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Thread started 03/10/08 4:34am

luv4u

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I Don't Know What To Do..........

Last year my cousin suffered from Anorexia. The family got her into a hospital which led to a daily out patient clinic.

She was getting involved in some missionary work overseas as well as working with the street people. Seemed she was back on track. Now she has a new love in her life. So I thought or assumed she was ok.

But..... my mom told me today that she has lost some more weight and says my cousin is anorexic again. My mom says that since my cousin is over the age of consent that she cannot force my cousin to get medical help sigh

I'm very concerned and don't know what to do.

Anyone have a family member going through this or have gone through this themselves???? It seems like an awful disease.
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Reply #1 posted 03/10/08 4:40am

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it's a cycle that continues until help is gotten.

have u watched the show intervention?

the family/friends of the person trick them to come into a room and with a professional interventionist, the person gets help.

u can find clips maybe on utube.

here is one, and then the other parts are on the side bar.

http://www.youtube.com/wa...Qa9JyRwU2U
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Reply #2 posted 03/10/08 4:46am

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luv4u said:

Last year my cousin suffered from Anorexia. The family got her into a hospital which led to a daily out patient clinic.

She was getting involved in some missionary work overseas as well as working with the street people. Seemed she was back on track. Now she has a new love in her life. So I thought or assumed she was ok.

But..... my mom told me today that she has lost some more weight and says my cousin is anorexic again. My mom says that since my cousin is over the age of consent that she cannot force my cousin to get medical help sigh

I'm very concerned and don't know what to do.

Anyone have a family member going through this or have gone through this themselves???? It seems like an awful disease.



Sorry to hear about this situation. hug I dont have a personal experience with this condition, but definitely an intervention at some point would have to take place, with someone present who can help her to save her own life. Maybe if there were someobody present who recovered? I'm thinking that her new love interest could be key if they participated.
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Reply #3 posted 03/10/08 4:53am

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hug im sorry i dont know of any person with this experience.. im sorry you have to bear this.. i'll keep your cousin in prayers
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Does your mom directly care for your cousin or are her parents around?

Most states provide for involuntary commitment, but over time the Supreme Court has vastly diminished the scope of how it can be done.

Most states do allow a 48 hour involuntary commitment period for evaluation and upon finding of a danger to self, or others, a court ordered extension can be issued.

The age of consent does not come into play as much as they seem to think in many cases.
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Reply #5 posted 03/10/08 4:55am

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Flowerz said:

hug im sorry i dont know of any person with this experience.. im sorry you have to bear this.. i'll keep your cousin in prayers



Thank you hug
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Reply #6 posted 03/10/08 4:56am

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Sorry to hear about this luv. hug I hope your cousin gets the help she needs, so she can make a full recovery.
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Mars23 said:

Does your mom directly care for your cousin or are her parents around?

Most states provide for involuntary commitment, but over time the Supreme Court has vastly diminished the scope of how it can be done.

Most states do allow a 48 hour involuntary commitment period for evaluation and upon finding of a danger to self, or others, a court ordered extension can be issued.

The age of consent does not come into play as much as they seem to think in many cases.


My cousin is in her early 20's and lives on her own. She's never known her father coz her mother broke up with him years ago before she was born. As for her mother (my mom's sister - my aunt) - she died in a motor vehicle accident back in 2002, eventually taken off life support. My parents are the closest to parents for her. Maybe the new boyfriend will notice.
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Reply #8 posted 03/10/08 5:03am

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Oh Bev sad

I don't know much about it, but I do not it can be treated successfully.
One of my best friend's older sisters had it. She was skinny when I met her, but 'normal skinny' as she was being helped at the time.

I'm sorry I can't be of much help as I know so little about it, but I DO know it can be treated. hug rose sad
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luv4u said:

Mars23 said:

Does your mom directly care for your cousin or are her parents around?

Most states provide for involuntary commitment, but over time the Supreme Court has vastly diminished the scope of how it can be done.

Most states do allow a 48 hour involuntary commitment period for evaluation and upon finding of a danger to self, or others, a court ordered extension can be issued.

The age of consent does not come into play as much as they seem to think in many cases.


My cousin is in her early 20's and lives on her own. She's never known her father coz her mother broke up with him years ago before she was born. As for her mother (my mom's sister - my aunt) - she died in a motor vehicle accident back in 2002, eventually taken off life support. My parents are the closest to parents for her. Maybe the new boyfriend will notice.



As I said, it varies from state, but don't give up. I would think your Mom could at least get her interviewed by a health professional, outside of any institution and they could help make recommendations for treatment, voluntary or not.

Good luck with it and let me know if you would like me to look at any specific state's statutes for you.
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For those of you that don't know what it is or want to read up on this awful disease here's a link I found
http://www.helpguide.org/...atment.htm
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Reply #11 posted 03/10/08 7:54am

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Maybe you could see if there are therapists there that do DBT- dialectical behavior therapy. It can be very elpful for some people. Depending on how debilitated she is right now, maybe hospitalization will help.

I dearly love someone who has this problem. He does very well for a bit and then needs to get some help for a while. He can hide it very well but we are good at spotting the signs that the problem is back.
It's a multi- faceted problem that has to be addressed from all the different angles.
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Reply #12 posted 03/10/08 8:48am

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hug I hope she gets the help she needs.
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