sure all the bills were paid. Dad just handed her the check. I've seen some hella SAH moms. | |
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Imago said: ok, here's the deal.
I'll read your posts and promise to be open minded. Forgive me if I can't contribute right now. I'm have to pay attention to my boo onine 
Guys, I'm sorry I'm such a prick about this. I just love myself too much sometimes to concede easily. Even with a hot piece of ass like Byron or RhondaB  You shouldn't concede if those are your viewpoints...and I really do think that what stresses out one individual may be a piece o' cake to another individual, both in terms of the business world and parenting. Maybe you're more of a natural parent than you are a natural corporate man lol  ... | |
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Byron said: Imago said: ok, here's the deal.
I'll read your posts and promise to be open minded. Forgive me if I can't contribute right now. I'm have to pay attention to my boo onine
Guys, I'm sorry I'm such a prick about this. I just love myself too much sometimes to concede easily. Even with a hot piece of ass like Byron or RhondaB You shouldn't concede if those are your viewpoints...and I really do think that what stresses out one individual may be a piece o' cake to another individual, both in terms of the business world and parenting. Maybe you're more of a natural parent than you are a natural corporate man lol ...That was my exact thought as well! |
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I have been at home with my children for the past 3 years... I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT.....
However, I have been on the other side of having to work and bring the young ones to daycare or sent off to school. At times I am starving for adult conversation but would not trade the smiles, excitement of jumping on the kitchen floor, or drawing on the walls for ANYTHING EVERY MAN OR WOMAN SHOULD HAVE A CHOICE TO STAY HOME WITH THE KIDS..... I have friends that want to stay home and are not able for financial reasons and others that would pull small hairs from their snatch if they had to stay home all day with the kids... In a perfect world it would be a choice each family would make based on the needs of the parents and children [Edited 3/11/08 14:16pm] | |
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You can't separate being a SAH mom and parenthood. When you're able to be home, you're able to do more with your children than those parents who work.
My mother was at home and I would say that she managed the household, we had a hot breakfast and dinner Sunday-Friday. Saturdays...maybe dinner. She did the laundry and even would iron some of our stuff. Of course as we got older, we would help. She even managed the finances. She made sure all the bills were paid. Dad just handed her the check. I've seen some hella SAH moms.[/quote] amen... HE does what he can do best and I can do what I do best..... just as long as we meet in the middle once in a while to have sex... its all good | |
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CarrieMpls said: Byron said: You shouldn't concede if those are your viewpoints...and I really do think that what stresses out one individual may be a piece o' cake to another individual, both in terms of the business world and parenting. Maybe you're more of a natural parent than you are a natural corporate man lol ...That was my exact thought as well! You're single and and Mrs Corporate America too. So you should be agreeing with me Carrie. God damn. PS... All I can say at this very minute is ...I'm such a little teenager right now 
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horatio said: the answer is birth control
i dont want to fight or argue on this thread, but i am a stay at home mom, and i have more stress now than i did when i was working full time. so the corporate world can SUCK MY ASS, because raising happy, healthy children to be good honest, successful human beings, is more stressful.  | |
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Rhondab said: Dance said: People say that it's a huge job, but people don't really explain that.
And I'm talking about being a SAH mom, not being a parent. As a parent you will have certain responsibilities whether or not you choose to work. What is work life for a SAH mom and how is that different from or exactly like a typical job? You can't separate being a SAH mom and parenthood. When you're able to be home, you're able to do more with your children than those parents who work. My mother was at home and I would say that she managed the household, we had a hot breakfast and dinner Sunday-Friday. Saturdays...maybe dinner. She did the laundry and even would iron some of our stuff. Of course as we got older, we would help. She even managed the finances. She made sure all the bills were paid. Dad just handed her the check. I've seen some hella SAH moms.  your mom sounded wonderful.... | |
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I haven't got any kids yet (except for the 60 students I'm working with all week). I hope to have some today, and I truly hope I will be able to combine this with a job. Just because I think for me personally, taking care of my own kids would never be fulfilling enough. My parents have always worked full-time, and I never regretted this as a kid. They seemed to be around enough. So thumbs up for all full-time mothers, but just as much credit for those who manage to combine a family life and a professional life... | |
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Imago said: INSATIABLE said: I understand. But would still choose my old job over pregnancy. Nothing, to me, compares to that kind of responsibility. My job is way more stressful than any stay at home mothers (barring as Ive stated health issues or special needs). Way way more. Yeah, its a choice that I keep my job, it's not a choice how I perform it. I always have to be good at what I do or I'll get nixxed. Mothers have that choice even. They simply do. They have a host of choices I dont have so I don't really view they're tribulations any where even remotely close to mine. As I've stated the real tough jobs go to mothers who work AND take care of thier kids. SAH moms ...meh. I don't know about that Dan
totally different kinds of stresses. I know you ruled out major health issues, but it seems to me kids have always got something minor, like stomach flus or respiratory viruses. When you are on call 24 hours round the clock (and I don't know HOW you do that Ivy, and manage to work too  ) you are tired. Several times a day you reach crisis point, and being tired does not help you deal with it well. Dealing with kids you LOVE and hate sometimes and feel guilty about that, by the end of the day it's an emotional rollercoaster - nobody gives you a pay rise or an appraisal. Strangers seem totally OK with judging if you are a good mother or not when your kid plays up in public  It's exhausting.
A "job" you can take it or leave it. In the bigger picture, if you didn't turn up to work the next day, or the next week, aside from financial issues, really it doesn't matter one little bit in the scheme of things. If you decided to take a sickie as a SAH mum, bad things will happen. You just can't stop being a mum if you feel like it. If a mum is sick, there is no time off. Many times me and the 3 kids have been sick, but it's business as usual between puking. You get holidays and holiday pay from a job. Holidays with kids are harder work than just staying home  It does seem endless, stretching out ahead of me. That is stressful.
I kind of resent having this role thrust upon me. Call me disgruntled. I love my kids, but I know being at work 9-5 was soooo much easier. I could switch off, relax and do fun things after I knocked off. My day ends when they fall asleep, often not until after 9pm. If we try and watch a DVD, we get interrupted by kids having nightmares at least twice.  | |
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My best friend is a stay at home mom. we both work pretty hard. just different work. I couldn't be at home with my son all day everyday. I think I'd go nuts.
I feel like I do 80% of the stuff she does plus bust my ass on the job. So I am pretty proud of myself. | |
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As far as being a mother goes, I think either way you go (working mom/stay at home mom) you've got your problems. And they balance out to be about equal what with all the pros and cons. I'm too lazy to list them all. Needless to say, the mental list I have is half the reason I don't plan on having kids. HE'S COMING AGAIN | |
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ZombieKitten said: Imago said: My job is way more stressful than any stay at home mothers (barring as Ive stated health issues or special needs). Way way more. Yeah, its a choice that I keep my job, it's not a choice how I perform it. I always have to be good at what I do or I'll get nixxed. Mothers have that choice even. They simply do. They have a host of choices I dont have so I don't really view they're tribulations any where even remotely close to mine. As I've stated the real tough jobs go to mothers who work AND take care of thier kids. SAH moms ...meh. I don't know about that Dan
totally different kinds of stresses. I know you ruled out major health issues, but it seems to me kids have always got something minor, like stomach flus or respiratory viruses. When you are on call 24 hours round the clock (and I don't know HOW you do that Ivy, and manage to work too ) you are tired. Several times a day you reach crisis point, and being tired does not help you deal with it well. Dealing with kids you LOVE and hate sometimes and feel guilty about that, by the end of the day it's an emotional rollercoaster - nobody gives you a pay rise or an appraisal. Strangers seem totally OK with judging if you are a good mother or not when your kid plays up in public It's exhausting.
A "job" you can take it or leave it. In the bigger picture, if you didn't turn up to work the next day, or the next week, aside from financial issues, really it doesn't matter one little bit in the scheme of things. If you decided to take a sickie as a SAH mum, bad things will happen. You just can't stop being a mum if you feel like it. If a mum is sick, there is no time off. Many times me and the 3 kids have been sick, but it's business as usual between puking. You get holidays and holiday pay from a job. Holidays with kids are harder work than just staying home It does seem endless, stretching out ahead of me. That is stressful.
I kind of resent having this role thrust upon me. Call me disgruntled. I love my kids, but I know being at work 9-5 was soooo much easier. I could switch off, relax and do fun things after I knocked off. My day ends when they fall asleep, often not until after 9pm. If we try and watch a DVD, we get interrupted by kids having nightmares at least twice. oh my god, Charlotte!!! Have you seen what Byron, Jana, Ivy, Carrie, and Rhonda have already done to me with regards to this? sheesh! I'm defeated already. I have no fight left in me
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ZombieKitten said: Imago said: My job is way more stressful than any stay at home mothers (barring as Ive stated health issues or special needs). Way way more. Yeah, its a choice that I keep my job, it's not a choice how I perform it. I always have to be good at what I do or I'll get nixxed. Mothers have that choice even. They simply do. They have a host of choices I dont have so I don't really view they're tribulations any where even remotely close to mine. As I've stated the real tough jobs go to mothers who work AND take care of thier kids. SAH moms ...meh. I don't know about that Dan
totally different kinds of stresses. I know you ruled out major health issues, but it seems to me kids have always got something minor, like stomach flus or respiratory viruses. When you are on call 24 hours round the clock (and I don't know HOW you do that Ivy, and manage to work too ) you are tired. Several times a day you reach crisis point, and being tired does not help you deal with it well. Dealing with kids you LOVE and hate sometimes and feel guilty about that, by the end of the day it's an emotional rollercoaster - nobody gives you a pay rise or an appraisal. Strangers seem totally OK with judging if you are a good mother or not when your kid plays up in public It's exhausting.
A "job" you can take it or leave it. In the bigger picture, if you didn't turn up to work the next day, or the next week, aside from financial issues, really it doesn't matter one little bit in the scheme of things. If you decided to take a sickie as a SAH mum, bad things will happen. You just can't stop being a mum if you feel like it. If a mum is sick, there is no time off. Many times me and the 3 kids have been sick, but it's business as usual between puking. You get holidays and holiday pay from a job. Holidays with kids are harder work than just staying home It does seem endless, stretching out ahead of me. That is stressful.
I kind of resent having this role thrust upon me. Call me disgruntled. I love my kids, but I know being at work 9-5 was soooo much easier. I could switch off, relax and do fun things after I knocked off. My day ends when they fall asleep, often not until after 9pm. If we try and watch a DVD, we get interrupted by kids having nightmares at least twice. Yes..being a mom is a never ending job. From the time they are babies until they are adults!  Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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Imago said: ZombieKitten said: I don't know about that Dan
totally different kinds of stresses. I know you ruled out major health issues, but it seems to me kids have always got something minor, like stomach flus or respiratory viruses. When you are on call 24 hours round the clock (and I don't know HOW you do that Ivy, and manage to work too ) you are tired. Several times a day you reach crisis point, and being tired does not help you deal with it well. Dealing with kids you LOVE and hate sometimes and feel guilty about that, by the end of the day it's an emotional rollercoaster - nobody gives you a pay rise or an appraisal. Strangers seem totally OK with judging if you are a good mother or not when your kid plays up in public It's exhausting.
A "job" you can take it or leave it. In the bigger picture, if you didn't turn up to work the next day, or the next week, aside from financial issues, really it doesn't matter one little bit in the scheme of things. If you decided to take a sickie as a SAH mum, bad things will happen. You just can't stop being a mum if you feel like it. If a mum is sick, there is no time off. Many times me and the 3 kids have been sick, but it's business as usual between puking. You get holidays and holiday pay from a job. Holidays with kids are harder work than just staying home It does seem endless, stretching out ahead of me. That is stressful.
I kind of resent having this role thrust upon me. Call me disgruntled. I love my kids, but I know being at work 9-5 was soooo much easier. I could switch off, relax and do fun things after I knocked off. My day ends when they fall asleep, often not until after 9pm. If we try and watch a DVD, we get interrupted by kids having nightmares at least twice. oh my god, Charlotte!!! Have you seen what Byron, Jana, Ivy, Carrie, and Rhonda have already done to me with regards to this? sheesh! I'm defeated already. I have no fight left in me
oy. haha no I had to strike while my iron was hot
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I have been a stay at home Mom off and on since my kids were born. But since 1999 I decided to stay home full time with them. But...I also decided to work from home, doing graphic design. So I juggled my kids and my job, and sometimes my job would try to get in the way of my raising my kids. But my kids have and will always come first!
I have to say, raising my kids has been the hardest job I ever had. And I wouldn't trade it in for anything! Zombie was right, you can never stop being a Mom, it's a job you will hold until the day you die. And it's just not a job that's from 9-5, it's a 24 hr, 7 days a week kind of job! You can NEVER take a break, because there is always something to fix, some place to go, some thing to do, or something to worry about. I respect Mom's who work outside the home, and I respect the Mom's who stay at home, because I have done both. I don't think it matters if you work or stay home, being a Mom or a parent is a hard ass job PERIOD! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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Imago hates mothers. In fact, he hates women. | |
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MoniGram said: I have been a stay at home Mom off and on since my kids were born. But since 1999 I decided to stay home full time with them. But...I also decided to work from home, doing graphic design. So I juggled my kids and my job, and sometimes my job would try to get in the way of my raising my kids. But my kids have and will always come first!
I have to say, raising my kids has been the hardest job I ever had. And I wouldn't trade it in for anything! Zombie was right, you can never stop being a Mom, it's a job you will hold until the day you die. And it's just not a job that's from 9-5, it's a 24 hr, 7 days a week kind of job! You can NEVER take a break, because there is always something to fix, some place to go, some thing to do, or something to worry about. I respect Mom's who work outside the home, and I respect the Mom's who stay at home, because I have done both. I don't think it matters if you work or stay home, being a Mom or a parent is a hard ass job PERIOD! what I am doing now, and it's damned near impossible | |
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JustErin said: Imago hates mothers. In fact, he hates women.
And he just confirmed that this is true via orgnote. What a guy. | |
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JustErin said: JustErin said: Imago hates mothers. In fact, he hates women.
And he just confirmed that this is true via orgnote. What a guy. he has "mommy issues" though, cut him a little slack | |
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Imago said: Well, my sister is a stay at home mom for the past 8 years.
I don't think the stresses she has to go through come even close to those working adults have to go through. I just don't. the real tough jobs are for moms who work AND take care of thier children. Sorry, if this is not a romanticized kudos to stay-at-home mothers, but I just don't think it comes close to what the corporate world can do to you--not even close. (barring health issues and special needs kids of course). I'm so happy YOU said that 
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... | |
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One4All4Ever said: Imago said: Well, my sister is a stay at home mom for the past 8 years.
I don't think the stresses she has to go through come even close to those working adults have to go through. I just don't. the real tough jobs are for moms who work AND take care of thier children. Sorry, if this is not a romanticized kudos to stay-at-home mothers, but I just don't think it comes close to what the corporate world can do to you--not even close. (barring health issues and special needs kids of course). I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... Thank you 
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One4All4Ever said: Imago said: Well, my sister is a stay at home mom for the past 8 years.
I don't think the stresses she has to go through come even close to those working adults have to go through. I just don't. the real tough jobs are for moms who work AND take care of thier children. Sorry, if this is not a romanticized kudos to stay-at-home mothers, but I just don't think it comes close to what the corporate world can do to you--not even close. (barring health issues and special needs kids of course). I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... but don't you think a lot of your pressures at work also have to do with the expectation that you have to bring home the bacon? as a parent to look after your family? | |
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ZombieKitten said: One4All4Ever said: I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... but don't you think a lot of your pressures at work also have to do with the expectation that you have to bring home the bacon? as a parent to look after your family? 
Don't answer that One4All4Ever [Edited 3/11/08 16:41pm] | |
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Imago said: One4All4Ever said: I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... Thank you
I actually like SAH moms. I'm thinking of starting a company that sells SAHMILF porn actually. | |
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ZombieKitten said: One4All4Ever said: I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... but don't you think a lot of your pressures at work also have to do with the expectation that you have to bring home the bacon? as a parent to look after your family? that's what my 'alterations' would be all about ... | |
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Imago said: ZombieKitten said: but don't you think a lot of your pressures at work also have to do with the expectation that you have to bring home the bacon? as a parent to look after your family?
Don't answer that One4All4Ever
[Edited 3/11/08 16:41pm] 
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Imago said: One4All4Ever said: I'm so happy YOU said that
with a few alterations, this would be my pov exactly ... Thank you
I actually like SAH moms. I'm thinking of starting a company that sells SAHMILF porn actually. wait, maybe my stress at work comes from the fact that all those SAHMILFs are just wandering about their houses, and I'm stuck in my cubicle while I could be ...  | |
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Byron said: Imago said: I still don't agree with you guys
I. dont. agree. Let's put it this way... I have yet to meet a parent who said "You know, this is JUST like the time I watched my nephews for a week that one summer" lol ... | |
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